Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Thanks guys, he's here now, he's cleaned up cat poo & fixed bike !!

:rotfl::Tthats a girl treat him like the care taker;)

swadey1

Hi Kizzy my heart goes out to you hun. Not been following this thread just happened upon it.
I was with my ex for 17 years and 3 children from the age of 15. We went through 100's of ups and downs broke up a few times and HE had affairs. In the end he left me with a 4 month old baby after having an affair with his best mates wife whilst I was 5 months gone. She chose her husband who was loaded!!!
Best thing girl is to act like you have got your head round it and are sorted.
I know you don't want to believe it but in my experience once a cheater always a cheater. If they don't have the morals once they just don't have them. Not nice I know but and I know, I've been there and you'd probably forgive him anything, but, DOES HE REALLY DESERVE YOU?
Believe in yourself you are something very special and no-one takes that away unless you give them permission to either by word or action.
Stay strong. I didn't think I would ever find anyone again who would love me turned out I had em fighting to.LOL
Truth is there is more than one person out there for you. Find the best one.
Good luck big, huge, hugs

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi he left ages ago, I took the kids out, that's why I haven't been on.
He fixed the bike then DD said can we go on a bike ride, which as in a built up area, means a small drive, so I said yes I'll take you this afternoon, so he put the bikes in the car for me, I think he thought I'd invite him along, I didn't!
He said when are you going, I said we're waiting for you to go, so he said I'll go now then, I said OK & off he went. He said what about tomorrow ( kite festival ) I said No, he said Ok I'll ring you tomorrow about another day, I just said if you want & that was that.
Took the kids out on thier bikes & to the park, saw a friend down there & had a chat, she can't believe it, always thought he was a nice bloke!! Well so did I!
Anyway, feeling OK & unlike Gert & SFH, I'm going to get this divorce through ASAP, no messing anymore

gerturdeanna

Re the divorce - if thats what you really want to do, then do it. Its your decision in the end.

bank_of_slate

Good for you Kiz!
You owe him nothing!
...Linda xx

BartGirl

Hi Kizzy
I have read this thread from start to finish - took me a few days mind!..I am astonished.
At home much you have been thru; and how much you're taking on at the same time..
Wish I could be as strong as you are. Hang in there..you've done really well so far.

BG

Fidget21

Brilliant Kizzy! You've put the barriers up and now he who will see who is the one in control.

You are such an amazingly strong person and I just have so much admiration for you.

kizzykizzywizzy

Not feeling so strong underneath!

Skint_Lynne

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Hi he left ages ago, I took the kids out, that's why I haven't been on.
He fixed the bike then DD said can we go on a bike ride, which as in a built up area, means a small drive, so I said yes I'll take you this afternoon, so he put the bikes in the car for me, I think he thought I'd invite him along, I didn't!
He said when are you going, I said we're waiting for you to go, so he said I'll go now then, I said OK & off he went. He said what about tomorrow ( kite festival ) I said No, he said Ok I'll ring you tomorrow about another day, I just said if you want & that was that.
Took the kids out on thier bikes & to the park, saw a friend down there & had a chat, she can't believe it, always thought he was a nice bloke!! Well so did I!
Anyway, feeling OK & unlike Gert & SFH, I'm going to get this divorce through ASAP, no messing anymore

I'm glad you are in determined mode. You'll get stronger with every day that passes. Hold your head up high, you've done nothing wrong.

SL x

scottishfreebiehunter

I probably should not be saying this though please do not be to hasty over divorce though if you are 100% sure then go for it,though who knows what could happen few months down line,though only if you want it.