Marriage over don't know where to start

gratefulone

SuziQ wrote: »

Despite this I still have more peace of mind without him than I ever had with him and all his lies!

Think this is really important. Don't let anyone else disturb your own peace of mind and self-esteem. Take your power back ladies - you were born for so much more than this.

tesuhoha

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Kassy, I can't believe he's ringing you up moaning about the situation HE is in after HIM making the decision to cheat on you.
What about YOU?, you had no choice in this matter, horrible self centered man, well I'm glad he's unhappy, you should be too, so rather than you were thinking of him all cosied up in his flat, he actually feels cooped up! & I expect the excitement has gone from his new relationship, now the cat's out of the bag.
Don't waste another moment thinking about him, just do what's best for you & your children.
Tes, I've let him go a couple of times now, then he started sending conflicting signals again. This time I'm going to let him go & not look out for any signals etc.

Thats right kizzy, let him go mentally, as well as physically and the situation will resolve itself one way or the other. It has to be for good that you let go unless he makes nothing less than a proposition for you being a couple again, then you can think about it but for no other reason.

gerturdeanna

How has everyone been today?
I've been crappy all day - came on today whilst doing the food shopping with the nightmares!!! DS sat on the toilet and snapped the seat clean off, text him to get on on his way home and he never did.
I've had a migraine this PM(probably brought on by two screaming loves!!), so was lay on the bed trying to rest, there was a phone call for me and instead of asking them to call back, he woke me up - I never did that to him. Then I made roast dinner, and now he's lay on his bed!!
So tonight, I'm feeling fat, bloated, spotty and greasy! Lovely combination - think a glass of wine whilst watching easties and then bed.

Hell1

Hi Kizzy!:j

You do sound a lot stronger over the last few days. Would it be possible for you to get out of the Alton Towers thing? - He could take them on his own and suffer both the good and the bad...

Many other people have given you advice about how to handle him, whether or not to sleep with him, ect. I won't presume to do that, you will do what you feel is right. However, from reading your posts - not just on this thread! - you are clearly a lovely person, and you deserve better.

good luck|!

hell

PS all the others who are also having probs, take care...

gerturdeanna

Two glasses of wine tonight and I'm now off to bed - will catch up tomorrow

scottishfreebiehunter

night gertixxxxxxxxx


well today had docs again,trudged up town as he took care,anyway need to lose weight so will do me no harm.
Trying to tidy up house as he the rat is coming to see ds tomorrow and not doing it for him,more for me as do not want him thinking he has made me so ill cannot do anything,so basically to stick two fingers up at him.
He was on phone to ds tonight for 2 mins very big of hin.


Oh and have removed the rest of his clothing and put it in black bags:eek:

Keeping_Motivated

Night Gert xx

SFH - Has your son been calmer today?

scottishfreebiehunter

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Night Gert xx

SFH - Has your son been calmer today?

A litle KM ,I told oh he was not to call him late as to upsetting etc etc as if he is with the biatch he is even worse ,ds went for a bath now watching friends again:rolleyes:bit of an obsession with it ,so will be lights out soon.
I am not mentioning the rat will see if he appears tomorrow

Hope you are well

Trying to be tougher for ds

xx

kizzykizzywizzy

Hell1 wrote: »

Hi Kizzy!:j

You do sound a lot stronger over the last few days. Would it be possible for you to get out of the Alton Towers thing? - He could take them on his own and suffer both the good and the bad...

Many other people have given you advice about how to handle him, whether or not to sleep with him, ect. I won't presume to do that, you will do what you feel is right. However, from reading your posts - not just on this thread! - you are clearly a lovely person, and you deserve better.

good luck|!

hell

PS all the others who are also having probs, take care...

HELL NO I WILL NOT BE SLEEPING WITH HIM! Was the wine & desperation speaking!
REALLY PEED OFF TODAY, RANG cab TO SEE IF THEY WOULD HELP ME WITH FORMS THEY SAID IT'S TOO TIME CONSUMING!!
Sorry for shouting - caps lock on!
So rang ex, who said do you want me to go to council at lunchtime & see if anyone will help there?, so I said if you want to which he replied Well do you or don't you?:mad: So I said yes, then he said I'll only probably get some idiot on the counter blah blah blah, so I said don't bother I'll ring them myself!
So going in Thursday, they are going to help me.
Went around a friends house today, had a really nice relaxing time, she has 4 kids & they argue obviously, but the atmosphere was so nice, no telling them off all the time & shouting at them.
Had to rush back because Ex coming around & all he did was moan & shout at the kids, who played him up rotten, because they have no respect for him, as they have seen him treat me so badly & speak to me so badly.
I told him not to bother coming if he was going to behave like that.
he apologised ( for what it's worth ) & said he'd make it up to us at the weekend, which I said I am very happy to cancel.
I am getting my hair cut & dyed on friday - FOR ME can't wait.
I really feel I've turned the corner, I said when he left, I thought you were happy now, he said I am happy, I said yes you really look it!!
Because he is so miserable & screwed up, you can't believe it, whereas I feel positively relieved today that I don't have to put up with him being a moody beep anymore.
Looking forward to a bright & happy future

dotstar24

kassytbag wrote: »

Morning all - walk yesterday was good except near the end my oh rang and like a fool i answered it - he was ranting and raving about now having to live in a tiny flat, had no money would have to work forever to sort it all out and how i am ok cos im still in the house and the kids are ok with me - it just completley knocked me down again - i am on anti depressants and tranquilisers (diazepam) at the mo and when he goes off on one it just sends me down again - i couldnt sleep last night - when i did i woke at 5am and just for a second i felt warm and alright and then it hit me that it was really over andi was alone - cant stop crying and shaking - have to go to cab to sort out benefits and take daughter to get stuff for uni - can hardly put one foot in front of other - feel like is there any point in suffering all this pain

jesus christ. tell him next time he wants to call you it should be for the children only. that u don't care about him 'suffering', as you have suffered enough. u are not a doormat you are a fully grown, independant woman who can stand on her own two feet, and doesn't need her ex telling her how 'cushie' her life is....because you already KNOW how good it is. Rise above it mate, rise above it.