Marriage over don't know where to start

bank_of_slate

"I am still single due to not being able to get out to socialise."

After all you've been through, someone would be lucky to have you! never mind the other way round!
...Linda xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Wow Sue, how ever did you manage? You have my admiration, I just don't think I'm as strong as you are.
What kind of sad life am I going to have? I haven't been out since November 2006, we had no money, & I didn't want to, I wanted to be with our family. Now though I'm just going to be some saddo left on my own with 2 kids no-one will want, I'll never meet anyone else ( not that I want to )
I'm here today, just about managed to get them lunch, I need to go out to the bank, just can't get it together to get us out of the house.
I just feel like cr4p today, strange when I felt so strong yesterday.
I just feel constantly sick.
SIL says DH feels terrible doing this to me after all I've been through, can't feel that terrible, or he would have made more effort, starting to feel angry today too.

Skint_Lynne

I want to tell you another wee story. A friend of mine had husband trouble about the same time as me. Her outcome was not like mine, after a lot of lies and nightmares on his part, it was discovered that he had a bit of the side in Newcastle, (he was working away). he left my friend who has 2 wee girls (2 different dads), one from a marriage and the other from her 10 year relationship with him. She said to me, no one will want me, I'm some catch!! (which she is of course!!). Anyway, fast forward a couple of years, she has met a lovely guy who has 2 kids of his own, and they are very happy with their family of 2 plus 2.

As for him, he got his 20 year old pregnant (she already had a baby) and he is as miserable as sin...................

I want to tell you something else, remember that none of this is your fault and try and hold it together, I am thinking of you.

SL x

kpwll

I agree with the 'SuperSue' nametag also, well done.

Kizzy, it's like a bereavement for you, with so many stages to go thro, so many 'what-ifs' and maybes. I can only, sort of, imagine what you are going through, because I was deathly afraid that my hubby would leave when he found out about the debt, (I know it's different circumstances and it was my own fault I was in that state). I've never liked rollercoasters because of the way my stomach flew up into my throat on the way down and that was what it felt like. I'm not sorry that you're hubby is feeling terrible because he needs to suffer as well, (I'm not a very nice person at times).
You're not (nor will be) a saddo, just a young woman with a very big burden at the moment, who is doing her best for her family. I wish I could give you a hug and my shoulder to cry on for real.
Karen xx

Marky74

Hi..

There is a light at the end of the tunnel, my wife (for 3 months) was in a similar situation. Her now ex-husband had cheated on her, so she wanted a divorce.

He refused to move out or pay towards the mortgage. So she took on extra jobs. As she could not kick him out as he is on the mortgage papers.

How we met is when we both joined internet dating, met up and it went from there.

Her divorce came through and she sold the house.. and is happy with me, well i hope she is.

kpwll

Marky74, congratulations on the new marriage and I'm sure she's delighted with you.

bank_of_slate

Congrats Marky....
....Does anyone else think that the dog in Marky's avatar looks like Wordsworth out of Jamie and his magic torch?
...Linda xx

Marky74

he he...


There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. :j

I hope everyone gets there problems sorted

Skint_Lynne

I just had to show my 20 year old sister Jamie and the magic torch on you tube. Memories of yesteryear:p . She had never heard of it, (makes me feel old)!!

bank_of_slate

...Linda xx