Marriage over don't know where to start

greeniegirl

hey kizzy,

it's good to see that you've become angry over things. It shows that the whole process is moving on somewhat and your eyes are open to things you didn't notice.I'm delighted to see it cos it shows you know you're worth more and you're mad that he wont deliver on his promises.

The amazing thing about anger is it can motivate you to do great things if used right. I wouldn't waste it by giving out about him to his workmate, save the giving out for people who wont react differently towards him. At the end of the day, he is still the children's dad and along the line you want a civil understanding between the two of you. What do they say, there's nothing worse than being talked about only not being talked about at all!! wouldn't it sicken him to hear that you all had a lovely day and he wasn't mentioned once!!

sorry to hear about your friend's baby Linda, ya it does make you think what things are all about.

kizzykizzywizzy

Well he's text me
him did I have a good day any plans for tomorrow
me not yet
him do you want to go to kite festival
me can do

Then nothing...........

So rang him & said stop playing silly burgers texting me just ring ( I expect he's saving his credit to ring the moose )
So going tomorrow, & don't worry he's not going to wrap me around his little finger anymore. I can't say I'm over him, but it's over iyswim
Yes, I could let him take them on his own, but then I'm on my own, so he'd have a better time than me.
I've just tried to eat a reduced ready meal, you know how small they are & I could eat a quarter of it, was nice though!
I know I need to eat as feel quite weak & starting to feel really achey (sp)
One thing I did do today was buy a bottle of wine, just had some with my dinner, still got half of the glass left, very yummy.
Need a relax after last night with DS being sick, I was really tired last night too & then I kept getting woken up!
Hope everyone else has had a nice day

kizzykizzywizzy

Gloomy_Past_Bright_Future wrote: »

No Kizzy, you didn't text back yesterday, it is annoying him that you have control, he is trying to take it back... Trust me!

DO NOT TEXT OR RING HIM - KEEP CONTROL.

Oh bottoms, I just did!!!

Mind you I left it a good hour before I text him back & didn't say anything about our day out

kizzykizzywizzy

greeniegirl wrote: »

hey kizzy,

it's good to see that you've become angry over things. It shows that the whole process is moving on somewhat and your eyes are open to things you didn't notice.I'm delighted to see it cos it shows you know you're worth more and you're mad that he wont deliver on his promises.

The amazing thing about anger is it can motivate you to do great things if used right. I wouldn't waste it by giving out about him to his workmate, save the giving out for people who wont react differently towards him. At the end of the day, he is still the children's dad and along the line you want a civil understanding between the two of you. What do they say, there's nothing worse than being talked about only not being talked about at all!! wouldn't it sicken him to hear that you all had a lovely day and he wasn't mentioned once!!

sorry to hear about your friend's baby Linda, ya it does make you think what things are all about.

Yes, I suppose I'm mad that he led me to believe I had a chance, though I know he should've been begging me, I just didn't want to lose him.
I would love him back as he was, but don't like the person he's become.

I can't say I'm not lonely, because I am, but I've been a real family person for so long, will take time to pick up with friends & start the "single" life again.
Though Monday is a start BBQ at a friends, she's single too & has gone through the same thing

gerturdeanna

I told mine this morning I was going out at 5pm, am still waiting for him to get home!!Its his turn to cook for kids so guess what...they're having MaccyD's again!! Good job I made them something proper for lunch and loads of fruit, just in case!! grrr!!
Am out tonight and all day tomorrow so may not get on in the meantime, chins up everyone!!

kizzykizzywizzy

He's just text me to say short circuit is on later as DD loves that film, I promise I won't reply to that one!!;)

kizzykizzywizzy

gerturdeanna wrote: »

I told mine this morning I was going out at 5pm, am still waiting for him to get home!!Its his turn to cook for kids so guess what...they're having MaccyD's again!! Good job I made them something proper for lunch and loads of fruit, just in case!! grrr!!
Am out tonight and all day tomorrow so may not get on in the meantime, chins up everyone!!

Well I'd go crazy if he was late, how dare he!!
He's not a single man - he's thier father & he has resposibilities!
get the rolling pin out:rotfl:

gerturdeanna

I know I went mental at him on the phone tellng he has got responisbilities etc etc.
He's just called again and DS was crying down the phone at him, saying where are you daddy, I want my tea, I'm starving!! How bad is that!! I hope that pulls at his heart stings cos it is at mine!! He also just apologise and said he does need to be more responsible. He just asked me if he can got out tomorrow night?!?! !!!!!!!! I'm not his keeper!! I'm only concerned that he's here for the kids when they need him. I'm really not arsed if he wants to go of out with whoever, whenever. As long as we get the money that we need, he can spend he rest on booze!!! Am so annoyed!!
Anyway, he'll be here soon and then I'm off out.
Byes!!

gerturdeanna

Again, he's just phoned to say he's on the motorway - are we going to get a running commentary??!?! I hope he gets pulled over for using his phone and then gets breahalised!! hehe

greeniegirl

Have a nice eve Gert, how annoying is that though..hopefully he'll cop on a bit.

course you're going to feel lonely kizzy, little steps in the right direction and you'lll get there. someone gave me this book called "it's called a breakup cos it's broken" when i broke up with my last bf. it made me laugh out loud. I would offer to send it onto you but I burnt it once i'd him out of my system...

i don't see why you should not text him, you need open communication about the children. it's not like you're fooling yourself - you know ye are living separate lives.. If you started ignoring his calls or not replying, then he could ignore you when you really need him. Who needs all the hassle anyway?