Marriage over don't know where to start

Pinkylouloubell

Gert - I wish you happiness and really hope it all works out for you, I think only you know deep dpwn if you can live with what your OH did and try to forgive him and get on with your lives,
how long have you been married??

I know in the past when my OH cheated on me (we are not married, but have been together for 12 years) I would have done anything to get back together and was in a totally desperate frame of mind, but just didnt care really, I just loved him so much and wanted him.

Its kind of different now though, maybe coz I am getting older IDK?
He drinks quite a bit and I have put on quite a bit of weight due to anxiety and stress.

We kind of seem to live seperate lives and are more like two housemates.

I do love him, but feel we have lost that "closeness" that we once had.

And blimey do I get upset/depressed at times, but I muddle through as we all do.

Hugs to you all and swipes a couple as coffee creams on the way (only as no one else like them of course

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scottishfreebiehunter

All the best Gertxxxxxxxxxxx hope it works out for youxxxxx
If it ever happens again though remember no second chances ,get him right out that door


Well I called him just half hour ago yes I know silly c o w :rolleyes:,I knew he would be out with here and wanted to give them a taste of there own medicine,he spoke etc etc nothing angry and what have you
I just wanted her to know that both me and my son will always be there niggling away at back of her brain.
Yes I WILL NOT DO IT AGAIN THOUGHx

gettingbetter

sfh your not a silly moooooooooooooo
your a mother good on you
kas x

scottishfreebiehunter

gettingbetter wrote: »

sfh your not a silly moooooooooooooo
your a mother good on you
kas x

cheers getting better ,I did not shout or argue just entered into a deep and meaningful with him knowing that of course it will niggle the silly moo,and will niggle very gently forever :rotfl::rotfl:
Nah who knows what crap he is telling her but she was defo in ear shot so good enough for me

Skint_Lynne

gerturdeanna wrote: »

OK - I am posting this grimacing cos I know what you are going to say...we're going to try again, please don't be angry at me!!! I know what he has done and I will never forget but I can forgive - it was a blip and I WILL NOT LET IT HAPPEN AGAIN!! He won't have a knob next time!!
I know that things have not been good between us for a longtime and I seriously hope and pray that this time round they go right!
And I've just had the best sex ever!!!
Sorry!! Had to tell you all and again I hope you aren't angry at me!!
I'll still be here everyday!! Reading and posting and if it all goes !!!! over tit again, I hope you will stil be here to support me as I am to everyone else.
Maybe I am having weak feelings but I do love him and I truly believe that he loves me!! But as we have agreed, one step at a time!!
Thanks for listening to me and I will be here still every day!!!

Good luck with everything Gert,

I know there won't be any second chances with you, but I'm sure everything will be fine!! Everyone is entitled to one mistake.

SL x

Keeping_Motivated

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

cheers getting better ,I did not shout or argue just entered into a deep and meaningful with him knowing that of course it will niggle the silly moo,and will niggle very gently forever :rotfl::rotfl:
Nah who knows what crap he is telling her but she was defo in ear shot so good enough for me

SFH you may have rung him but you didn't shout or argue as you said so you are definately moving foward... Where you think why should he miss all the carp stuff with DS and just do the fun stuff, I think its time you started reminding him of all the great points you are NOT missing out on with your DS coz at the moment I guess he thinks DS is just hard work when in actual fact he is the loser who is missing so much.
Like I said to Kizzy you will be able to sleep like a baby when the shock and hurt goes away and will always be able to look your DS in the eye as you never let him down to fulfil your own selfish needs. Your ex cannot say the same and personally I'd rather be in your position than his any day, unfortunately you have to wait until you to come through the other side to start watching him slowly get his commupence (sp) over the years to come, but his time will come.

KM x

Chip_Hazard

gerturdeanna wrote: »

OK - I am posting this grimacing cos I know what you are going to say...we're going to try again, please don't be angry at me!!! I know what he has done and I will never forget but I can forgive - it was a blip and I WILL NOT LET IT HAPPEN AGAIN!! He won't have a knob next time!!
I know that things have not been good between us for a longtime and I seriously hope and pray that this time round they go right!
And I've just had the best sex ever!!!
Sorry!! Had to tell you all and again I hope you aren't angry at me!!
I'll still be here everyday!! Reading and posting and if it all goes !!!! over tit again, I hope you will stil be here to support me as I am to everyone else.
Maybe I am having weak feelings but I do love him and I truly believe that he loves me!! But as we have agreed, one step at a time!!
Thanks for listening to me and I will be here still every day!!!

Unbelievable!

kizzykizzywizzy

Night folks another day over:D

Feeling great for Gert:j

Just spoken to SFH - she'll be fine;) she's stronger than she thinks

Will sleep well tonight, have been listening to music that makes me happy, going for coffee with my friend tomorrow afternoon, so something to look forward to, & was businesslike on the phone to him :T

So after the disaster of yesterday feeling good

See you all in the morning, thanks for everything xx

piglet6

Chip_Hazard wrote: »

Unbelievable!

Not really, Chip... Gerturdeanna still loves her OH and is willing to give him another chance and to try and work things out. She is not alone in this decision (hundreds of women in her position try again every year...and lots of them work things through ) and she deserves encouragement and support, so please don't question her decision...

Its very easy to make judgements when you are only dealing with the theoretical. In reality, life is not always so clear cut!

Piglet

tesuhoha

hi kizzy

youre doing so well and getting stronger. Not sure if having him staying the night is a good idea. It might knock you back again; he's trying to worm his way back into your affections so that you are dependent on him. He doesn't like to see you coping as others have said. Better to keep him at arms length or beyond. Also I think he likes to know what's going on with you as he's afraid of what you might do with regard to his security. Just a theory.