Marriage over don't know where to start

kizzykizzywizzy

Thanks Taxi, you know from the £20,00 in a year thread how much I've missed him & how awful it's been for me & how much I wanted him back. I feel better at the moment him not being here, I'm just worried what's being said. Also a police car pulled up earlier & I thought they were going to knock on the door & say he'd done something stupid, I'm so worried about him. I've told the children he's been called into work, they keep asking when Daddy's coming home. I might ring in a minute to see what's happening

Keeping_Motivated

Hi Kizzy I've also come across your posts in the past about how much you miss your OH so I am truly sorry you are having to face this...

On your last post you said I might ring in a minute and see what is going on, its up to you but I wouldn't. Tell the children he has to work late and they'll see him tomorrow. He will come back when he is ready as you said he took no uniform and in my opinion I think you should go quiet while he is at his sisters talking and leave them to it. I know its hard but at least you can vent on here?

As for wanting to jump on him, I'm sure that will still happen, many people still do even when they are splitting up.

Take care
KM x

Buffythedebtslayer

was hoping you'd post today Kizzy, been thinking about you a lot. Its awful waiting for someone to make decisions, without his head sorted to some extent you are waiting around.

It comes down to being practical again I guess. occupy that brain and those hands. He sounds so unhappy, I just wonder if its work, perhaps something happened?

please keep writing back, even tho I have no experience of this sort of thing I have read your posts and I really don't think you deserve this hon. you always sound so lovely.


I am e baying. even though I have crashed the computer. so I will be here all night!!!

love and hugs

Buffyxxxxxxx

taxi73

Please try and resist phoning ..I know it's hard.Your SIL or DH will probably be in contact shortly (maybe after the kiddies have gone to bed)..I know you really missed him.We cannot possibly pre guess what he's thinking as we don't know him like you do.Keep strong and I'm sure you'll soon find out what's happening xx

Skint_Lynne

Hi Kizzy,

Did you resist fom contacting them? I really hope you did. I know it's hard, I used to start dialing the number but would always hang up. The best thing to do is to leave them to their conversation, your SIL just might find out what is the matter with him. Then you can take it from there.

Glad you got the wee ones their dinner and that you don't have to work tomorrow. Try and get them settled and then have a shower and get the jammies on. Get yourself a nice tea, coffee or juice and try and relax, with a book, TV or on here, anything to keep you occupied. If you waken up thru the night, just switch the tv on until you nod off again, that's what I do if I waken up. Everything will come out in the wash, just wait and see.

SL xx

Bunnyinthelights

Oh hunny.
I dont have a words of wisdom-been going thru marriage !!!!!!£ as well.

We're here for you x

kizzykizzywizzy

Here goes - I did ring my SIL, he had left & just as I got on the phone to her he came in the front door, all she had chance to say was he's going to speak to you, but she couldn't see any change.
So he comes in, he's drunk, not badly, but enough!
He sat in with the kids & plays with them for a bit, didn't even acknowledge me when I said hello - so worse than before.
SIL rang him & said have you spoken to her yet?? He said I'm going to - we went upstairs & instead of being nice he pointed his finger at me & said I've been a slave to you all my life.
I said please go & how dare you be so nasty to me & how dare you come home drunk & do this.
We have told the kids he's working away, for one, he was very emotional as he'd been drinking & another, I told him once he tells them - that is it.
My mum & dad used to tell me they were getting divorced every week!! & lasted almost 50 years until she died! & it was awful being little being asked who you want to live with.
Not sure about the holiday, will play it by ear.
As he left he turned around & hugged me so hard & kissed me on the head & said I'm so sorry. I didn't say anything.
Rang SIL to tell her he's on his way, she was surprised he was leaving, & that he spoke to me the way he did, she says he was going to just have a talk to me

Snaggles

Oh hun, it must be so hard dealing with such mixed signals. I'm not sure what to say really, but it sounds as though you are doing the best you possibly can in the circumstances, by protecting the children from it all as much as you can.

Bunnyinthelights

Was he driving?

kizzykizzywizzy

No, he walked there & back, stayed to pack & walked back again with his case. With the dramatic line " This is going to be the longest walk of my life"