Single and in debt.

bathgatebuyer

That's my experience of it too! I've had a few disappointments at Hogmanay - for the Millenium I had arranged to meet a friend on Princes Street. Despite me being the one who actually lives and pays taxes in the city (not that I'm bitter!), he managed to get a ticket for the event and I had to get into the cordoned off area at midday before the shut the city centre off. Anyhow, we'd arranged to meet for a bite to eat at dinnertime so I had a 5 hour wait from arriving until we were due to meet. It was freezing, but there were still some shops and thing open until about 4pm, so enough to stay kinda busy until dinner.

Anyhow, dinnertime came and went and still no sign of him. By about 8 o'clock, I'd been treated in the first aid tent as I was so cold! Left a message on his mobile - nothing. So, by 10 pm, I'd been there for about 10 hours and decided that even if he turned up or not, I would stay there and enjoy the fireworks. Bloody things lasted less than 2 minutes! A whole 12 hour wait for 2 minutes worth of bangers going off! (Annoyingly, I had bought him some blinking champage as I don't even drink and was lugging that around too for the 12 hours!)

The fireworks were going off while I was stood there trying not to let people see me bawling my eyes out (the previous year having been a really difficult one with me having cancer and being out of work for a while once I was healthy again and it was only this 'mate' who talked me into really looking towards to the new year and new millenium as a new start and a chance to look forward to all the good things in life).

Strangely enough, I never spoke to him again after that!! I heard from someone else that he ended up in the city centre with his mates and 'forgot' about our arrangement. He was one of my best mates at Uni, my first ever boyfriend but a completely selfish git if ever there was one.

The first year I lived up here, a friend had told me she would come through from Glasgow for Hogmanay (this in the days before you needed a ticket to walk your own city streets). 10 pm and I called her to ask her where we were meeting and she said, "Oh I've decided not to come through..............I was going to phone you..............".

I think that's why I can't be bothered with the whole, "Happy new year" thing being shoved in my face. Not everyone has a brilliant time and the compulsion to be wacky and zany and up for a party really peeves me off. The guys at work call me miserable because I can't be bothered with new year - I just don't have anyone to share it with and they do. Sometimes the world forgets that there are people on their own when the rest of the world has a party.

I can absolutely sympathise with feeling let down by people who say they'll do something then let you down last minute. After a while, I just gave up on other people's promises. After all, they rarely stick to them.

PinkTwirl

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

Strangely enough, I never spoke to him again after that!! I heard from someone else that he ended up in the city centre with his mates and 'forgot' about our arrangement. He was one of my best mates at Uni, my first ever boyfriend but a completely selfish git if ever there was one.

The first year I lived up here, a friend had told me she would come through from Glasgow for Hogmanay (this in the days before you needed a ticket to walk your own city streets). 10 pm and I called her to ask her where we were meeting and she said, "Oh I've decided not to come through..............I was going to phone you..............".

What a pair of a***holes. They're not friends, they're scum. I'm not suprised you don't really buy into the new year thing now. I've done it all, nightclubs, posh restuarants, standing outside in the rain, house parties. They are all crap because they contain huge expectations. Single people want to meet the partner of their dreams, paired off people want their OH to propose, youngsters want to get really drunk. There are higher expectations than at Xmas I think.

Rant over

bathgatebuyer

That was my rant just starting, PT

I can honestly say that I don't think I've ever let anyone down like that. I'm certainly not perfect, but when I say I'm going to do something, I do it, and on time too. None of this turning up 15 mins / 30 mins / hour late (or even not at all). It just smacks of 'you are worthless and I can treat you like dirt'. It's not a nice way for people to behave. If people think I'm a hermit or whatever for choosing not to buy into the whole Hogmanay claptrap, then it really doesn't bother me. I just don't think there's someone out there who deserves my time as much as I do myself (and my cat, of course) on Hogmanay.

(And even my cat can be a bossy midden at times too )

SmileyG_2

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

That was my rant just starting, PT

I can honestly say that I don't think I've ever let anyone down like that. I'm certainly not perfect, but when I say I'm going to do something, I do it, and on time too. None of this turning up 15 mins / 30 mins / hour late (or even not at all). It just smacks of 'you are worthless and I can treat you like dirt'. It's not a nice way for people to behave. If people think I'm a hermit or whatever for choosing not to buy into the whole Hogmanay claptrap, then it really doesn't bother me. I just don't think there's someone out there who deserves my time as much as I do myself (and my cat, of course) on Hogmanay.

(And even my cat can be a bossy midden at times too )

Hello everybody

Pink Twirl and bathgate buyer, stop beating yourselves up!

Looking in from the outside, its better to have opinions than sit in the corner.

Both of you have a lot to say and none of it is unimportant!

SmileyG

TDQO

Hello everyone! It's sad to see that some of you are having troubles, try to stay positive and remind yourself that you're No.1 and that anyone who messes you around can bagel off!!! I'm also a very committed person, if I make an arrangement I will always keep it even if I get one or more better offers I turn them down or adjust plans so everyone is included.

I've been up to Manchester for a party with a bunch of bikers last night and am feeling pretty shakey today... a bottle of absinthe was opened at 3.30am!

For NYE I think the plan is to have drinks at a mates house then head into town for a pint or three and watch the fireworks before going back to the house...

Shoe_Gal

Hi everybody

Glad it's not just me who doesn't buy the hold NYE, certain time on a certain day you will have fun thing!!

Will just be staying in on my own. Have the SATC DVD to watch (again!) and a bottle of bubbly. Probably won't even stay up until midnight

I do, though, hope for better things in 2009, 2008 wasn't too good for me! Was made redundant hence even more debt and not much progress this year. Want to start 2009 in a positive frame of mind, hoping it brings good things

Happy New Year to all x x:beer:

PinkTwirl

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

That was my rant just starting, PT

(And even my cat can be a bossy midden at times too )

Hi Bathgate,

I am the same, if people are late for me (i.e. really late), don't turn up, or say they will get in contact and never do, that shows to me that they have no respect for me and insincere and flaky. I am sure I have my faults, but I don't do any of them .

Buffythedebtslayer

Can I just apologise in advance if I ever meet anyof you in real life. I am crap at being on time and truthfully never intend to be late i just cannot seem to manage my time very well. Please don't think every one who is late is being rude, honestly i have arrived in tears before now cos I am so disorganised....

although I am very good at returning phone calls and texts!

PinkTwirl

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Can I just apologise in advance if I ever meet anyof you in real life. I am crap at being on time and truthfully never intend to be late i just cannot seem to manage my time very well. Please don't think every one who is late is being rude, honestly i have arrived in tears before now cos I am so disorganised....

although I am very good at returning phone calls and texts!

Aw, well, I'm sure that can be excused then, phone calls and texts are more important in my book!

Sometimes lateness is always going to happen. Although, I had a "friend" before that always used to turn up 45 minutes late for dinner when it was my turn to cook. One night after an hour I phoned her and asked her if she was coming round. She then told me she had been on facebook all night. Then she had the cheek to ask me for cheese on toast when she came round because she didn't like what I cooked for her!

Grrrrr....!!!

Buffythedebtslayer

PinkTwirl wrote: »

Aw, well, I'm sure that can be excused then, phone calls and texts are more important in my book!

Sometimes lateness is always going to happen. Although, I had a "friend" before that always used to turn up 45 minutes late for dinner when it was my turn to cook. One night after an hour I phoned her and asked her if she was coming round. She then told me she had been on facebook all night. Then she had the cheek to ask me for cheese on toast when she came round because she didn't like what I cooked for her!

Grrrrr....!!!

Ohmy God I can't imagine being that rude, when some one is cooking for you!

People are so weird in their thinking! or not thinking I guess