Marriage over don't know where to start

elona

Linda


I 'm so sorry about the news. It does put everything else in the shade.

Kizzy and others

When telling people things - after they ask - it is even more effective if you say "I feel disloyal talking about him ...but ..."

It makes it obvious what a decent person you are , although they already know this!!!


I'd want to stick his face in the crab pool!:eek:

Aurora_emma

oh no Linda, that is so sad

Kizzy - I actually felt much better once I had a single bank account (We took him off one of our joint one in the end - the one my wages are being paid into). I am lucky that he is still covering the household bills with his (mortgage, phone, insurances etc), but I do feel like I am holding my breath until the day he says that he can no longer afford it and will have to give me less. This means I am saving like mad right now so I can still give the kids a great Christmas. I am lucky that I work from home and I love my job - not the best paid job in the world, but it has really kept me sane and given me something else to focus on when I can't escape my thoughts .
Quidco might give you cashback on opening a new bank account - or I have just had an email through about getting £50 for recommending a friend (the friend and the recommender gets it) - I am happy to recommend you if you like?

Have a lovely Saturday everyone - Crabbing sounds fun The boys are at their dad's today so I will just work, maybe potter in the garden if the weather stays nice and if I am really desperate tackle some housework:eek:

space_rider

Hi Kizzy. Not read all of it and can`t as my daughter is begging me to go out.

I can`t go into too much detail as my exhusband does read MSE. You need to distance yourself from him for now for your own good as he`s playing with your emotions. Set up a proper time for him to have the children and stick to it so everyone knows where they are. My children were 11, 8 and 5 when we split and they went to their Dad`s Thu to Sun. This meant that I could work all the hours I could cram in when they were at their Dads and then just work 9-2.30 when I had them. Our story would make all the soaps look tame in comparison to the drama we had but thankfully after about a year we burnt out and within 2 years we were divorced and civil to each other. We have always gone to school meetings together and I even invited him to my 40th. That was because I knew that his partner wouldn`t be happy about it and that it would cause arguments between them but hey she deserved it. They split up about a year ago and he now says the grass wasn`t greener on the other side. We still get on great together which is good for our children and I am happy to have him in the house when he comes to pick up whichever of the girls is going to stay with him. We recently celebrated our 3rd daughter getting fantastic GCSE`s which is great as she is the one that had her Mum and Dad together for the least and had to put up with the b`hatch that was his partner for too much of her childhood.

Big hugs and stay strong for yourself and your children. Remember the best revenge will be getting on with your own life and you being happy.

Aurora_emma

robster1964 wrote: »

Emandrich, lol, you made me giggle with the granny quote!! Sorry you have been through this god damn awful heartache aswell, but you have obviously still got your sense of humour. Good on you, babe....

I am going to bed now with a heavy heart. Thinking of you all going through this emotional hell. I know the nights are the worst, but like emandrich said, take little steps, get as much help emotionally to cope as you can, cos ultimately you will survive and come out stronger and in control.

Emandrich, please don't give up on long term relationships. What's the alternative, one night stands? I don't think so....... lady!

Relationships are what make life worth living. It's the natural order, just cos there are a few bad apples, try not to let it shape the rest of your future.

There are wonderful men out there, just waiting for wonderful women like you guys...

Good Night, God Bless and I still stick by what I said about Facebook Kizzy, it's a great feel good environment and I bet a million people on here are already on it. (There goes me exaggerating again!) Lol...

Robster xx

Right now I am concentrating on the lovely relationhips with my friends and family/kids. I feel too battered and bruised to let a man in for a while. When you believe and trust someone unconditionally, you start to doubt your instincts in other men. Maybe when the time is right I might meet someone, but right now the thought is YUCK!

Facebook is ace - I love it for playing scrabble

kizzykizzywizzy

bank_of_slate wrote: »

I know, I'm in complete shock to be honest, just can't think today.
...Linda xx

Linda, we lost a baby, he died shortly after he was born at 24 weeks, so I know I didn't bond with him outside the womb, but I had already had him kicking & all the excitement of having a baby, had planned his future etc.
When our Son died, a lot of people didn't know what to say & started ignoring us, so what I'd say to you, is to keep in touch with them & realise the Dad is hurting too, because I also recieved flowers just to me, which wasn't nice either.
I know being you, after being so brilliant supporting us girlies, you already know this, but just wanted to say - & you take care too, it affects everyone around too:o

bank_of_slate

Thanks Kizzy, that means a lot.
...Linda xx

kpwll

It must be the season for tosspot wasters (DD having 'fun' with her partner), the best revenge all of you ladies can have is to have a very happy, loving and secure future without them, however long it takes.
Kizzy, the regrets that you will have are that you tried your best but it didn't work, the regrets he will have are that he threw someone and something wonderful away.
Thinking of you and wishing you all well. xxxx

beanielou

Lnda~Thinking of you & your friend.

kizzykizzywizzy

Took the kids crabbing - didn't catch one crab, took them to the park as well, bumped into one of his friends, yet another shocked person!
Forgot to take my phone with me today came home no texts & one missed call, witheld number!
So he probably hasn't even bothered to ring today.
Shows just how much he really cares about his children.

Gloomy_Past_Bright_Future

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

"Forgot to take my phone with me today came home no texts & one missed call, witheld number!
So he probably hasn't even bothered to ring today.
Shows just how much he really cares about his children".

No Kizzy, you didn't text back yesterday, it is annoying him that you have control, he is trying to take it back... Trust me!

DO NOT TEXT OR RING HIM - KEEP CONTROL.