Marriage over don't know where to start

kassytbag

I am really trying to let go but eight weeks ago i thought i had a lovely marriage and family and now it is all blown apart - the thought of him, my husband with this other woman is killing me - i am still in love with the man i married not the man now - he didnt want me to see a solicitor said he would sort it all out but even tho i am depressed i am not that stupid - my solicitor is brill, im just glad shes on my side!!!!!

kassytbag

i also want to slow everything down because at the moment i live in a beautiful house and my kids love it here - i want to keep some stability before i have to move to a grotty area while he will be raking it in after divorce - i feel i have done nothing wrong except love him - why should my kids and i be pushed out so he can set up home with someone else? - i hope i can get stronger and one day meet a nice guy and be treated the way i deserve to be!!!!!!!

Keeping_Motivated

Good for you re the solicitor, what a weasle trying to manipulate you like that, as if you would trust him now!?!

Was it only 8 weeks ago, you poor thing its so early days.

Have you seen/confronted the woman? Just wondering as of yet the others on this thread haven't barring SFH who left her OH's Moose a message.

KM x

Keeping_Motivated

Kassy can't you stay in the house until the youngest is out of education, does he not earn a good wage?

kassytbag

i have left her a disgusting message on her mobile phone but dont want to disgrace myself by hitting her - if i met her in the street i would go for her so im hoping to god i dont - he does earn a good wage but it is taken up on our big mortgage so how he is planning to pay for us and his new flat etc i dont know - he has already swopped our mortgage onto interest only to help himself out - this other woman has a son who is 14 as well - i cant beleive he wanted to rush me through everything telling me he needed his own space etc when really it was just to sort it all out with the least amount of hassle - i am so glad i found out the truth - this is the first time i have talked about it on here and it is so heartening to know im not alone - i am just so sorry that other people are feeling the same pain

Keeping_Motivated

Kassy stick around, its quiet tonight but you will be most welcome and the people on here are all lovely and will help you as much as they can. Kizzy, Gert and SFH are all talking to each other on the phone and posting on here and although they still have to go through the pain alone it still helps to have someone to talk it through with or 'post' to. Come on here and rant, rave, cry or share a moment of progress whenever you like I know the 'girls' will not mind.

KM x

scottishfreebiehunter

kassytbag wrote: »

i have left her a disgusting message on her mobile phone but dont want to disgrace myself by hitting her - if i met her in the street i would go for her so im hoping to god i dont - he does earn a good wage but it is taken up on our big mortgage so how he is planning to pay for us and his new flat etc i dont know - he has already swopped our mortgage onto interest only to help himself out - this other woman has a son who is 14 as well - i cant beleive he wanted to rush me through everything telling me he needed his own space etc when really it was just to sort it all out with the least amount of hassle - i am so glad i found out the truth - this is the first time i have talked about it on here and it is so heartening to know im not alone - i am just so sorry that other people are feeling the same pain

Kassy I feel the same,I got the tart on the phone and she could say nothing to me,but god forbid she ever gets in my way,nearly got train down a few weeks ago though glad I did not as always something they have against you,one day I will get them back not sure how yet though .
We are all very similiar where we did not really excpect it,good marriage or so we thought etc.
And there is no shame in loving him as you had many years together as I still do,though know now there is no turning back,but we had many happy years together

scottishfreebiehunter

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Kassy stick around, its quiet tonight but you will be most welcome and the people on here are all lovely and will help you as much as they can. Kizzy, Gert and SFH are all talking to each other on the phone and posting on here and although they still have to go through the pain alone it still helps to have someone to talk it through with or 'post' to. Come on here and rant, rave, cry or share a moment of progress whenever you like I know the 'girls' will not mind.

KM x

Indeed:T:T:T as if I did not have you lovely people then god knows where or what I would have done by now.
My father keeps telling me to pull myself together and none of my family have been near,yes mum in oz etc bit other than them have me and ds all day every day but we will get there
x

Aurora_emma

Sorry to hear of your troubles Kassy and glad you have found this forum.. It does help to talk and know you aren't alone in what you are going through (is so sad it seems so common Are there actually any nice guys out there left? )

scottishfreebiehunter

emandrich wrote: »

Sorry to hear of your troubles Kassy and glad you have found this forum.. It does help to talk and know you aren't alone in what you are going through (is so sad it seems so common Are there actually any nice guys out there left? )

starting to actually think no at the moment as my dh was an excellent dad and husband and now thrown it all away,oh god time to cry again silly moo that I am