Single and in debt.

SunderlandBlackCat

makeup wrote: »

Hi Sunderland Black Cat - most impressed with your sig - 94 sounds like hardly anything! I'm hoping to start a mortgage this year so feel like I will be paying forever and a day!

Thanks

93 now as I'm currently making a month's payment every week on Wednesdays. Don't know how long I can keep it up for, hopefully until it's paid off, but for now I'm still paying less per month doing this than I was when my total debts were at their height & I was only making basic mortgage repayments.

SunderlandBlackCat

runmichellerun wrote: »

The bloke I was seeing recently (the one who moved back up north) is back in town for the night and wondered if I wanted to pop over to pick up a dvd he still hasn't returned to me. Unsurprisingly I told him to post it to me.

As if I'm going to go running around after him!!! He lives about 20 minutes drive away, and the film is quite an old one so I could have probably bought it in the sales cheaper than driving all that way.

Are you sure this was about collecting a DVD? One of my exes asked me to go round & collect some of my stuff after the bloke I'd found out she'd been two timing me with dumped her & it was apparently the advice of some self help book as a way to gauge if someone is still interested in you.

Not the exact wording but according to her friend, if she'd posted it, that would be a sign that she didn't care whether I still liked her or not, if she'd dropped it off at mine it risked running into my new girlfriend if I had one, but if I agreed to go back to hers to collect a relatively inexpensive or easily replaced item, it meant I was still interested.

One of the self help book experts might be able to elaborate on which book that came from.

runmichellerun

SunderlandBlackCat wrote: »

Are you sure this was about collecting a DVD? One of my exes asked me to go round & collect some of my stuff after the bloke I'd found out she'd been two timing me with dumped her & it was apparently the advice of some self help book as a way to gauge if someone is still interested in you.

Not the exact wording but according to her friend, if she'd posted it, that would be a sign that she didn't care whether I still liked her or not, if she'd dropped it off at mine it risked running into my new girlfriend if I had one, but if I agreed to go back to hers to collect a relatively inexpensive or easily replaced item, it meant I was still interested.

One of the self help book experts might be able to elaborate on which book that came from.

God, I hate mind games. Maybe that was it but I'm tired of thinking about him. Plus he was only there for one night so what good would it have done (other than the obvious one night activities)?

But thanks for putting a different view on the situation. I just thought he was being an @rse.

mags33_2

SunderlandBlackCat wrote: »

:hello: Hello new peeps. Hope you all had a good Christmas

yeah i had a great time thank you. hope you had a good christmas as well.

I saved pennies up over the last two months and i am going out with friends tonight and tomorrow

a2062cad

If its any help I have recently (last 48 hours) decided to deal with my debt. Although I am not single, no one knows about my debt at all. My family just think I am miserable. It can't be easy but just begining to talk about it does help and does make it possible to see some end in sight.

Good luck.

bathgatebuyer

You'll find it really easy to start to talk about your debt once you've admitted it to one or two people on here. That's certainly the way I felt. Too many people see debt as something to be ashamed of but in reality, it can happen to anyone. No one is immune from debt. If any good can come from the 'credit crunch' (and it's absolutely outweighed by the bad, I know), I hope it's that people feel no shame whatsoever in being able to say to those close to them, "I'm having some money problems". I only admitted my money problems when I'd knocked £30K off my debt bill - and it was a long, lonely difficult way of getting rid of £30K in debt without support.

On another note, I'm in a seriously grumpy mood already today! This whole 'happy new year' is not fun at all. If one more person says to me, "What are you doing later? Nothing? You can't be doing nothing at Hogmanay" I will seriously punch their lights out.

mags33_2

talking on here over the past few days has certainly helped me

I think getting my head out of the sand in Jan 2007 was the turning point for me

my family dont know about my debt only 2 friends do.

Talking to people in the same situation or have been in the same situation deffo helps when your having a bad day

I dont see what the big hype about new year is anyways. so what if you want to stay in its your decision what you want to do and you shouldnt be made to feel like poop because you dont wanna go out.

If anything iv learned is go with how you feel or want to do not what others think you should feel or do

:beer: maybe im finally screwing my head on at 34 lol but cant promise anything

CocoLoco_3

runmichellerun wrote: »

Am I just a glutton for punishment keeping on with my search for the perfect man?

No, just optimistic!
Personally, I've realised I've left it too late. I've come to terms with the fact that I'll be a lonely old spinster, the local kids will refer to me as "the scary witch lady" and one day someone will find me dead, half eaten by cats! :rotfl:

Mind you, maybe I shouldn't give up. I should keep looking for someone I can share the bills with! It ain't half hard paying all the bills by yourself when you're single.

mags33_2

is there a perfect man out there personally after my last one i doubt it!

SunderlandBlackCat

mags33 wrote: »

is there a perfect man out there personally after my last one i doubt it!

Of course there isn't, just as there's no perfect woman.

It's always going to be a case of finding as close a match as we can to what we want in a partner & then deciding if we can live with the things that don't fit the profile.