Single and in debt.

Buffythedebtslayer

sarahb123 wrote: »

I know, I eat comfort food all the time. I'm stressed/busy/bored and that's my reward. I buy veg and it goes off because it isn't yummy. Don't think I've ever had a cake go off :mad: I know from past experience that if I lose half a stone that spurs me on, it's losing the first bit that is the killer. I need to win the lottery and hire a personal trainer. I hate exercise, it's so boring I want my waist back! Grrr! Shall have to think of something.:rolleyes:

When you do, let me know,

I thought I was doing ok, but the habit is so ingrained. I don't know how to break it.

xxx

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

When you do, let me know,

I thought I was doing ok, but the habit is so ingrained. I don't know how to break it.

xxx

The thing is, I will try really hard for a week, weigh myself, discover I have lost 1lb and think sod this, where's the cakes. But if I did that every week (minus the cake bit) I would lose 40lb ish by Christmas. I think the problem is I need instant reward. What, I haven't lost 5lb this week, may as well give up.

I think the key is to accept it is only going to happen slowly and every loss is a step in the right direction. Just need to absorb that fact somehow, because if I can loose 1lb a week I will be almost there by the summer. Also need to not keep any rubbish food in the house so if I am looking for comfort food there won't be any. Easier said than done though. I know how to do it, I just keep sabotaging myself

TDQO

sarahb123 wrote: »

I know, I eat comfort food all the time. I'm stressed/busy/bored and that's my reward. I buy veg and it goes off because it isn't yummy. Don't think I've ever had a cake go off :mad: I know from past experience that if I lose half a stone that spurs me on, it's losing the first bit that is the killer. I need to win the lottery and hire a personal trainer. I hate exercise, it's so boring I want my waist back! Grrr! Shall have to think of something.:rolleyes:

What I found useful was trying new things and a new way of cooking them... like spinach for example... I haven't eaten it for years but a friend cooked some and I liked it so I googled "cooking spinach" and it suggested frying with some butter and all I can say is YUM! Now I buy a bushel every week...

Try thinking about food you really liked as a kid or a really nice meal you had at a restaurant then do some research and cook it...

Buffythedebtslayer

sarahb123 wrote: »

The thing is, I will try really hard for a week, weigh myself, discover I have lost 1lb and think sod this, where's the cakes. But if I did that every week (minus the cake bit) I would lose 40lb ish by Christmas. I think the problem is I need instant reward. What, I haven't lost 5lb this week, may as well give up.

I think the key is to accept it is only going to happen slowly and every loss is a step in the right direction. Just need to absorb that fact somehow, because if I can loose 1lb a week I will be almost there by the summer. Also need to not keep any rubbish food in the house so if I am looking for comfort food there won't be any. Easier said than done though. I know how to do it, I just keep sabotaging myself

Could you please STOP posting my exact thought Sarah!!

SuSu1871

Hiya!!

Okay...just got off the phone from the Complicated Man. We were talking for 3 hours!!! :eek: I was really nervous/excited before he called, but I had nothing to worry about! He was really nervous, too. We both feel like a couple of teenagers and it's a nice feeling

I completely appreciate your concerns about me being branded the other woman, but anyone who knows him and his missus know that they've been living separate lives for years (I know this because my pal's their friend). And it's not like he had me lined up - we only met last night and just clicked. It's difficult to put the brakes on when it's all new, but we have agreed it's best to take it slowly and keep it to ourselves, specially as he's got a daughter. He's single for the first time in 15 years and I've been single for six years, so neither of us wants to rush into anything. Also, I have to wrestle with my conscience about dating a married man. Fortunately, I knew the state of his marriage before I met him, so I don't just have to take his word for it and risk being strung along. Still, it's a weird situation, but I do really like him and we get really well, so I don't want to cut my nose off to spite my face.

We're going out for dinner on Friday night, and we'll see each other in the pub on Sunday, but we want to keep ourselves to ourselves for now (assuming everything works out on Friday, of course).

I'm smiling. He's really nice.

Buffythedebtslayer

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Hiya!!

Okay...just got off the phone from the Complicated Man. We were talking for 3 hours!!! :eek: I was really nervous/excited before he called, but I had nothing to worry about! He was really nervous, too. We both feel like a couple of teenagers and it's a nice feeling

I completely appreciate your concerns about me being branded the other woman, but anyone who knows him and his missus know that they've been living separate lives for years (I know this because my pal's their friend). And it's not like he had me lined up - we only met last night and just clicked. It's difficult to put the brakes on when it's all new, but we have agreed it's best to take it slowly and keep it to ourselves, specially as he's got a daughter. He's single for the first time in 15 years and I've been single for six years, so neither of us wants to rush into anything. Also, I have to wrestle with my conscience about dating a married man. Fortunately, I knew the state of his marriage before I met him, so I don't just have to take his word for it and risk being strung along. Still, it's a weird situation, but I do really like him and we get really well, so I don't want to cut my nose off to spite my face.

We're going out for dinner on Friday night, and we'll see each other in the pub on Sunday, but we want to keep ourselves to ourselves for now (assuming everything works out on Friday, of course).

I'm smiling. He's really nice.

I am smiling too! really good to see you happyxxxxxxxxx:T xx

sarahb123_3

TDQO wrote: »

What I found useful was trying new things and a new way of cooking them... like spinach for example... I haven't eaten it for years but a friend cooked some and I liked it so I googled "cooking spinach" and it suggested frying with some butter and all I can say is YUM! Now I buy a bushel every week...

Try thinking about food you really liked as a kid or a really nice meal you had at a restaurant then do some research and cook it...

That is a good idea, I struggle for time some days but I have a week's holiday booked in a few days, and I also have the Ministry of Food cookbook, didn't think of googling for receipes (sp- never can do that word) as well, so I might have a go then. You have just reminded me I do like spinach, haven't had it for ages.

sarahb123_3

SuSu1871 wrote: »

I'm smiling. He's really nice.

:j :j :j :j :j :j :j :j

TDQO

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Hiya!!

Okay...just got off the phone from the Complicated Man. We were talking for 3 hours!!! :eek: I was really nervous/excited before he called, but I had nothing to worry about! He was really nervous, too. We both feel like a couple of teenagers and it's a nice feeling

I completely appreciate your concerns about me being branded the other woman, but anyone who knows him and his missus know that they've been living separate lives for years (I know this because my pal's their friend). And it's not like he had me lined up - we only met last night and just clicked. It's difficult to put the brakes on when it's all new, but we have agreed it's best to take it slowly and keep it to ourselves, specially as he's got a daughter. He's single for the first time in 15 years and I've been single for six years, so neither of us wants to rush into anything. Also, I have to wrestle with my conscience about dating a married man. Fortunately, I knew the state of his marriage before I met him, so I don't just have to take his word for it and risk being strung along. Still, it's a weird situation, but I do really like him and we get really well, so I don't want to cut my nose off to spite my face.

We're going out for dinner on Friday night, and we'll see each other in the pub on Sunday, but we want to keep ourselves to ourselves for now (assuming everything works out on Friday, of course).

I'm smiling. He's really nice.

Aww good times all round! Though make sure he gets the divorce nice and quick... I've known too many people that are still waiting for them to do it 3-4-5 years down the line!

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Could you please STOP posting my exact thought Sarah!!

Surely between us we can come up with a plan 2009 is supposed to be my year. I don't want to spend it being overweight, surrounded by clothes I can't get into, book towers and toiletry mountains. I want to spend it being skinny surrounded by cocktails, intellectual men and European city landscapes.