Single and in debt.

PinkTwirl

Hi all,

In search of cheering up. Suddenly had this horrible thought that I will be on my own for xmas in years to come. Now I've realised how much the debt doesn't matter in comparison as it can all be paid off. It's the people stuff that matters.

Heck, I think I need a cocktail!

makeup

Hello Everyone!

Hope you all had a fab Christmas and could feel like a smug singleton!!

Pink - You've got finding genuine friends on your list and I think once you write things down and can visualise it, it makes it much easier to focus on and to be aware of, so I'm sure this next next year you will be feeling much more positive. I also think it is worth a cocktail - it IS still Christmas (as I say every time my hand wavers towards the sherry / chocs/ peanuts!!)

Susu - I live in London and would be interested in a charity bike ride, i ride to work but it isn't very far and was thinking along lines of doing more bike rides, so a challenge and something to aim towards would be very good (but ....I'm not very fast!!!):T

My list of 100 things is only at about 30 but seeing everyone elses has really inspired me.

I think Pink had voluntary work which I would really like to do as well and the idea of random acts of kindness is definitely worth putting down.

I hope you all enjoy the next few days and have a lovely time shopping in the sales / spending vouchers or whatever you are up to.

Rosa - v. interested in Flylady - being organised is definitely on my list!

PinkTwirl

makeup wrote: »

Pink - You've got finding genuine friends on your list and I think once you write things down and can visualise it, it makes it much easier to focus on and to be aware of, so I'm sure this next next year you will be feeling much more positive. I also think it is worth a cocktail - it IS still Christmas (as I say every time my hand wavers towards the sherry / chocs/ peanuts!!)


I think Pink had voluntary work which I would really like to do as well and the idea of random acts of kindness is definitely worth putting down.

I'm starting to not even see the point of volunteering. I went to their Christmas dinner in November. One of the girls there invited me to a party the following saturday. She didn't bother to reply to my text message about it and once again another person I have given my number out to who has then just ignored me.

I'd seriously be better off not being on this planet. I'm never giving my number out to anyone again. I'm sick of the crap people that I meet. I don't even want to go out of the door now.

Ossireo

PinkTwirl wrote: »

I'm starting to not even see the point of volunteering. I went to their Christmas dinner in November. One of the girls there invited me to a party the following saturday. She didn't bother to reply to my text message about it and once again another person I have given my number out to who has then just ignored me.

I'd seriously be better off not being on this planet. I'm never giving my number out to anyone again. I'm sick of the crap people that I meet. I don't even want to go out of the door now.

Aww PinkTwirl, I hate to see you feeling like this and wish I could give you a big hug. It is so easy to feel this way, especially when people dont respond as you would expect them too, I am very much similar to yourself. I'm terrible online, especially when I make a post and no one seems to even acknowledge it and outside, I am the one usually sat in the corner who says something and people dont notice or I try and hint for party invites and they never materialise!.

Just try to keep telling yourself for the 100's of crap people you encounter there are also some genuine fun and kind ones in there and we have to come across them at some point if we keep trying! (I think Sarahs thread proves that as well as all the nice people are here, we just need to try to bump into them outside! )

PinkTwirl

Hi Ossiero,

I think I'm just fed up giving my number out all the time, seriously, I think about 100-200 people on this planet must have my number! I only ever hear from 8 of them! I just don't like "swapping" numbers with people anymore who seem so keen for my company, yet never even bother to write/call/reply to me. What a waste of time and to me it shows a really insincere person.

I got a text message 2 months ago from a number I didn't recognise saying "b*tch". That really upset me. The worst thing was I didn't know if it was from one of these 200 people or not!

In the past 2 years, about 30 people I would say have let me down. Hence my reasons for moving back to the place I came from. Here, about 5 people have already let me down in 2 months. I'm sick and tired of them all.

Is it so f*cking hard to swap numbers with someone and actually ever meet up with them again? It seems my "dating" problems apply to my "making friends" problems as well!

Shoe_Gal

Hello everybody!

I've just spent 2 hours (!) reading through this thread, a lot of it made me laugh and some bits made me cry but you all sound such a lovely bunch of people

I am 42 (eek), single (eek again), in debt (another eek) and fat (final eek)! Have just updated my signature with what I hope to tackle in 2009, have other debts of about £20k but it's too overwhelming to put it down all at once (all with DCA's on low standing order payments)

I am also the heaviest I have ever been, 11st 11 lbs so not feeling too good about myself right now. I need to tackle this quickly to try to restore a bit of self esteem before I even think about rejoining the outside world!

Just reads back over this, don't think I'm usually this negative. Must be New Year blues!!!

Ossireo

I am just the same Pinktwirl, I have zero friends outside my family circle at the moment and no one I can meet up for a coffee with or go to town with. Finding that situation even worse now I am not working as well! I think I have actually forgotten how to socially interact with other people! How about a self pact to not give out your number for a while (or get a new phone) unless someone really pushes for it? Seems a strange idea but might give yourself a break for a bit xx

Welcome Shoe Gal! You have found a good place, cheers, laughter, tears, many soapboxes (mainly mine!) rants but most of all good company with like minded people! Prior to this week I was weighing in at 14st 4.5lbs and I started dieting in April at 16st 6lb :eek: Determined to stick to the diet more diligently in 2009 as I failed my target for the xmas challenge as I didn't reach size 16 or 13st 13lbs though if I lopped off my boobs I think I would be there! Slimming World have introduced a new style of dieting which I am eager to try for th enew year as its a mix of their Red & Green days, so thats something to be positive about I think as I may be more inclinded to stick to a combo if that and low GL Presently I am dating, but it is horrendous hard work as we are both rather messed up from previous experiences and my debts .. well they are quite static at £13k as I can only afford to pay £70 a month off them. Hoping 2009 with get me off Income Support, I worked all my life up till 2007 and just over a year on I.S. is too long for me .. getting ants in my pants and need to be doing something!

Just remember from now on, like I do, that you are not alone and there are likeminded people here who you can sound off at and get support from!

Much love to all xxx

PinkTwirl

Ossireo wrote: »

I am just the same Pinktwirl, I have zero friends outside my family circle at the moment and no one I can meet up for a coffee with or go to town with. Finding that situation even worse now I am not working as well! I think I have actually forgotten how to socially interact with other people! How about a self pact to not give out your number for a while (or get a new phone) unless someone really pushes for it? Seems a strange idea but might give yourself a break for a bit xx

True, I will not be giving anyone my number for a good while, it is a waste of time and upsets and angers me more when people let me down than if they don't try at all.

I am considering changing my number, don't know if I can be bothered with the hassle. I think I'll keep it as it is, but if I ever get a text from a number I have now deleted, I won't reply, or even better I will reply "who the hell are you and why are you contacting me?"

:rotfl:

PinkTwirl

christ, I dared to post a reply on on the house price thread and someone just stuck the boot into me.

I might as well go and top myself now, I'm even getting abuse on here. I can't take it anymore.

Shoe_Gal

Thanks Ossireo
I've seen the SW one, might give it a go. Have to try to avoid going for mad quick fixes, then failing and giving up! My 1st target is 11stone by 13th Feb, that will be 1st night out of the year for friends birthday
Have decided Jan needs to be a very low spending month as December has been so bad! And don't have a lot to show for so much socialising - except more lbs and less £'s!!!