Marriage over don't know where to start

gilly41

Hi
I have been reading this post and I was hoping that today would bring a good outcome for you Kizzy----I am really sorry to hear this and hope you will find the strength and courage to move forward. I just wanted to briefly tell you a tale which may not help now but in months to come you may find it some comfort.
When i met my husband(second husband i might add and a lovely bloke that is 100 times better than my ex!!) some 15 years ago his wife had just left him. She had been seeing someone behind his back whilst he worked to give her everything she wanted. She brought this bloke home whilst he was on night shift and their young son was sleeping in the next room.
Anyhow, suffice to say the marriage ended, despite my husband pleading and begging her and her saying she wasnt sure etc etc. She then went on to marry this bloke and they had a child together.In the meantime, hubby meets me and he says it was the best thing she did leaving him. When she got wind that he was seeing me, she stopped him seeing his son(long story and not really too relevant so i wont go in to it all).She made our lives very difficult as she wouldnt let him see his son, and she was constantly pushing for more maintenance. Anyhow, fast forward 7 years and her hubby leaves her. By now she had had a child to him and their son was then 16 years old and hadnt seen his dad for 7 years. She called round at our house(hey this is totally unbelievable i know!!!) and said to hubbie that she was now on her own and if things between us(we had been married 3 years then and together for nearly 7!!!) werent ok she would HAVE HIM BACK. Soooo who had the last laugh!!
I hope you can see what i am getting at. You WILL BE OK. YOU WILL MEET A LOVELY MAN and life will be good. OH on the other hand will probably end up like my husbands ex.
A sad lonely person.
His ex now is on her own ---working full time and a single mum to her young daughter. So what goes around comes around----dont forget that!!!
Take care hunny xxxx

pamril1

Hi Kizzy,
I have been following your thread for some time now but haven't posted.
I just wanted to say I am so sorry to hear that things haven't worked out. He is missing out on being with an amazing indididual an he needs his head testing.

My sister is currently going through a similar situation and we as a family are extremely concerned about her.
She never eats, drinks copious amounts to dull the pain. Her mind is constantly focused on what her husband is upto and who he is with.
It's a complicated story but basically she found out he had at least 3 affairs (that she knows of) She is still trying to save her marriage.
He blows hot and cold constantly and in my opinion he is stringing her along and messing with her head and heart (he isn't a nice person) but it's her life and she will not listen to any advice. I have asked her to come on here and speak to you lovely folks but as far as she's concerned he'll come good eventually so why bother . I just hate to see her pining away for him only to be kicked to the kerb whenever he feels fit.
For years we have thought he has been mentally abusing her, he is a very manipulative man.
What can I do to help her???

gerturdeanna

Anyone want to join me in gatecrashing a wedding reception!! I've got the details of the [EMAIL="sl@gs"]sl@gs[/EMAIL] reception!! hehe. Also know her facebook profile - anyone want a laugh - PM me and I'll give you the details!!hehe

scottishfreebiehunter

gerturdeanna wrote: »

SFH - Kizzy Dry your tears!!!!! WE ARE STRONG INDEPENDANT WOMEN WHO WILL AND CAN LOOK AFTER THEIRSELVES AND THEIR OFFSPRING!!! COME ON - LETS DO IT!!! Don't mean to preach or lecture cos I had my bad moment last night - but have woken up refreshed, renewed and ready to be happy whatever happens!!

:T:T:Tglad you are feeling that way todayxxxxx

I am just a bit scared he doesnt put any money in bank tomorrow though 99% sure he will for my ds and i have bills to pay also

Rage_in_Eden

ooooh can I make a placard????? I like placards .......... we could do a Fathers for Justice type thing and abseil down the outside of the building :rotfl: "Honk if you demand satisfaction"!!!

scottishfreebiehunter

Rage_in_Eden wrote: »

ooooh can I make a placard????? I like placards .......... we could do a Fathers for Justice type thing and abseil down the outside of the building :rotfl: "Honk if you demand satisfaction"!!!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:do not give me any ideas as already planning what to do to oh and the witch with posters etc:o:rotfl:

gerturdeanna

How about smacking them over their heads and then sticking them right way up where the sun don't shine!! hehe

Buffythedebtslayer

Oh Kizzy I do not believe this is happening.

I am so sorry and angry.

Oh God. I hate him, on your behalf I bloody hate him stupid weak little p***k

Get to a solicitor in the morning, put your claims in and take him for all you can.

theren't aren't words.

well there are but I can't write them here.

oh and at this point I would be phone she man too. and if her oh doesn;t know let him know.

xxxxxx

lyric_grace

gerturdeanna wrote: »

Anyone want to join me in gatecrashing a wedding reception!! I've got the details of the sl@gs reception!! hehe. Also know her facebook profile - anyone want a laugh - PM me and I'll give you the details!!hehe

I'm not sure I'm into crashing a reception:eek: but I'll have a laugh at facebook:rotfl: ! I can't seem to PM you though, can you PM me??

mickey_mouse

KWW -I am so sorry . Gentle hugs