Single and in debt.

Mupeteer

Thanks to this thread I'be discovered plentyoffish. I'm actually quite enjoying it. Never thought I'd use a site like that but thought what the hell. I'm not looking for anything serious (just out of a relationship) and thought I could make some friends. It's going well so far.

Ossireo

@Bebebelle - Ebay is the place for you, I have even seen people buy half used products, samples etc!

*waves to our other newbies!* Welcome to Marleyboys harem!

Ossireo

Trying_to_save wrote: »

I'm still 'sort of' single (have been seeing someone for approx 5 weeks now - via a dating site) but would still like to join in if possible....

So pleased something has worked, gives me continued hope!! Not sure if the guy I met for coffee via the dating site is a keeper to be honest. Some of his comments today have got my back up a bit.

(background paragraph incoming!!!)

Now I have gone through some weird stuff over last 6 years. Mainly a build up of depression/anxiety and paranoia that resulted in me becoming reclusive and reducing my hours and eventually leaving work .. which I then discovered was as a result of a bad hormone imbalance down to my contraception :mad:

Stopped it, and practially instant life turnaround, it was like a cloud being lifted and I could actually leave the house without being prepared for 3 days by mum adn my DS no longer walks on eggshells!! that was about 6 months ago and hence the now mission to get this life sorted as for all that prior time I could barely exist!

(end background)

Now this guy is telling me pretty much that depression doesn't exist and the clutter I am trying to wade through is merely me having a cant be assed attitude.

Am I wrong in not actually wanting sympathy, but still expecting a degree of respect about how crap the last few years have been :rotfl: or am I being unreasonable to let this get my back up a bit

I for one am very proud about how much I have been able to achieve after being so debilitated (for want of a better word) Dealing with creditors, going out and meeting people, looking for jobs, doing for stuff, the thoughts of just that would have had me in bed hiding only 7 months previously!!.

Ok going to stop ranting now :o

paddlingfuriously

You are absolutely right to expect some respect for coming through that - who does this guy think he is?! Grrr. I'm angry on your behalf.

Hope78

You deserve way better than that! The very least you deserve is someone who respects the journey you've taken to be the marvellous person you and appreciate the strength and courage you must've shown to get there! Sounds a bit like he's perhaps been lucky enough to have had things fairly easy in his life so far!

Mupeteer

OMG! How can people say that depression doesn't exist?:mad: :mad: :mad:
People that say stuff like that make me soooooo mad! I've suffered with depression for years now and have had my share of people telling me to pull myself together and that I'm making it all up. Generally, I find that these are the people who have never had a bad thing happen to them in their entire life. They've never had to battle debt or suffered the bereavement of someone close.
I truly believe that by battling through these things and still being here we have all learned something valuable and that we have gained skills to deal with new stuff - not always well or quickly but at least we know we can do it eventually. Pity help those insensitive idiots when something does go wrong for them, as it surely will.

Rant over!

runmichellerun

Ossireo, do you really want someone in your life who won't even make the effort to try and understand?

Buffythedebtslayer

bebebelle wrote: »

Hi all,


Im 33 in a few weeks ,and feel a little low about having nothing apart from a pile of perfume.

now come on surely you must have some shoes!

seriously - hello and welcome, isn't it wonderful, not being the only one!!!

xxxxxxx

turnmylifearound

I'm 25 and single. AND I owe about £25k.

I decided that I had to do something about it at the weekend and opened up all the statements but haven't had the chance to do my SOA yet.

I'm so pleased that there are other people around to give me moral support, as I'm too ashamed to tell all my friends.

I'll be doing my SOA and posting on these boards more often so look out for me!

D :doh:

Mupeteer

runmichellerun wrote: »

Ossireo, do you really want someone in your life who won't even make the effort to try and understand?

I agree completely. Easy to say though.