Marriage over don't know where to start

Keeping_Motivated

If he feels grumpy how on earth does he think you are feeling? Who does he think he is, does he think the world revolves around him subconsciously?

SuziQ

Kizzy I don't know why you sweated over the forms. The CTC is done over the phone,also Income support,then you go to council to sort CTB out-this is how I did it,they prepare the forms,they agree an appointment with you and you take your proof in (they give you a list such as proof of income,bank accounts etc) then you sign and they do the rest. Not complicated at all when you let them take the strain!

dotstar24

if he's gonna have any sort of interaction with your children he needs to pull himself together for the sake of his kids. they don't need his bad moods on their shoulders, as well as the break up. they're kids they need stability. even if he has to put on a performance worthy of an oscar... he's got to do it for the kids, and TO YOU infront of the kids. u guys wanna tear strips off each other in private thats fine. like buttercup said kids never forget

my mum and dad are still together after 26 yrs of marriage. i can count the amount of really bad arguements they had on one hand (lucky i know) but i remember every one. especially the one where they mentioned divorce.

dotstar24

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

What goes around etc etc and I cannot wait until mine is squirming and he has crabs or something
sorry very angry tonight though ds settled and trying to bite my tongue
Its odd he was never like that as i said and said he would never etc now turned into a complete loser

lol!!! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

kassytbag

Guys, i just wanted to say thanks for all the support - today has been one of the worst - i decided to drive over to his office and confront him and other woman - just wanted to look her in the eyes - boy was he mad - but i kept my dignity - went into the board room sat opposite both of them and asked them how they slept at night - he lied thru his teeth to her telling her that we hadnt slept together for months and kept saying i was clearly nuts and needs urgent psychiatric help - she fell for it hook line and sinker - clearly they are madly in love and me and the kids and her husband and son are just a problem to be solved and moved on from - could not beleive his complete lack of emotion to me - but seeing how he lied thru his teeth has made me realise that i am better off without him - after 22 years together 20 married i dont know this man at all - then he comes round tonight to go through finances and blows a gasket about me getting a solicitor - i really want to hang him out to dry - am completely exhuasted now but know i will be awake around 4 again - i hope he sleeps well!

Fidget21

Kassy, I just want to send you a hug as you sound like you need it.

You stay strong, get yourself a solicitor and take him for all you can, you deserve it after being married for so long, being cheated on and then him having the audacity to treat you like this.

Take care. xx

Fidget21

does he think the world revolves around him

Doesn't this describe all men??:rotfl:

PS. Hear, Hear to everything KM has said today, saved me writing too much as it's all been said for me!

dotstar24

[then he comes round tonight to go through finances and blows a gasket about me getting a solicitor [/quote]

because he know's he's in the wrong and he'll lose everything. 20 yrs of marriage and HE CHEATS?! get a good solicitor and take him to the cleaners!!

kizzykizzywizzy

Well done Kassy for being so strong today, it's the most awful thing to find the man you've loved for all those years is a complete banker!
It feels as if your whole life together was a lie.
At least your husband is consistant in being a complete beep, it helps you to get over things quicker.
For example today ex being a beep - hate him
Sunday lovely hugged him & told I loved him ( under the influence of wine! )
I don't know whether I'm coming or going.
Hope you get everything you deserve money & happiness wise

Buttercup.x

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

For example today ex being a beep - hate him
Sunday lovely hugged him & told I loved him ( under the influence of wine! )
I don't know whether I'm coming or going.
Hope you get everything you deserve money & happiness wise

Also well done to you. he seems like he is messing with your head one day you will look back on this and think wow why did i feel so much hurt and pain over him he is selfish and i am not, i looked after the house our kids while he had time to go away and think about his life..