Marriage over don't know where to start

Ellidee

Aww Kizzy hunny words seem so inadequate. Can't say anything that hasn't already been said but sending you a big (((((HUG))))). XX

littleangels3

Ahh kizzy i cant believe it men really are barstewards ay, he shouldnt of got your hopes up like that, anyway you need to stay positive for kids and make sure youre eating.. big hugs feel free to pm me if ya like xxxx

Fidget21

Kizzy

I'm so sorry.

Once again I thought he would come through for you, once again he hasn't. I can only imagine how awful you must be feeling, but now is the time to take this hurt and anger and direct it where it is deserved...at him. You must not blame yourself for any of this, you didn't do anything that justifies him going off with a moose while he was away and since he has been home you have done everything possible to save your marriage, including putting your heart on the line. For your sake it has to stop now.

He cannot keep blowing hot and cold, he has made his choice (for the record he must be a blind, stupid idiot to have made the choice he has) and he has to live with it. You, on the other hand have to stop living your life for him and live for yourself and your children. I know you can do it.

You will move on from this moment and make a wonderful life for yourself and your kids, I'm sure I'm not speaking out of turn when I say that everybody on here has faith in you to do so.

I've run out of words.

Fidge. xx

lotties_mum

Hi Kizzy, The way he has strung you along the last couple of days would be worse to me than the affair. I had the feeling he was hedging his bets, but would not have posted that before now. You will now have to make decisions without him and don't let him play happy families, I'd not stop him seeing the kids, but make sure you do your own thing while he's got them. However bad you feel you've done you very best and given him every opportunity to come back. It's your life now. As for her, If he won't be seeing her until April then chances are it won't come to anything it would be easy for her to say she wants to be with him when she's stuck on a ship for so long. By then you WILL have moved on so much that he will be the loser yet again.

Ellidee

:T Fab post Fidget :A

gerturdeanna

I second again what every one else has said and I just hope you are okay Kizzy - you've not posted tonight and I'm worried!

lotties_mum

Also about the mice you keep getting, How do you feel about getting a cat? I don't know if you are a cat lover but if you are it would be something nice for the kids,a large decision for you without anything to do with him, It will get rid of the mice and be better company for you.

SuziQ

Aww Kizzy I am so sorry. I didn't post after you said you were going to fight to get him back as I felt he may be just 'flirting' with you and testing the water. The fact he didn't immediately jump at your offer to have him back made me think he was still hoping for a future with the other woman-who should be ashamed of herelf,a traitor to all women!

I know you love him,but you need to get him off that pedestal now-what he has done to you and your children is cruel,deceitful and hateful.You need to let go now and start the grieving process. It's v v hard-but at least once you know where you stand you can make positive step to secure a future for yourself and your kids.

Don't forget if he is setting up with this other woman (and I use that word reluctantly for her)she will make him fight his corner to get what she sees is 'rightly his' so you need to follow your solicitors' advice word for word.

You have maintained your dignity through this and behaved impeccably-and you can look your childen in the eyes when they are older and tell them,you tried literally everything to try to keep their Daddy at home!

scottishfreebiehunter

she has been on phone yacking xx

lotties_mum

sfh Has she been yacking to you and is she ok? and are you ok?