Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

Yes you are right I am weak & stupid, a carp wife, mother & person - I'm posting because I'm so lonely & down I want to die
I'm in a mess I don't know how to carry on - I have no family support sister on holiday, friends probably sick to death of me, as you probably all are.
I'll leave you alone

scottishfreebiehunter

Done those silly things as well,daft maybe but I love him still also,stupid moo that I am.
I know it will never ever be that way again though once in Australia I am going to look forward and decide my future and if not in this country I will start a life over there if possible.

Rikki

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Yes you are right I am weak & stupid, a carp wife, mother & person - I'm posting because I'm so lonely & down I want to die
I'm in a mess I don't know how to carry on - I have no family support sister on holiday, friends probably sick to death of me, as you probably all are.
I'll leave you alone

Now you really are being silly.

We are listening to you, thinking of ways to help, but you need to help yourself too.

scottishfreebiehunter

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Yes you are right I am weak & stupid, a carp wife, mother & person - I'm posting because I'm so lonely & down I want to die
I'm in a mess I don't know how to carry on - I have no family support sister on holiday, friends probably sick to death of me, as you probably all are.
I'll leave you alone

Right lady I will phone you later on after 8pm when all sorted here,I am not sick of you one little bit,I know how it feels to love the stupid idiots and having them so close is hard,especially when you want them to see youre children and not have them upset etc etc

(((((((((((()))))))))xxxxxxxxx for you speak sooonxxxxxxx

Pollycat

Kizzy
I hope my earlier post hasn't in any way contributed to the comments you've just made about people being sick to death of you.
We're not!

Rikki
I'm not sure that your recent comments are doing Kizzy much good, although they have obviously been made with the best of intentions.
As someone who's been in the same position as Kizzy (and if I remember your earlier posts correctly you have been), I don't think being told she's weak and stupid will have a beneficial effect.

The truth is that Kizzy is heart-broken, desperate and bewildered at how her life could have changed so much in a relatively short space of time.
I've been there too, and I've made phone calls when it would have been better not to.
Sometimes it's just impossible to hold back.

Kizzy & SFH
I've paid my taxes ever since I started work aged 17 and still pay even now I've taken early retirement.
I do not like to think that any money I pay goes to spongers, idle people who have no intention of ever working.
However, I'm more than happy to know that my taxes will go in some small way to help people who honestly need that help.
That means you two!

Oh !!!!!!! I hope that doesn't sound too condescending. I didn't meen it in that way.

robster1964

Rikki wrote: »

Now you really are being silly.

We are listening to you, thinking of ways to help, but you need to help yourself too.

Rikki, she can't help herself at the moment. She's too distraught, doesn't know where to turn. Her life as she knew it has been dessimated, and she has to pick up the pieces, but she can't yet. The grief and heartache are going to take a while to get through. But then as most of us know, it gets better! Cos then comes the anger!!! Which is a great motivator, boy will she kick some !!! then!:T

Robster xxx

Ellidee

Rikki if what you are posting is meant to be 'tough love' or whatever I feel that it is NOT helping Kizzy. Posting personal insults isn't kind or helpful IMHO.

elona

kizzy

Get yourself back here - we are all on your side and hate to see you getting hurt again and again!

The man you married is not really there any more - he is an empty shell eaten up with thoughts of the moose and how unhappy he is trying to convince himself the marriage was.

He has to convince himself the marriage was unhappy as otherwise it is obvious even to him how stupid and disloyal he has been!

Playing "happy families" is good for "him" as he does not have to see what he has done to the chidren or to you. It lets him feel his conscience is clear and lie to himself that he has not really done anything wrong!

BUT - it hurts you - and it makes both you and the children think you are a family again in the old way- then your hopes are dashed again.

Kizzy pet

How can he miss what he has thrown away if you and the family are always at his beck and call on his terms.

You all need a bit of space and he needs something I am too much of a lady to say!!!!!

No one is sick of you- we are all wishing we could help and hate to see you so unhappy.

You are worth a dozen of him although I know that does not ease the hurt.

Gentle hug

Rikki

Ellidee wrote: »

Rikki if what you are posting is meant to be 'tough love' or whatever I feel that it is NOT helping Kizzy. Posting personal insults isn't kind or helpful IMHO.

There was nothing meant to be insulting.

You can see that its going to end up being upsetting and you try and help to stop it happening. Trying to protect someone whom is feeling venerable the words sometime appear a little harsh but it is the truth as I see it and was not meant to cause upset.

You need to protect yourself and as another poster said grow balls.

robster1964

elona wrote: »

kizzy

Get yourself back here - we are all on your side and hate to see you getting hurt again and again!

The man you married is not really there any more - he is an empty shell eaten up with thoughts of the moose and how unhappy he is trying to convince himself the marriage was.

He has to convince himself the marriage was unhappy as otherwise it is obvious even to him how stupid and disloyal he has been!

Playing "happy families" is good for "him" as he does not have to see what he has done to the chidren or to you. It lets him feel his conscience is clear and lie to himself that he has not really done anything wrong!

BUT - it hurts you - and it makes both you and the children think you are a family again in the old way- then your hopes are dashed again.

Kizzy pet

How can he miss what he has thrown away if you and the family are always at his beck and call on his terms.

You all need a bit of space and he needs something I am too much of a lady to say!!!!!

No one is sick of you- we are all wishing we could help and hate to see you so unhappy.

You are worth a dozen of him although I know that does not ease the hurt.

Gentle hug

:beer: Elona, hun !!!!!!!!{hug}}}}} you said so sweetly and eloquently just what I wanted to say!

Robster xxxx