Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks star-x I feel really ok tonight, yesterday I felt awful, I now have a small bit of hope to cling to.
This is one of the worst things I've ever been through, I never appreciated what my sister has been going through until now. She used to ring me at all hours, saying she wanted to die, she worried me to death, but I know exactly how she felt now.
She is still going through the divorce, but has met a lovely man & is really happy, though she says she still would've prefered her old life back, worts & all

kizzykizzywizzy

star-X wrote: »

Ok Kizzy, im just worried about it eating you up, its just not that easy to forgive something that is so recent and raw and am worried about you, and you sfh, i echo phoning the samaritans, they are open 24hours, please give them a call, they wont be judgemental atall. Thinking of you both. Sfh, i dont know if you remember a meditation link i put up, i really think that will do you good righ tthis moment, might sound silly but i can assure you that youll have 21 minutes of peace which i think your mind needs at this moment. If you google free secret garden meditation it will come up, id never of believed anyone if they said meditation would work in times like this, but i know from experience it does and it will give your head a break, trust me. Good luck to you both. Thinking of you both xxxx

Oh my god just followed this link I can't keep my eyes open, it really works!
I'm going to bed
Thanks all

scottishfreebiehunter

I am going to try and get some sleep also night all and thanksxx

Keeping_Motivated

Sleep well all xx

piglet6

Hi Kizzy

Since posting initially with sympathy, I have been lurking on this thread as I have not really known what to say...

However, apart from wishing you all the best (and if that means getting back with OH, then I hope you get to do this on YOUR terms...;)), I have been reading the thread and something my great aunt (now no longer with us, but she would have been 92 this year and had hidden wisdom!) used to say keeps surfacing in my mind as I read (and this applies to any wives whose husbands have "done the dirty" on them...), so I thought I would post it:

"When a husband marries his mistress, he creates a vacancy..."

Perhaps something that all "femme fatales" would do well to bear in mind - after all, they can't pretend they didn't know what he was like when they "acquired" their man...so it should come as no surprise if they, too, are "traded in" a few years down the line... :rolleyes:

Kizzy, I send you and your children lots of hugs for your future happiness, and hope that this situation can be happily resolved for all of you.

Piglet
x

gettingbetter

kizzy
i wish you all the best and hope things work out the way you want
the same for everyone else, this thread brought tears to me
kas xx

gerturdeanna

SFH - How are you feeling today? I second the thought that you must talk to someone ie Samaritans or similar. I emailed them a while back and they do respond and ask about you and how you are coping.
I'm not sure if I would take mine back - he has hurt me more than he would ever know and the sad thing is that he doesn't sem to care. The only way we communicate at the moment is via notes in the kitchen. What kind of a life is that? Personally, the best for us I think is if he lives, be it for a little while, or forever. We both need to know what we want and right now, neither of us do.

scottishfreebiehunter

woke up feeling really down and want him to see sense but it will not happen,it is as if he wants a single life and able to do what he wants and fit our ds in whenever,yes he works long shifts but should have thought of that

gerturdeanna

I've just phoned mine to see if we are going to Relate tonight cos I wil either need to cancel it or pay for it and he replied, I don't think there is any point do you? So at least I know where we stand now!! He doesn't give a monkeys and don't think he ever will. So long A R S E W I P E!!

kizzykizzywizzy

Hi sfh, you'll have a lot of time to yourself today with DS at school, can you pop & see a friend or do something to keep yourself busy?
This is going to be a long day for me too, although I am going around to see my friend, the kids are best friends with her children, so should be a nice day.
He is not coming to see the kids tonight, so the evening is going to be long, unless of course he decides we need to talk sooner rather than later.
Gert, I hope you manage to decide what it is you both want, I don't think I've really ever wanted anything but to be with my husband, obviously that all stems on his decision.