Marriage over don't know where to start

SPANIEL36

gerturdeanna wrote: »

I know she was only doing her job - it just made me feel like a criminal.

Cheap-n-Cheerful, I was thinking of doing just one day a week at college doing accounting. They do the same course at the evenings so may do that instead.

thats the course i'm starting on tuesday!!

Juneno

Hi Kizzy,
Sorry to see you had a bit of a step back. At least you're back on track now - don't feel stupid for being human. You're bound to have days like these and you don't need to justify to anyone how you cope and react, we'll support you and the others anyway!
I agree with basketcase - why does your MIL keep saying 'are you sure'! If it was up to you, it wouldn't have happened in the first place and it's certainly not down to you that all this fallout is happening. He should have thought about that before he dropped his keks!
I also agree with the others - you have to protect your emotional self and have a cast iron wall built around you before the moose hits dry land. He will maybe not be so glad to be with her when she starts calling the shots and he can't come running to you! Remember, relationships are all lust and humping to start! Only when that wears off do the real charcters start appearing and if his tiny brain then lights up and sees what he's lost in you and a family life, you have to be unavailable and untouchable.
I think you should try to build up a regular Friday night social circle so he sees you're not sitting at home thinking about him! Get him to babysit - they're his kids after all. And then, see what the moose thinks about that when she comes home and he's committed to regular babysitting nights!!

Keep strong girls! And if the EuroMillions come my way tomorrow, we can all sod off to the Bahamas and leave all men behind! (Sorry Chip! Unless you want to risk coming?......)

June x

scottishfreebiehunter

These people have absolutely no right at all to speak to anyone in this manner:mad:
As I told the manager today after I was in floods of tears no matter what background etc you are from we are all humans

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi SFH, try not to let them upset you, they are not worth your tears!
Not too bad a day today, my brother rang me up, he can't understand DFS, & says I'll probably be happier without him, also DD had a great 1st day at school & loved it & DS was fine once he got there.
Have kept myself busy, had a quick look around the shops on the way back from school, but nothing caught my eye, may go into town tomorrow & see if I can find a nice outfit as going out the next 2 fridays, after this one, so will get DFS to look after the kids when I do. I wish I was going out tomorrow, I really fancy a night out, I haven't been out for not just months but years! last time I went out with a friend was November 2006!! we went to London to see Evita. So am quite excited.

scrooge2008

Great to see your fighting spirit return Kizzy. Loved the link. Here's a song that always makes me want to show the world what i'm made of.

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=uVqWV5UmJPo&feature=related

Go kick some !!!! girl ...

Gloomy_Past_Bright_Future

Kizzy,

A song for a few months down the line...

(Don't let the kids hear!)

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=50CnyxuZs7c&feature=related:eek:

scottishfreebiehunter

:(:(:( any time I listen to anything just start crying ,why is it one minute you feel okay and next its all s h i t again:rolleyes:

gerturdeanna

Because thats the way its going to be for a while hun! Keep strong, and let the tears fall if needed.

scottishfreebiehunter

Its so so so so crap and I want to curl up and die pathetic I know but so true

kizzykizzywizzy

scrooge - I have sung this to myself so much lately:rotfl: :rotfl:
Keep them coming love all these inspirational songs

SFH - give me a ring hun, don't be on your own, because you're not, you've got me & everyone else here who really care about you - you are a lovely person & a great mum, we all love you, I know how you are feeling, because I was like it yesterday & today I'm ok, so tomorrow YOU will be OK, we just need to help you get through this bad day
SO RING ME - whenever I'm here for you any time night or day & I mean it;)