Marriage over don't know where to start

Skint_Lynne

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

Listen to all advice Gert as tonight I feel crap to little boy crying and now have him in my bed cuddling him and what the w a ! ! er all he does is walk out door
So bleeding sad and it is hurting like hell,but well tomorrow have another appointment with solicitor and wasnt going to go after his pension for now,but today with his attitude I am going to as entitled to halfxxxxxxxxx


Kizzy when you return hope you have some good news for us or at least that you had good weekend with the kids ,all crossed for you.
Gert and all night and god blessxxxxxxx

Oh and alcohol yes well been there done that and mega depressed today

SFH,

Did you report the phonecalls? If not and you get any more, have a whistle to hand and blow into the receiver with it as hard as you can. it works a treat, you won't get anymore calls as the culprit will be deaf!!:rotfl: :T

dotstar24

Yeah I've Heard The Whistle Thing Scares The Bejesus Out Of Prank Callers

gettingbetter

hope kizzy is ok and that she had a good weekend

shf and gert and julie i wish you all the best i am thinking of yous

kas xx

gettingbetter

damn that should be sfh

opppppppppppppppppps sorry

kas xx

scottishfreebiehunter

back head wasted as soon as I see him I feel sad ,daft I know and really struggling

scottishfreebiehunter

Skint_Lynne wrote: »

SFH,

Did you report the phonecalls? If not and you get any more, have a whistle to hand and blow into the receiver with it as hard as you can. it works a treat, you won't get anymore calls as the culprit will be deaf!!:rotfl: :T

Yip and one we know is where the biatch lives and i so so want to go and kick her !!! up and down street but police told me no,the computer said noooooo:rotfl:

julie2710

trancebabe wrote: »

When I split from my first husband I put my rings back in the box and packed them up with a few other momento's from that marriage for our daughter. If she doesn't want them, then I'll look into selling them but they wont be worth much in money terms... he was a cheapskate when it came to buying things for me (not that that matters when you love someone right?!)

Jules - I read your other thread and I think you're fabulous! Have you sacked the secretary of your joint company yet? Get your SOA up ASAP and watch a load of great advice come flooding back

He has agreed to get rid of the secretary - going to give her notice tomorrow. Little Miss Practical me though - I don't want to risk the chance that she can sue the company for unfair dimissal, so he's going to make her redundant based on the fact that things are a bit quiet at the moment and the business can't support her salary! Means we'll (well our business!) will have to pay her notice and outstanding holiday. I also explained to the dopey idiot of husband that he'll have to keep his gob shut to his little mistress and never ever let on that I found out or he stands to lose his business!!! He probably has more to lose with that than me as it's his livelyhood - I have a job!!!
On the downside - not letting on that I've found out about their sordid little secret means I can't go and confront the b*t*h!! She knows me, knows I'm pregnant so how the hell can a woman do that to another woman? She also has a 2 yr old daughter - no wonder her husband left her! I know there's wouldn't be anything to be gained by confronting her other than maybe making her feel damn uncomfortable (hopefully) but I'll have to keep it all in!

I'm making some immediate easy budget cuts before I post budget and SOA. Told my neighbours today and they have been wonderful. Make me even more determined to stay where am.

scottishfreebiehunter

My neighbour very supportive alsoxxxx
Its odd when something happens the way people rally round well some.
Yes well we have to confront them and see them squirm though be careful with baby and all as do not want to make yourself ill over some cheating !!!!!!

GeorgeUK

Just take one day at a time Jules. No point in trying to do more than that right now. Try to stay focussed on the important things - your kids and your health. Any questions you can come here and ask - women are meant to lose concentration when pregnant. It's supposed to keep their minds more focussed on the baby.
(Almost got lynched when i mentioned something along thoselines at work. If someone else hadn't heard that a womans brain physically shrinks during pregnancy, i'd have been a goner).

I know there's no point in telling you not to upset yourself over this. You have every right to be upset. There was a mention quite a few pages back about putting some chilli seeds in his underwear drawer though if that makes you feel better.

Does the family know yet or are you keeping everything bottled up?
Feel free to vent here. Plenty of support and information if required.

take care
George

SuziQ

One way I differ from some of you other ladies is that I don't need a bloke to be happy. I have always been self supporting (until this year-am having health issues at the moment but hopefully an op will sort that out) I was on my own for almost 5 years after my first marriage broke up and I never worried about (what other man is going to want me' etc. I threw myself into my kids (who needed that at the time more than at any other) and I took on a course to do once they were in bed at night,got myself another qualification and made some new friends for life. I had a demanding interesting job and admittedly I didn't have a social life away from my kids-but that just didn't seem tragic then and it still doesn't now.

There is SOOOOOOOOO much more to life than looking for another man.

If it happens,please make sure that it doesn't impact negatively on your children,as they will be many times more vulnerable than they were before their parents split.

So many women sideline their children somewaht when they start a new relationship,or expect the kids to want what mum wants. Even after the time on my own I had to be very careful to consider what my children wanted too.
Since my second marriage broke up,the closeness in my relationship with my 2 oldest children has made me very aware that my relationship with my second husband made me slightly distant from them-you only have so many hours in the day etc,and if spending time with a new man you are not spending it with your children.

I have realised that I do not need a man to make me happy,or to validate me.
I can't regret my second marriage as it gave me my third child and strengthened my faith,but I do regret that my oldest children have now said that they would have been happier had I never met him. That hurts,I can't take it back and it was only worth it for the reasons I have stated.

Please ladies don't be so quick to jump back into that frying pan! You are all worth so much more than that and so are your kiddies.

If the right man is out there for you he will wait.