Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

Now sitting with tears streaming down face

scottishfreebiehunter

so hard today and do not think i can do this no more

kizzykizzywizzy

Oh sfh, I really know how you are feeling, I have hope today, but so many times I've had my hope shattered & the realisation that the man you've loved so much & had 3 babies with ( 2 children surviving ) is going to be out of your life is just too enormous to take.
I know you'd try again, but does he know that?
The thing is with me whilst I was angry & putting in digs, I wasn't attractive to him, by being my normal self & being calm, we have been able to take the kids out together & have some nice times.
Does he know that you still love him? & how hurt you are, has he appologised even?

Obviously if your husband is stupid enough to give you up, that's his loss, but that doesn't help you when you've got DS & yourself to look after.
I could scream men are so frustrating sometimes

greeniegirl

u poor pet sfh,
you're bound to have your off moments, tis all part of the process. you've had a long and stressful day.
hope you're not comparing yourself to her, don't ok! if he can't appreciate you and choses to sod off with someone like that, then his loss and your gain..


things will turn full circle, just make sure you look after yourself while they do. i think of you, kizzy and the other women here every day and i admire your strength. chin up now and look forward to tomorrow.good night

Keeping_Motivated

SFH phone someone you NEED to talk. Even it is is the Samaritans you need to talk to someone please.

KM x

kizzykizzywizzy

sfh - you've got my number - any time;)

greeniegirl

ya do sfh, you are human and carrying a big burden. i know being online is supportive but nothing lik the human interaction, i'll say a little prayer for you tonight

scottishfreebiehunter

kizzykizzywizzy wrote: »

Oh sfh, I really know how you are feeling, I have hope today, but so many times I've had my hope shattered & the realisation that the man you've loved so much & had 3 babies with ( 2 children surviving ) is going to be out of your life is just too enormous to take.
I know you'd try again, but does he know that?
The thing is with me whilst I was angry & putting in digs, I wasn't attractive to him, by being my normal self & being calm, we have been able to take the kids out together & have some nice times.
Does he know that you still love him? & how hurt you are, has he appologised even?

Obviously if your husband is stupid enough to give you up, that's his loss, but that doesn't help you when you've got DS & yourself to look after.
I could scream men are so frustrating sometimes

yes told him how i feel though have to hold it together for ds and maybe one day he will see sense if not then will build another life for ds

scottishfreebiehunter

greeniegirl wrote: »

u poor pet sfh,
you're bound to have your off moments, tis all part of the process. you've had a long and stressful day.
hope you're not comparing yourself to her, don't ok! if he can't appreciate you and choses to sod off with someone like that, then his loss and your gain..


things will turn full circle, just make sure you look after yourself while they do. i think of you, kizzy and the other women here every day and i admire your strength. chin up now and look forward to tomorrow.good night

thats the thing she aint no oil painting and i want to slap the living day lights out of her:o

star-X_2

Kizzy, im so pleased that you are feeling a bit more hopeful, and i seriously hope that things go your way. What i am worried about though, is that he isnt really showing any remorse for this, i may be wrong. He has treated you appalingly, and even though you have said you wont bring anything up, its going to eat away at you, believe me. You have to have a chat and its the way he has been and what he has done that has to be talked about. Its tough really if he doesnt want to talk, he owes you a proper explanation and a cast iron guarantee that it wont happen again. For the last few pages it comes across to me that you are blmaing yourself, ie, being moody as of your horrors over the last year, having to look after the kids etc, YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME, it is him that has caused all of this hurt, he shouldve talked to you, and he should talk to you now. You musnt allow him to get away with this scott free, i dont mean revenge, but he HAS to know he has hurt you and that there is no way in this world that he will ever get another chance if he ever does anything like that again, YOU ARE WORTH SOOOO MUCH MORE, one mistake can be dealt with but no more, your are worth so much more. Thinking of you hunny, hope things go the way you want, but even though you have said you wont mention it, it has to be talked about, hurtful as it is, you deserve an explanation, please dont beg him to come back, make him beg you, all you need to do is be a little more unavailable, youve started the ball rolling and it sounds to me like its working, but it isnt fair on you or the kids that he can do as he pleases when he feels like it, and then be able t ocome back like nothing has happened. Good luck xxx