Single and in debt.

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Oh! Enid Blyton!

I thought you were talking about some lesbian type literature (re my boss paying me a lot of attention well sort of ..etc)

Wow I shall investigate!

Buffy, don't forget to investigate those books I PMd you. I think if you go on Amazon you can read exerpts. Lesbian type literature!:rotfl:

Buffythedebtslayer

We should have a get together I am going to the manchester meet in Feb, meant to be my big target re weight loss.

I am off to bed now, need sleep and hopefully dream myself out of this misery.

xxx

runmichellerun

I'm completely with you all on the whole wanting a boyfriend thing. After my recent break up I've noticed some very strange side effects, i.e wanting a lot more of what Lula's having right now despite the fact I KNOW I can't have it.

Actually, that's not entirely true. I'm not wanting to sound big headed here, because I truly don't understand it myself, but I can pull so easily. it's just always the wrong type of men. And I'm fussy. Very very fussy. So I'm eternally single because the guys I DO like just aren't that interested in me. And I have no clue why.

Anyhoo, the point is that sometimes it's not about sex at all, it's the big hugs and support and companionship. I love all that. And if I truly wanted, I could go out and have sex with any old man off the street. But I want the other stuff too. And I had it just 2 weeks ago. And now I don't. Which makes me depressed.

I might have another glass of wine...

Sorry if none of the above made sense. Just trying to say I agree with the majority of you that Christmas can be very lonely, no matter how many family members there are around you.

sarahb123_3

runmichellerun wrote: »

Anyhoo, the point is that sometimes it's not about sex at all, it's the big hugs and support and companionship. I love all that. And if I truly wanted, I could go out and have sex with any old man off the street. But I want the other stuff too. And I had it just 2 weeks ago. And now I don't. Which makes me depressed.

I might have another glass of wine...

Michelle, it's so true, it is the support and the companionship and the little running commentaries you have by text during the day and knowing you can tell someone anything and having someone look forward to seeing you and a thousand other things.

Am joining you in that glass of wine:D

runmichellerun

sarahb123 wrote: »

Am joining you in that glass of wine:D

I'm not sure why, but it seems to solve all my woes, at least temporarily. Wine is my saviour :beer:

runmichellerun

Sarah, I can't find it right now but you said somewhere how fed up you are staying in every saturday night. Well, I'm exactly the same. I'm 29, single, no kids, not even an ex-husband to my name.

Want to know what I did tonight? I went over to my parents place to cat sit their very very old cat while they went to an office party. !!!!!!, that is beyond sad.

I know that 29 may not seem that old, but in my mind I'm gonna hit 30 and that'll be it. Nobody's going to be interested in me. And I'm annoyed at never managing to keep a decent relationship. The good ones leave me and the bad ones cling to me.

sarahb123_3

Mine too:beer: Am making the most of it though as I have decided to cut down severely/completely next year. might even last past January this year!

sarahb123_3

runmichellerun wrote: »

Sarah, I can't find it right now but you said somewhere how fed up you are staying in every saturday night. Well, I'm exactly the same. I'm 29, single, no kids, not even an ex-husband to my name.

Want to know what I did tonight? I went over to my parents place to cat sit their very very old cat while they went to an office party. !!!!!!, that is beyond sad.

I know that 29 may not seem that old, but in my mind I'm gonna hit 30 and that'll be it. Nobody's going to be interested in me. And I'm annoyed at never managing to keep a decent relationship. The good ones leave me and the bad ones cling to me.

Michelle, the way I see it is that there are thousands of decent thirty-something men out there who are decent and fabulous, I know this because I have met some of them but for a variety of reasons nothing happened. But they are there. I will not settle. I would rather have nothing and keep looking than settle for second best. At least then I can say I tried. My big dread is being stuck in the wrong relationship.

Of course people will be interested in you! There really are a lot of decent men out there. It's meeting them that is the problem as it's much harder in your 30s. So you have to finds ways to meet them. I was really surprised when I decided about a year ago that I had to meet someone and I started seriously looking. I thought men in their 30s wanted women in their 20s, and I'm sure some of them do, but a lot of them don't. A lot of them are interseted in women their own age who have something to say for themselves and I was really surprised by that.

As for going to your parents and playing with the cat, I am always surprised whem my married friends say how bored they get sometimes. I think we get seduced by the happily ever after and it isn't always like that. It's just as easy to be bored in a couple.

sarahb123_3

I know what you mean about not having an ex-husband to your name. I remember reading an article in the paper called "Is divorced the new must have thing" or something like that. I thought for God's sake, I can;t even manage that!

TDQO

Good lord, took me a good 20mins to read all that!

I'm just going to say: Cheer up! You're all sexy ladies so go out and strut your stuff on the nearest dancefloor/tabletop/pole!!!