Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

I know this is going to sound harsh though get an appointment on at solicitor next week and get things moving.
More fool me I still love my oh though we have to take controlxxx

tried to call you are engaged speak soonxx

Rikki

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

this is it my oh comes here to see ds and very very hard

It makes it a lot harder I know. Maybe if you set the days and times he see ds, then you are prepared.

Keeping_Motivated

Awe I literally feel sick for you.

This is all too much to take in now for you but you did EVERYTHING you could to try and save your marriage so in that respect you should have no regrets.

I wish I could fast forward for you because I know he will regret this once you have picked yourself up and moved on.

You have found so much strength this far and you will find more once tonights reality sinks in.

Have you got anyone who can be with you tonight?

KM x

belfastgirl23

Oh Kizzy I'm so sorry to hear this...

But I know from your posts that in the end you will come out of this better than him. You have your self respect and your children and the knowledge that at base you're a good person. And good things will happen to you. Don't forget the law of karma, what goes around comes around.

And hard as it is now you have to start building a wall around your heart. You have to distance yourself from him or he will keep on hurting you. You have to be determined to not look for signs. You'll only crucify yourself sadly...I'd say look hard at Robster's advice above when you feel strong enough...you have to start taking control. It is hard but believe me it helps a LOT...

This is the worst bit. Gradually it will start to feel better....

and we wouldn't all be posting here if you didn't sound like a fantastic person. You are valuable and important and you deserve better than this. Do not forget this!

scottishfreebiehunter

I feel slightly better after being to solicitor and giving the b i t c h a piece of my mind yes not ideal but it helped mexxx

gerturdeanna

Oh Kizzy, I am so so sorry - I know you were hoping it would go the other way!! Have a good drink and a good cry tonight and then tomorow you can wake up renewed and ready to go forward to the future with you and the kids. It sounds hard but f him!! You deserve and will get better!!

scottishfreebiehunter

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

It's a no goer I'm afraid, I don't know what is going on in his mind, he said he's planning to be with her & that he didn't say they'd finished !!!!!!! He did!!!
I'm devastated, but that's it now, he's strung me along & given me hope.
My daughter said hold mummys hand in toys r us & he did, what sort of signal do you think that gave me?
Then as he went he has the cheek to say, shall I still come tomorrow?
So I've been sobbing my heart out, & I hope he is too

and having the cheek to hold youre hand and then do that dirty dirty wrotten ******!!

yes he has to see the kids but you cannot be treated like this as not a nice feeling
I sat there tonight for my ds but now he will not see him until next week due to work ,but trying to be strong for ds .

scottishfreebiehunter

gerturdeanna wrote: »

Oh Kizzy, I am so so sorry - I know you were hoping it would go the other way!! Have a good drink and a good cry tonight and then tomorow you can wake up renewed and ready to go forward to the future with you and the kids. It sounds hard but f him!! You deserve and will get better!!

we will have hard times yes but we will get there ,yes things will remind us of them especially when they are seeing kids,but we will get there
right crying now going to get glass of wine

gerturdeanna

SFH - Kizzy Dry your tears!!!!! WE ARE STRONG INDEPENDANT WOMEN WHO WILL AND CAN LOOK AFTER THEIRSELVES AND THEIR OFFSPRING!!! COME ON - LETS DO IT!!! Don't mean to preach or lecture cos I had my bad moment last night - but have woken up refreshed, renewed and ready to be happy whatever happens!!

Rage_in_Eden

Hi Kizzy (I'm back off holiday now). Well the conniving, sneaky, dental flosser, merchant banker of a weasel............... big hugs to you and, well, i can't think of anything vile enough quite frankly.......

SFH - hang in there (and I don't blame you leaving the message either - the trollop...)

Gert - "step away from the wine ma'am"

and I had been hoping it would have all settled down and everyone would be on an even keel - pants.........