Marriage over don't know where to start

gerturdeanna

Not too sure I have done him a favour actuallyseen as he is now in intenstive care after trying to top himself with 70 pills- !!!!!! have I done! He is apparently conscious - feel so so so so so so bad now.

gettingbetter

gert

well done to you for telling him

its sad what he has done but you are not responsible for that
he would have done it whoever told him
kas xx

trancebabe

:eek: Oh My Gosh!

What terrible news...!

What's done is done Hun - you didn't give him the pills and at some point he would have found out, because people who cheat are always found out sooner or later.

I'm sorry he's feeling so very desperate that he felt the need to take an overdose but hopefully he'll find the strength to move forward from this soon. It sounds like he's in the best place and his and your ex's should be the ones to feel bad!

Just you take care of you and yours

gerturdeanna

When my ex told me, I did ask him if he thought I was to blame cos I never cheated on him and I didn't give him the pills, my ex agreed and said that if its anyones fault its his and the girls fault. I'm just so sorry to everyone, me, my kids, the other girls ex, etc thats its come to this. If only people had been honest and truthful, none of these would have happened.
My ex said that when he found out last night that I had told the other bloke what had happened, he was angry but not with me - angry with himself. He said today that he never wanted to hurt anyone - hasn't done a very good job then has he!!

bunty109

Gert, you didn't give him the pills. That's totally his decision and in spite of how awful your ex and his ex have been, they didn't give him the pills either.

How on earth the pair of them thought that they could carry on with you knowing what they were up to and expect for her OH not to find out is beyond me. It was always going to happen that he found out, if not now from you, then later from someone else.

Has your ex gone today?

Just take care of yourself huns and please don't feel responsible for what this man has done: it was his decision.

boddy

Gert I have been reading this thread for quite a while now and supporting you all.
You are not responsible for him taking the pills. He is responsible for his own actions. He took them because of what she has done to him. In time to come he will be pleased he found out now and not later. Take care and keep safe.

Hope Kizzy is ok.

gerturdeanna

He has gone, he's took most of his stuff and told the kids he has to go away for a while...think he said that to not hurt them as much rather than thinking he is actually only going away for a short time. Cos he is gone...I don't want anything to do with him anymore unless it has to do with the kids. I hate him for what he has done to my family and to the other parties concerned. He isn't even remoresful!!
I hate him - if he had only been truthful from the start none of this would have happen. We could have tried to get over it - not a chance now. I hope she was worth it, cos he's now lost everything.

Skint_Lynne

Not your fault Gert,

As others have said, they would have been found out anyway. I think that should make people think before they have their 'bit of fun', there are always consequences to things, some more serious than others.

Please try and not feel bad, these 2 should have kept themselves to themselves and this might not have happened.

SL x

trancebabe

He's probably angry at himself because he got caught! At no point did he and his tart think about anyone but themselves, and now they've been bitten on the butt by their own actions.

Now he's gone you can start to get some peace in your life, the kids will be fine because you're going to make sure they are and you're right, he's lost everything that should be important to him.

I know this seems a way off, and I know I've said this before, but there's going to be a time when you really don't care about this guy either way. You wont care what he's thinking, doing or planning and you wont even hate him, he'll just be a person from your past and you'll be completely indifferent to him.

Baby steps... one day at a time hun...

trancebabe

should have said...

... did he leave anything that you can sell ??