Marriage over don't know where to start

cazziebo

Kizzy - what a turmoil you must be feeling. You are so incredibly brave coping with all this - and for pouring out all the honesty in your heart. I know you want to get back together - and I honestly honestly hope you do. Being a single parent isn't easy, and if you can get over this blip then it may well make you a much stronger unit.

BUT - and I've thought about whether to say this or not - make sure you are still looking out for yourself and your family. your story echoes mine so much. I heard so often it was finished with the other woman, he wanted to come back, he still loved me, he wouldn't throw away what we had, I was such a great person. He chose her in the end while me and my two children were strung along waiting on him to make up his mind. Looking back I wish I'd not been such a doormat and taken a bit of control.

But that's my story and you're living yours and I hope it ends differently.I do hope he has finished it all for good and realises what he's losing. You are remarkable, and deserve much better treatment than this. But please look after yourself.

justme123_3

Hi KIZZY keeping my fingers crossed for you
Jo x

justme123_3

Just to say your are a truely amazing woman hope he realises (spelling) that take care Jo x

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks everyone, I'm very scared it will go the other way, so won't keep on about it, but as I'm sure someone posted earlier, I couldn't just let it be over without telling him how I feel.
I am 100% positive I won't mention it, I've sworn on my childrens lives!
Only good thing is he didn't say no again.He said we'll talk about it.
Though my sister said, what did he say about loving the moose, I said i didn't ask & I won't.

lyric_grace

Hi kizzy,
I'm one of those lurker people (thats not meant to sound seedy or scary) it's just that I've been keeping up with your posts since the start of the thread and checking in on you every day. I've been thinking of you each day and wishing you to keep strong through this. I really hope things work out for you. I know it's going to be hard waiting until Thursday but keep strong. You have alot of people with their fingers crossed for you. Lyric x

scottishfreebiehunter

Kizzy all crossed for you alsoxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I was going to call you earlier but feeling pretty down as my life turned upside down also and one minute okay one minute not,you are in my thoughts and so hope it turns out the way you want it to xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Gerti stay strong and hopefully we will have happiness soonxx

kizzykizzywizzy

sfh - you can call me anytime, I'm exactly the same down one minute hopeful the next, I'm glad he was there for your DS, but I know sometimes how stressful it is to have them in the house when you have so much resentment built up.
I'm glad you did so brilliantly & controlled yourself, you are a brilliant strong wonderful person, who loves her DS very much, I just hope things work out for you.

Gert - you are begining to sound like me, who wants to give in lightly, if you love someone, there's no point playing games, & with us, it may not happen, but I've told him straight.
Are you sure you don't want to join my club now:rotfl:

supersavershal

Im glad you told him how you feel Kizzy and I hope it all works out for you.You had to tell him, I agree with not playing games.I told my OH years ago I will never play games, I say how I feel and what I want then you cant kick yourself for not saying it later on and everyone knows where they stand.
Good luck with Thursday, after 21 yrs you have to fight for your marriage.
If it all goes well, put it behind you, leave the past in the past and move forward to a new chapter in your lives, it might even bring you closer.

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks supers
I really hope it goes my way, & yes it could help us in the long run, I won't ever take him for granted again & I definately would make sure that we talked more & appreciated each other more.
This is so scary, but I feel that he really is thinking about us getting back, but feels he's done too much to hurt me, especially when he went through his nasty phase. I have to make him see that I can forgive that.
I know it's not the same, but I've always wondered how people forgive someone that has murdered someone they love, I think I know now, if you don't forgive, it eats away at you & you never get over it, the affair part of this is nothing to me now. It's just me & him now & whether he wants to try

scottishfreebiehunter

I agree Kizzy we all think we know what we would do in this situation etc though if my oh walked back in here begging forgivness I would try again,but I know that aint going to happen so now i will try and get on with life as hard as it is going to be and be happy when he spends time with ds as do not want more upset for him as he loves his daddy so much.
I still believe until he met this s l u t he had no notion of anything but well who knows
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