Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi I'm back - been yacking to gert too!!
I'll be alright, but do feel really sad, especialy as the hand holding was so nice, I was so excited I was tingling inside. I really thought we'd be ok.
I only found out because my DD said daddy i want you to come home & he said I'm not!
So I said is that your answer then & he said yes, he's not very clever at telling people bad news is he?
Well loads of forms to get filled in tomorrow, so will have to start on that.
Then I will get on with enjoying the rest of my life with my lovely children & he can be a "visiting dad" because it will never be the same as having a dad that gets up for them if they cry out in the night, or make them thier breakfast at the weekends etc, this is his choice not mine & he will have to live with it.
I just need to look after the children & make sure they don't get too hurt by all of this.

Keeping_Motivated

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Hi I'm back - been yacking to gert too!!
I'll be alright, but do feel really sad, especialy as the hand holding was so nice, I was so excited I was tingling inside. I really thought we'd be ok.
I only found out because my DD said daddy i want you to come home & he said I'm not!
So I said is that your answer then & he said yes, he's not very clever at telling people bad news is he?
Well loads of forms to get filled in tomorrow, so will have to start on that.
Then I will get on with enjoying the rest of my life with my lovely children & he can be a "visiting dad" because it will never be the same as having a dad that gets up for them if they cry out in the night, or make them thier breakfast at the weekends etc, this is his choice not mine & he will have to live with it.
I just need to look after the children & make sure they don't get too hurt by all of this.

:A :A :A :A :A :A

KM x

Buffythedebtslayer

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Hi I'm back - been yacking to gert too!!
I'll be alright, but do feel really sad, especialy as the hand holding was so nice, I was so excited I was tingling inside. I really thought we'd be ok.
I only found out because my DD said daddy i want you to come home & he said I'm not!
So I said is that your answer then & he said yes, he's not very clever at telling people bad news is he?
Well loads of forms to get filled in tomorrow, so will have to start on that.
Then I will get on with enjoying the rest of my life with my lovely children & he can be a "visiting dad" because it will never be the same as having a dad that gets up for them if they cry out in the night, or make them thier breakfast at the weekends etc, this is his choice not mine & he will have to live with it.
I just need to look after the children & make sure they don't get too hurt by all of this.

exactly right, the "man" is a beyond help. glad you posted hon hope you can sleep

we are all here right behind you xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Keeping_Motivated

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

I only found out because my DD said daddy i want you to come home & he said I'm not!
So I said is that your answer then & he said yes, he's not very clever at telling people bad news is he?

:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

I hope you told him you might love him but his vile discard of yours and your/his DD's feelings is making it easier for you to dislike him!!! Would you even treat a stranger so coldly? No!

Considering what he has done he has had it easy up to now ( for your right reasons) but his reality is going to sink in now and I hope it hurts.

KM x

Wol2

Kizzy sweetheart

So sorry this is what it has become.

You have behaved with so much dignity....doesn;t sound much now...but in the future will be worth much much more to you.

Hugs Hun

What a blow.....but now you know.

So......Dont be afraid to ask for help from now on.....whatever that might be. Emotional or practical.......It's a hard lesson to learn this "asking" ...but the peeps on here are able and willing....without wanting anything in return. (and just be aware that the "we" may not have posted much on your thread......)

This Board and the peeps on it has been a real eye opener for me during the last 9 months....trust the guys and gals on here.....and your own instincts.....you will not be let down.

Much love to your and your dear children. Hang on in there ..you really are and exce0tional and special lady!!

Wol2
xxx

Skint_Lynne

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Hi I'm back - been yacking to gert too!!
I'll be alright, but do feel really sad, especialy as the hand holding was so nice, I was so excited I was tingling inside. I really thought we'd be ok.
I only found out because my DD said daddy i want you to come home & he said I'm not!
So I said is that your answer then & he said yes, he's not very clever at telling people bad news is he?
Well loads of forms to get filled in tomorrow, so will have to start on that.
Then I will get on with enjoying the rest of my life with my lovely children & he can be a "visiting dad" because it will never be the same as having a dad that gets up for them if they cry out in the night, or make them thier breakfast at the weekends etc, this is his choice not mine & he will have to live with it.
I just need to look after the children & make sure they don't get too hurt by all of this.

Hiya,

sorry I've not posted for a couple of days, have been busy with job interviews etc, but have been reading. Well, well, he has chosen she man.

First off, do one last thing for him, book him into the opticians. Then, you get on with your life and make sure you get everything you are entitled to, and don't feel guilty about any of it, he made this situation, you didn't. This time next year, this will all be a distant memory and you will be sat at home with your new lovely man, and you will see a sad broken figure looking through the window at what was once his life, (after she man informs him she has a new model).

I'm telling you, that's what will happen.

Take care all you girls,

SL x

gettingbetter

kizzy

was so sorry to hear the news, please still keep being strong, your never sent more than you can handle
am not very good with words but am thinking of you and gertie and shf and the others too
kas xx

kizzykizzywizzy

no I won't feel guilty at all
, he had so many chances to stay a family man

purplepatch

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Hi I'm back - been yacking to gert too!!
I'll be alright, but do feel really sad, especialy as the hand holding was so nice, I was so excited I was tingling inside. I really thought we'd be ok.
I only found out because my DD said daddy i want you to come home & he said I'm not!
So I said is that your answer then & he said yes, he's not very clever at telling people bad news is he?
Well loads of forms to get filled in tomorrow, so will have to start on that.
Then I will get on with enjoying the rest of my life with my lovely children & he can be a "visiting dad" because it will never be the same as having a dad that gets up for them if they cry out in the night, or make them thier breakfast at the weekends etc, this is his choice not mine & he will have to live with it.
I just need to look after the children & make sure they don't get too hurt by all of this.

So very very sorry Kizzy. His loss.
xx

kizzykizzywizzy

night everyone thanks x