Single and in debt.

skint_spice

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

PinkTwirl - you've just got standards! Nothing to be ashamed of in that.

I've got them too - maybe they'll lower as the years go back, but at 32, I'm not chucking in the towel and settling for any less than 90% perfect at the moment!

I don't know that they do get lower, you get used to being on your own and less likely to give it up for imperfection! although personality is more important now and looks less (although not unimportant).:o

PinkTwirl

I don't know how people settle. Being with someone in that capacity would annoy me greatly. (as it seemed to annoy my ex when he was with me :rolleyes: )

SuSu1871

skint_spice wrote: »

I don't know that they do get lower, you get used to being on your own and less likely to give it up for imperfection! although personality is more important now and looks less (although not unimportant).:o

I agree, personality is very important - you need to look forward to spending time with that person, for them to make you laugh (and vice versa) and to have stimulating intellectual conversations as well as comfortable silences. Now, I have lots of male friends who tick all these boxes, but none of them are single, or if they are there's no spark between us. That's the real deal breaker isn't it - that elusive "x factor" - can't fake it and can't make it appear out of nothing.

As for looks - well, thank gawd we all like different types!! Personally, I love a bashed up looking, broken-nosed bloke (not a boy, not a geezer but a bloke).

My ideal man would have the personality and intelligence of Danny Baker, Stephen Fry and Russell Brand and the face/body of Tony Adams (former Arsenal/England captain). O. M. G. :drool: :rotfl:

SunderlandBlackCat

skint_spice wrote: »

I don't know that they do get lower, you get used to being on your own and less likely to give it up for imperfection! although personality is more important now and looks less (although not unimportant).:o

Yep, if anything I'm less likely to settle now than when I was in my twenties as I already knw settling doesn't work. I also find I'm becoming increasingly jealous of my "space" the longer I live on my own.

I struggle to imagine living with anyone else now.

SuSu1871

SunderlandBlackCat wrote: »

Yep, if anything I'm less likely to settle now than when I was in my twenties as I already knw settling doesn't work. I also find I'm becoming increasingly jealous of my "space" the longer I live on my own.

I struggle to imagine living with anyone else now.

I've never lived with a bloke who wasn't a) a brother, or b) a flatmate, so I have no idea what settling looks or feels like.

What I do know, though, is that if and when I do "settle", I'll make sure we have separate bathrooms!! It's MY space and no boys are allowed

SmileyG_2

SuSu1871 wrote: »

I agree, personality is very important - you need to look forward to spending time with that person, for them to make you laugh (and vice versa) and to have stimulating intellectual conversations as well as comfortable silences. Now, I have lots of male friends who tick all these boxes, but none of them are single, or if they are there's no spark between us. That's the real deal breaker isn't it - that elusive "x factor" - can't fake it and can't make it appear out of nothing.

As for looks - well, thank gawd we all like different types!! Personally, I love a bashed up looking, broken-nosed bloke (not a boy, not a geezer but a bloke).

My ideal man would have the personality and intelligence of Danny Baker, Stephen Fry and Russell Brand and the face/body of Tony Adams (former Arsenal/England captain). O. M. G. :drool: :rotfl:

No place for a man with the body of Danny Baker and the wit and personality of Tony Adams then?

sarahb123_3

SuSu1871 wrote: »

I've never lived with a bloke who wasn't a) a brother, or b) a flatmate, so I have no idea what settling looks or feels like.

What I do know, though, is that if and when I do "settle", I'll make sure we have separate bathrooms!! It's MY space and no boys are allowed

Same here on all counts. You forgot to mention your own sitting room to keep your books in, with big comfy chairs and a coal fire. Where you must never be disturbed!

SuSu1871

SmileyG wrote: »

No place for a man with the body of Danny Baker and the wit and personalitty of Tony Adams then?

What a hideous thought :eek: I mean, Tony's spectacularly scrumptious, but what a self-important bore!!! As for Mr Baker's body.... Oh, I do love Danny Baker though. Feel mean being mean about him when he's done nothing but make me laugh. :happyhear Tell you what, I'd rather have Danny Baker than Tony Adams any day. Gotta make me laugh till I want to pee :rotfl:

SuSu1871

sarahb123 wrote: »

Same here on all counts. You forgot to mention your own sitting room to keep your books in, with big comfy chairs and a coal fire. And you must never be disturbed!

My friend moved in with her now-husband when she was in her early 20s and they had their own bedrooms. They always slept in his room, but she kept her room in case one of them had a cold or an early start the next morning. Now that's a good idea methinks!

Buffythedebtslayer

Christian Slater.

my perfect man.

(just a mini update, ex has been in touch and been really nice)