Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

gerturdeanna wrote: »

Don't wory about the night times SFH - It'll get better- great that you are p and about doing stuff during the day!!
I called my SIL today whose getting married at end of august to his brother. He is going but I'm not. Just felt like I needed to get my side of the story accross before he goes and tells a pack of lies!! She had a small idea of what was going on but not all, so I told her!! That'll get round the family quicker than flies on poo!! hehe. But his mum phones him soon to see what he's playing at!!
Been at my mums all morning - they have just got back from France - I got a huge bottle of Bacardi and he did have a bottle of JD but they aren't giving it to him now!! hehe

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It is hard for us gerti but as you say we will get there.
I have been getting nusiance calls on phone so got that changed though mobile has been happening since it started also ,so now will have to do that also
It is so obvious where it is coming from

tudorfan22

SFH - when i broke up with my g1t of an ex i made a sort of 'bucket list' a list of all the things i wanted to do ages ago but couldnt cos i was of him - i originally said if i were ever single then i would be a spy or a lap dancer - well wehn i eventually got made single - not my decision at all - i realised i would never ever be a spy or lap dancer, so instead i replaced my unrealistic dreams with things i could actually do and did do. in the end i did tons of stuff id never thought of before - i applied for TV games shows which was the most fun ever!! i went on last minute holidays with the girls and went parasending and jet skiing, i went paintballing - all these things made me feel like wasnt completely over and gave me a 2nd wind to keep going. fair enough some are not exactly DFW but i figure i would weigh up the cost with the suicidal feeling i woke up with and decided id rather have the debt!

i still keep the list 5 years on to remind me that i am actually a go getting dynamic worth while person, even if this month ive only actually been to the zoo, but what they hey, i bl00dy enjoy the zoo!!! so well done me!!

good luck all, it will get better!

tudorfan22

ps i also find redecorating helps, it gives you that achievment feeling and reclaims the space as YOURS AND YOURS ALONE! #..long to reign over it, god save the wronged-wives-and-girlfriends-whose-husbands-dont-know-whats-good-for-them!!!!!....#

not so catchy as the nat anthem, maybe ive been watching too much olympics!

tudorfan22

pros for being single - you can fart as loud as you like and no one is there to tell you its not ladylike - believe me i miss the good old days of my own dawn chorus!!! OH pulls a face now if even a delicate burp rears its head ( have to wait for the car journey to work to let rip!

crack a window open!

Rikki

tudorfan22 wrote: »

pros for being single - you can fart as loud as you like and no one is there to tell you its not ladylike - believe me i miss the good old days of my own dawn chorus!!! OH pulls a face now if even a delicate burp rears its head ( have to wait for the car journey to work to let rip!

crack a window open!

:shocked: I'm shocked. :rotfl:

There are things you certainly can do when your single. Wearing your scruffy clothes all day, just doing what you want to do. Pure bliss. :cool:

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louiser123

just popped in to see if there is any news,

so afternoon all!!

kimlisa66

God I hate men.....well some of them

My Ex has just turned up unnanounced, with the pretence of seeing if there were any jobs needing doing round the house ( he is bored and wants to know what im doing more like) and because I asked him to let me know if he was coming, he started to throw a wobbly.

He kicked my kitchen bin completely shattering it, and slammed the doors to the conservatory. He is such an ****rsehole. This is the man who was having a fling with his best mate's wife, but proceeded to blame everyone and eveything for his mistfortune at being asked to leave. What a complete loser.

Sorry, rant over

K

Buffythedebtslayer

Do not apologise. what a scumbag. I hope he has gone now. and you are ok.

I am really mad on your behalf who the hell does he think he is?

Rikki

My ex has not stepped inside my front door since the day he packed his bags and left. That's the way I wanted it and even after all these years he still will never step inside this house.
He left me in debt, two young children, a large mortgage and all the bills and never paid a penny. He doesn't deserve a nice word from me.

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi there
Well text didn't come, was on my way to friends & phone rang, stopped as thought it was him, without checking, rang him & it wasn't him :wall:
I asked how he was & he asked me, then i said have you had chance to think? He said, I need a bit more time if that's ok. I said yes he said I'll text or ring you later, which he has text me to ask if we'd had a nice day & I said yes etc.
Then soon after he's just rung me to say sorry about being grumpy yesterday & to tell me about what he did last night, (went around his friends, but he was going out to a concert, so sat with his lodger & fell asleep on the sofa )
Might not sound exciting, but he hasn't been telling me anything about what's been going on.
He said he'll text me again later too, so quite promising & he's going around his mates again tonight, probably to talk ( the only person he is talking to ) as he's in tonight. As I've said before, I used to go to school with his friend & he knows me very well so fingers crossed.
He also said he'll be around tomorrow after work & make DD some cheesy mash as she loves it.
He sounded a lot brighter & also suggested we go to a kite festival & a dog show that are on b hol w/end, so I'm quite happy;)
Hope everyone else hasn't had too bad a day, had a good chinwag with my friend, felt very restless being away from the computer!! & the phone, but glad I got out.