Single and in debt.

Buffythedebtslayer

sarahb123 wrote: »

Yes it is hard, I don't care what other people think, lots of people seem to enjoy being single and I'm not in any way knocking them, it's entirely a personal choice to feel like that, but I for one am bloody sick of it, I am sick of being the oldest and the only one in my family without children. I am sick of being the only one of my friends who is not engaged/married/ having a baby. I am sick of doing every single bloody thing by myself. I am sick of my car having problems and having to deal with it all. I am sick of living in rented accommodation because there is only one salary coming in. I am sick of Saturday nights in and I am sick of a million other things.

yep. pretty much when you get down to the bare bones of it that is how I feel. I WISH I could go out and have lots of sex with lots of men and have an amazing social life and a great time - really take advantage and experience life. Sex means something to me, I can't just do it with anyone and men seem to think its on offer after a few drinks. Oh I don't know who I am kidding I have this vision of being 83 and wishing I had gone out and had sex more! but knowing my luck I 'd get some terrible disease.

When Rosa made that comment about wanting to be Nigella I thought, yep I know that feeling. I want kids and an house I want to care for some one to have a special someone who cares for me and wants to build a future. I am frightened of being alone.

I try hard to build up a wall and remind my self I don't need some one I have to do this alone and that men never like me anyway so its pointless but then Friday night and all the compliments and nice things I just start thinking its a possibility and then I get depressed cos I am fat and shy and it'll never happen.

blimey if I lose this post !

SuSu1871

sarahb123 wrote: »

Hmmm, that doesn't seem very fair, there was no way he could avoid it but he still could have been saved by the judges, so he wouldn't necessarily have been the one to leave. (I am one of those people who takes it v seriously!)

Oh, don't get me wrong, I LOVE Strictly and take it seriously enough to vote tonight, but the people on other forums are quite obsessed!!

It's not fair, though, you're right. I think if Tom wins next week the peasants will be revolting!

I think people are mainly hacked off about being asked to vote then being told that their votes won't count because "one of the contestants cannot avoid the dance-off". Well surely they knew this before the phonelines opened, so why bother getting people to vote??

Still, it makes next week a bit more interesting...

Lisa and Brendan to win!!

Buffythedebtslayer

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Hello Sarah and Buffy again

I've just read your posts, which I missed cos I was typing a reply. I'm sorry if I sounded flippant about the whole "being single at Christmas" scenario. It wasn't my intention to make light of a situation that you're obviously upset about. I just have a different mindset I guess. I'll try to be more considerate in future.

Still pals?

I didn't think you were flippant at all!

I wouldn't want a bf round on christmas day tho, but some one to escape to on boxing day to have crazy sex with would be good!

sarahb123_3

SuSu1871 wrote: »

Hello Sarah and Buffy again

I've just read your posts, which I missed cos I was typing a reply. I'm sorry if I sounded flippant about the whole "being single at Christmas" scenario. It wasn't my intention to make light of a situation that you're obviously upset about. I just have a different mindset I guess. I'll try to be more considerate in future.

Still pals?

It's fine SuSu! I just sometimes like to come on here and have a rant! I am more annoyed with the situation than upset because I know it's mostly self inflicted. Please don't feel you have to moderate what you put, you are welcome to talk about anything you want, much more interesting to have a variety of opinions! You didn't sound flippant at all and you are right, there are positives to being single at Christmas. But I never let facts get in the way of a good self-centred rant.:D

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I wouldn't want a bf round on christmas day tho, but some one to escape to on boxing day to have crazy sex with would be good!

Exactly!:D

Which reminds me, I hope Lula's enjoying her weekend!

SuSu1871

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

some one to escape to on boxing day to have crazy sex with would be good!

Ah, now that does sound like a plan!! I, however, will be spending my boxing day driving 200 miles to see the family so I can go for a big family dinner on 27th. That'll include my vile mother who I haven't spoken to for over 10 years! Deep joy :rolleyes2

Last couple of New Years have been at my brother's. no parties or anything - just me, my bro and his missus. We only know it's next year when we hear fireworks going off! We stop our conversation long enough to exchange kisses on cheeks then get back to putting the world to rights! Last time I went out on New Year I had to pay to get into my local pub!! Pay!!! I used to work there, godammit!!! :mad:

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

yep. pretty much when you get down to the bare bones of it that is how I feel. I WISH I could go out and have lots of sex with lots of men and have an amazing social life and a great time - really take advantage and experience life. Sex means something to me, I can't just do it with anyone and men seem to think its on offer after a few drinks. Oh I don't know who I am kidding I have this vision of being 83 and wishing I had gone out and had sex more! but knowing my luck I 'd get some terrible disease.

When Rosa made that comment about wanting to be Nigella I thought, yep I know that feeling. I want kids and an house I want to care for some one to have a special someone who cares for me and wants to build a future. I am frightened of being alone.

I try hard to build up a wall and remind my self I don't need some one I have to do this alone and that men never like me anyway so its pointless but then Friday night and all the compliments and nice things I just start thinking its a possibility and then I get depressed cos I am fat and shy and it'll never happen.

blimey if I lose this post !

Nail on head. I could highlight this entire post. In fact I could have written it word for word. Grrrr! I have got to do something. I can't carry on like this. It's too boring and too hard and too rubbish.

sarahb123_3

SuSu1871 wrote: »

It's not fair, though, you're right. I think if Tom wins next week the peasants will be revolting!

I think people are mainly hacked off about being asked to vote then being told that their votes won't count because "one of the contestants cannot avoid the dance-off". Well surely they knew this before the phonelines opened, so why bother getting people to vote??

If he wins it will be by [STRIKE]cheating[/STRIKE] default!

Rachel and Vincent to win!!!

SuSu1871

hmmm.... there seems to be a common thread amongst some of us of being overweight/shy as well as in debt (me included, on all three fronts), so I reckon...

We should all have a get-together next year!!!

Not necessarily to go on the pull, but just get together and make each other realise how fabulous we are!! (Pulling is an optional extra :rotfl: )

sarahb123_3

SuSu1871 wrote: »

We should all have a get-together next year

I haven't got anything to wear.