Single and in debt.

SunderlandBlackCat

runmichellerun wrote: »

YES invite him out. Definitely. And you could go to another pub/each others houses/bowling/pool/meal/walk??

I agree - I've always been flattered if a woman has asked me out. The only thing I'd say different (from personal experience) is not each others houses for the first few dates unless there's already "afters" in mind .

PinkTwirl

Thanks all for the replies.

I've calmed down now and have found a solution. I will drive to my aunts with mine and my dad's washing and do it on Sunday. I will buy a new one when I get paid on the 20th and do a few more visits out to my aunts and use her washing machine and tumble dryer, I will give her a few pounds for the use of them.

My dad was planning to buy a new one at the end of the month anyway, it really has seen better days and doesn't even wash the clothes properly. If I get a new job fairly quickly in April I will even just pay for it and not ask for the money back.

I can't say fairer than that. Of course I got no thanks for any of it though. I suppose that is just the way it is.

SunderlandBlackCat

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Can you let a mutual friend know that you like him? Then puts the ball in his court.

TBH if I'd told a woman face to face that I liked them it would be because I wasn't sure what the reaction would be if I asked her out.

If the only response I got was a second hand message several days later, I wouldn't be very impressed & probably wouldn't do anything about it.

SunderlandBlackCat

PinkTwirl wrote: »

My dad was planning to buy a new one at the end of the month anyway, it really has seen better days and doesn't even wash the clothes properly. If I get a new job fairly quickly in April I will even just pay for it and not ask for the money back.

If he was planning to get a new one anyway then offer to knock the price of what repairing the old one would cost or at most half of what it costs off the £150 he owes you.

I can't see why you should pay the full price.

PinkTwirl

SunderlandBlackCat wrote: »

If he was planning to get a new one anyway then offer to knock the price of what repairing the old one would cost or at most half of what it costs off the £150 he owes you.

I can't see why you should pay the full price.

True, but he's such a miserable person sometimes, he didn't even thank me when I offered. Makes me wonder why I bother.

Anyway, I've just ordered one now, should be here in 3 working days. Didn't even get a thanks. Is that just how parents are?

PinkTwirl

Yeah, but guys say that don't they "you look nice tonight". Even the married ones. It would be difficult I think to ask a guy out after that, I'd be worried.

runmichellerun

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Yeah, but guys say that don't they "you look nice tonight". Even the married ones. It would be difficult I think to ask a guy out after that, I'd be worried.

But if you don't take a chance now and again, life will just pass you by in a safe, but boring, manner. What's the worst that can happen? He might say no. BUT he might say yes.

PinkTwirl

runmichellerun wrote: »

But if you don't take a chance now and again, life will just pass you by in a safe, but boring, manner. What's the worst that can happen? He might say no. BUT he might say yes.

I don't agree with that. When I asked guys out years ago they always said no. When I expressed an interest through my friends, they would then come to me.

SunderlandBlackCat

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Yeah, but guys say that don't they "you look nice tonight". Even the married ones. It would be difficult I think to ask a guy out after that, I'd be worried.

"you look nice tonight" & "you look hot tonight" aren't even on the same planet as far as meaning goes.

PinkTwirl

SunderlandBlackCat wrote: »

"you look nice tonight" & "you look hot tonight" aren't even on the same planet as far as meaning goes.

I guess, I would hope in that context the conversation would continue down that route there and then

How was it left?