Single and in debt.

makeup

Hello

I've often spent NYE alone, I used to work a lot over the New Year so didn't fancy a horrendous hangover. I spent the past two NYE's at home alone and had a fabulous time, I really enjoyed spending the evening in, watching DVD's and getting something really nice in for dinner. So much better than wasting a lot of time in a packed pub and paying a fortune to get in and then another small fortune on a cab.

I agree that house parties are the best option. This year my friend has asked me over to her house - a few of us are having dinner. Should be chilled and lovely. I think we're going for a walk on NY Day which should be good.

I quite like the time at home to think about the past year and my goals for the coming year. I think of NY as a time of reflection rather than parties.

PinkTwirl

Well Buffy, that was one of the people I got rid of out of my life. The last straw was when I invited her round for my 31st birthday and she didn't even bother to turn up or to tell me if she was/wasn't coming to my flat.

A very self-centered person I thought.

Hi Makeup, house parties are good, so is eating something nice at home.

I've been away reading some of the other boards, the utterly insane arguments some of the people are having are amazing. There are some seriously screwed up people out there!!! :eek:

Ossireo

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Can I just apologise in advance if I ever meet anyof you in real life. I am crap at being on time and truthfully never intend to be late i just cannot seem to manage my time very well. Please don't think every one who is late is being rude, honestly i have arrived in tears before now cos I am so disorganised....

although I am very good at returning phone calls and texts!

Can I just add a massive DITTO as this is me too, and it drives me nuts that I always end up being a bit late but I am always one for replying to people, probably even replying to people I should just leave alone to be honest (including the crazy ex work colleague who was rather evil to me, I still kept trying to be nice and always replying!)

Yargo1

Hi all... hope everyone is having a good day. im at main job from 9 this morning to i think half four... really hope they let us go a bit earlier though!

my plan if they do is to nip home and get gym kit and do 45 mins of something before evening job at 6-9 ! got to be done i guess.. although id quite happily just go home and get in bed! its so cold here !! brrrr

without wanting to harp on about yesterdays nastiness the only reason i told the poster to reply on here was that i guessed that must be how she had seen my reply to pink twirl... was shocked to get a pm about it tbh. ANYHOW.... have a good day all and hope to catch up later.

Buffythedebtslayer

You lot are possibly the only ones who will understand

My house party friend is not having a party this year, instead staying in with boyfriend and baby, as are EVERY SINGLE ONE of my FRIENDS>

seriously, 11 people. all with bf's or partners and children.

I know how pathetic I sound but i am sitting here feeling like I could cry. I have had a !!!! day today and woke up feeling so positive and its gone now.

I know I should be grateful that I have friends, a few even said they would like to meet up for a drink.................heard that before.

I also know that I shouldn't have gone out with the not boyfriend cos it was like having a proper Bf who opened doors bought me dinner, made me laugh and now I know I have just ripped open wounds that were healing nicely.

I feel useless and worthless and unloved, I feel like my heart is going to break.

I never feel like this any more. bloody news years eve can !!!! off.

runmichellerun

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

You lot are possibly the only ones who will understand

My house party friend is not having a party this year, instead staying in with boyfriend and baby, as are EVERY SINGLE ONE of my FRIENDS>

seriously, 11 people. all with bf's or partners and children.

I know how pathetic I sound but i am sitting here feeling like I could cry. I have had a !!!! day today and woke up feeling so positive and its gone now.

I know I should be grateful that I have friends, a few even said they would like to meet up for a drink.................heard that before.

I also know that I shouldn't have gone out with the not boyfriend cos it was like having a proper Bf who opened doors bought me dinner, made me laugh and now I know I have just ripped open wounds that were healing nicely.

I feel useless and worthless and unloved, I feel like my heart is going to break.

I never feel like this any more. bloody news years eve can !!!! off.

Oh that really does suck. I know exactly what you mean. This is a horrible time of year for us singles. Can you get yourself a copy of a good film (not romantic- maybe a horror or action) and a big bottle of wine/vodka/baileys? That might take the edge off.

And take comfort that no matter what, you really are not alone. We are ALL here for you.

runmichellerun

Oh, and on a separate subject, I need a rant. The bloke I was seeing recently (the one who moved back up north) is back in town for the night and wondered if I wanted to pop over to pick up a dvd he still hasn't returned to me. Unsurprisingly I told him to post it to me.

As if I'm going to go running around after him!!! He lives about 20 minutes drive away, and the film is quite an old one so I could have probably bought it in the sales cheaper than driving all that way.

Right, rant over. I feel better writing it down

Buffythedebtslayer

runmichellerun wrote: »

Oh that really does suck. I know exactly what you mean. This is a horrible time of year for us singles. Can you get yourself a copy of a good film (not romantic- maybe a horror or action) and a big bottle of wine/vodka/baileys? That might take the edge off.

And take comfort that no matter what, you really are not alone. We are ALL here for you.

thank you michelle. it is horrible being single when couples are thrust in your face all the time.

but its only 24 hours. then it 'll be done

xxx

Ossireo

The last few NYE's I have just treated the same as any other day, the only thing I do is if I am still awake is I go up and kiss my DS on the chime of midnight. I have never held much ceremony on NYE, even from a young age. I would suggest just do what you fancy and screw any tradition xx

RosaBernicia

Hi all

Bit late as I've been offline coughing and snivelling/ driving/ sleeping.
PinkTwirl sounds like you need some of these :grouphug: . I just have one thing to add about making new friends - some people are just genuinely shy, you might need to take that into account in some cases. I just mention it because it's taken me ages to get to know one of my neighbours, even though we have mutual friends, just because we are both a bit shy of banging on the other's door. It took super-extrovert ex-flatmate to organise dragging us both out! I think you'd be able to tell which people this applies to though, and only you can decide whether you feel you should contact them or the effort would be wasted. I agree the simplest thing to do is just do stuff you enjoy anyway, then hopefully you should meet people with common interests.

Welcome ShoeGal :hello:

Hello again Yargo, haven't seen you for ages!

I must also confess to being a latenik. Usually only by 15 minutes and I do call and apologise, but somehow have a block as to actually getting there on time. Most people know this by now and just tell me earlier, it only causes confusion with my mate who is 20 mins late (we each add on the others time to our own and wind up going nowhere!).

Re. NYE I echo makeup, I think I am staying in. It sounds a bit sad but actually it's my choice, I could go out with some friends but it would be expensive and noisy and I still feel a bit wiped with this cold, so that's my excuse. I used to have a real thing about NYE and would organise it in August! but ended up staying in last year and actually really enjoyed it. I am skint this month (thanks to just paying bumper scratch bloke £400) and have studying to do, and am not convinced I'd meet anyone at the pub anyhow. So am going to stay in, have a bath, read, eat chocolate, phone everyone and feel smug that they are in a noisy pub and I'm at home, then sleep well and get up all fresh on New Year's Day to go and do something fabulous. Am looking forward to 2009, it will be good. 2008 has been fun. (I will pop in here in case anybody is staying in not-out-of-choice and needs an ear to bend!)

Rosa xx