Single and in debt.

Buffythedebtslayer

hello,

well I had lunch on my own on Tuesday, but that was in Burger King, so doesn't really count. I went out for a drink tonight with my Best friend (who is fab and amazing) and made eye contact with a very VERY cute guy but I bottled it and went to have dinner..... tomorrow I am off to the library, so will have coffee alone at the new coffee shop!

i'd like to get married I 'd like to belong to some one's family and to someone.

sad eh.

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

i'd like to get married I 'd like to belong to some one's family and to someone.

sad eh.

Not at all, it's what we all want! You just have to keep telling yourself that it will happen, because it will. Can you think of any reason why it shouldn't? I am determined to do it and the way I look at is there are lots of single men out there, not all of them have settled down yet, for various reasons, I have met a couple of nice men recently who were both in there 30s and single, and it didn't really work out, but there are lots of nice single men out there. We just need to meet them! I had a read through your thread last night, I was going to post but I was a bit tired and had just too much I wanted to say, a lot of what you said resonated with how I feel sometimes. I hope you are feeling better today x

System

marleyboy wrote: »

I think that would only matter if you were planning a family.

That's what I thought too, once upon a time. It works for some, not for others.

very_silly_and_scared

Am really pleased that everyone is embracing the 'go for a drink alone' thing- and Sarahb, of course Starbucks counts for starters...stretch the comfort zone slowly!

I do bars, cinema, theatre, concerts, restaurants, daytrips and even European weekends away on my own....twice in the last year! And a long haul trip too for 7 days...

Not that I am some crazed loner in a big black trench coat, I just figure that if none of my mates want to come to something I really want to go to, if I don't go on my own I miss out! (And even if there was a partner in the picture, I am not sure I would inflict Glen Campbell concerts on him!)

It's not about 'sit in a bar on my own and wait for advances' either...or looking appealing to other people...it's about doing what you want to do... And if it increases your confidence that can only be a good thing surely?!

dollydumpling

I couldn't agree more Very Silly and Scared! A couple of years ago I did a European city break on my own and then later in the year a 2 week long haul holiday with a singles group. Standing in Heathrow airport looking for other peple with "solos" stickers on their luggage was pretty much the most scared I've ever been but it was one of the best holidays I've had.

I don't own a black trench coat either; I just realised that I was stopping myself from doing lots of things that I really wanted to do because of the perceived thoughts of strangers!

My confidence has slipped a bit since then but it is good to remember that I did it once. After all, once you know how to do something you can't not know it! (even if you don't use it for a while)

rugbymum

Hi guys,
I was just catching up on all your posts! My there's a lot to get through!
I just wanted to let you know I failed in one of my challenges, I didn't lose the four pounds I wanted to, but I'm in a better frame of mind to keep on the weight loss thing.:(
I DID write that email to my handsome soldier penpal. I won't hear form him till next Wednesday at the earliest though.:lovethoug
I definately WON'T be going out for a solo drink. Money is the biggst issue for that one. DS No3 3rd birthday on Sunday. Food & pressies to buy.:eek:
I'm going to have to go to bed, had a terrible night last night. Too much pain .
Anyway I must go to bed. Hugs to you all.

pinkpanther28

I've been reading this thread with great interest! I am both single and (unfortunately) in debt as well. I have been separated from my husband since March - only married 3 years. Not going to go into details but it turned out that he wasn't the person that I thought he was :mad: .

My debts are around £9k, I've been struggling since March with only my wage coming in but have just about been able to make minimum payments - things should be better though hopefully (temporarily) as a friend of mine is renting my spare room for a few months to give me a bit of extra money coming in and time to sort myself out. Looking for a part time job at the moment as well.

I keep swaying between knowing that I'm better off without him, and feeling so lonely that I don't know what to do with myself. I don't really have anyone to talk to about it, my friends and family know what happened between us and can't understand why I still have any kind of feelings for him. It helps to be able to talk about it here though. Good luck to all of you taking part in the challenge :j - not sure I'm quite there yet but I'll keep an eye out for any obvious opportunities xx

marleyboy

very_silly_and_scared wrote: »

It's not about 'sit in a bar on my own and wait for advances' either...or looking appealing to other people...it's about doing what you want to do... And if it increases your confidence that can only be a good thing surely?!

Ive never thought about it like that, excellently put

marleyboy

pinkpanther28 wrote: »

I keep swaying between knowing that I'm better off without him, and feeling so lonely that I don't know what to do with myself. I don't really have anyone to talk to about it,

I know exactly how you feel, thats how it is with me. Welcome to the thread, were all friends here, feel free to talk.

frugalsparkle

Can i join this forum. Too in debt and single. Had a lovely guy showing me interest but i was always afraid of getting too stuck to him so i have drove him away too many times and now he wont come back. He now has new girlfriend but i now know he is the one. its tough but it was my own fault.