Bleeding in pregnancy

Mips

Thanks everyone for all your advice and support, it's been very comforting to know that this is really common.

I am going to have a hot bath with a Glass of Wine later and we've just made Apple Crumble instead of Rhubarb (using normal apples, hope it turns out nice) so we're going to have a nice dinner for the first time in a few days!!

Many thanks again to you all xxxx

And to the poster who is going through the same... good luck, I really hope everything turns out for the best.

Keep us updated :A

Penny_Watcher

Dippychick wrote: »

Well the pain has come back and I've passed a huge clot which was horrible so I suppose that must be it?

That sounds very familiar. Sorry hun

Your husband sounds lovely though. Wine and a cuddle sounds like a good plan. I'll be toasting your health and future happiness this evening.

:grouphug:

Carmina_Piranha_3

sorry but that's probably it yes i asked the hospital to look at mine and tell me how far pregnant i was - they must have thought i was bonkers!

i found a hospital leaflet online last night when i was looking up ERPC as mentioned by olliesmummy and it seemed to suggest that most women can manage it at home. not sure why i got a scan, but my bleeding was very heavy so maybe they wanted to check that there was nothing in my womb.

if you are worried about the blood loss then it might be worth going in - they might scan tomorrow and check if you need treatment.

have they mentioned testing the clot? sorry that's a horrible thing to think about but i just wondered if you had to go to hospital anyway, and if so perhaps you could mention that your bleeding is heavy - because no offence but you sound like a 'get on with things' kind of person and you might need bullying into taking care of yourself. you might also want to check that you've been removed from the system and won't be getting sent any routine appointments in the post.

jackieb

Dippychick wrote: »

Well the pain has come back and I've passed a huge clot which was horrible so I suppose that must be it?

Says on my card I only need to go back to hospital if the bleeding becomes heavier than a normal period or the pains aren't relieved by paracetamol. Thankfully my husband will be home in 15 minutes to cook the dinner for everyone.

Did you get rid of the clot. One time I passed a clot that was about the size of a sanitary towel. I don't know what was in my head but I left it on the pad on top of the toilet cistern. When I went into hospital they gave my husband a kidney dish and asked him to go back to our house and get it.

cazziebo

No cuddles for me tonight (unless the dog is feeling affectionate) but I'm going to have a glass of wine and toast you as well, Dippychick.

I agree with Carmina that you sound a very pragmatic get on with it person and very strong. That doesn't mean that you don't need a bit of love and care, from yourself as well as others. So look after yourself - that's an order from all of us on here! (wish I had the wee waggy finger smiley!)

Thanks for sharing your story with us and keeping us updated.

Take care

xx

Mips

Carmina_Piranha wrote: »

sorry but that's probably it yes i asked the hospital to look at mine and tell me how far pregnant i was - they must have thought i was bonkers!

i found a hospital leaflet online last night when i was looking up ERPC as mentioned by olliesmummy and it seemed to suggest that most women can manage it at home. not sure why i got a scan, but my bleeding was very heavy so maybe they wanted to check that there was nothing in my womb.

if you are worried about the blood loss then it might be worth going in - they might scan tomorrow and check if you need treatment.

have they mentioned testing the clot? sorry that's a horrible thing to think about but i just wondered if you had to go to hospital anyway, and if so perhaps you could mention that your bleeding is heavy - because no offence but you sound like a 'get on with things' kind of person and you might need bullying into taking care of yourself. you might also want to check that you've been removed from the system and won't be getting sent any routine appointments in the post.

I felt it and just looked down to see and then I couldn't actually put it down the toilet because I didn't think want to see it.. if you see what I mean so I left it on the folded over pad and asked my husband to check it when he got home.

He said it looks like a sac and said he thinks that's it. I have since passed some smaller clots and am still bleeding but the pain has gone, largely I think due to the Ibuprofen. I heard him flush the toilet and presumed he had chucked it but he came down and asked me whether I need to keep it to give to the hospital.

I don't go until 31st and don't know what to do with it . When they examine it can they say what was wrong with it? Or do they just make sure it is actually the foetus?

I do just tend to get over things, with three little ones running around they make you get on with things, in a good way and I think without their distraction I would be more upset.

I do just feel relieved now I know, there is no way I could still be pregnant.. I think I was just hoping that there was some chance it would all be OK.. but now I am fine and we have been planning conraception.

Plus my little one demanded a different dinner to ours, then my other little one refused to eat tonight and my husband is up the wall with the lot of them

specialK

:grouphug:
So sorry about what has happened, I know you have 3 little ones to keep you busy and a fantastic hubby, but remember you can't be superwoman!

Try not to worry too much on what might have been, be thankful for the children you do have. Some women don't even get the chance to experience pregnancy, you have been blessed 3 times

I know you might not be thinking clearly at the moment but when my SIL miscarried for the first time, she was understandibly devastated. She could not understand how so much happiness could result in total despair overnight. I suggested she and my brother went to a quiet place and let a helium balloon float up to the sky, by way of saying goodbye. I think it really helped her alot, it was a sort of closure.

You may feel well in yourself but one day you might want to explode, remember we are all here with open ears and arms if needs be.

Take care of yourself and I respect your strength at this testing time.
xxx

Gingham_Ribbon

I'm so sorry. I really do hope you and your husband are looking after each other tonight. (I remember putting on a brave face, even leaving lesson plans for work the next day, then breaking down on the stairs on the way out of the hospital and sobbing into my husband's arms.)

Take care, won't you. x

Carmina_Piranha_3

hi dippy. did they ask you to bring it in? i had mine with me when i went to hospital next morning, and the doctor i saw before the scan took it for testing. she said lots of people flushed it away, so not to worry if i had.

they don't test to see if the baby had anything wrong so it wouldn't give you any clue about why you miscarried - and in most cases there probably isn't a reason, or if there was a genetic problem it is often a one-off. If you have three miscarriages you can have further tests to see if there's a reason for it - i know a girl who needed that, and she needed treatment in order to carry her next pregnancy to term.

They look to see if the pregnancy was molar, whatever that means. i also remember somebody on here a couple of years ago finding out from the tests that she had cervical cancer which needed treatment.

i'm sure others will know more. i've only miscarried once and my brain wasn't functioning too well due to not sleeping during the night.

miggy

I'm so sorry (((HUGS))), thank you for letting us know.
Please take care of yourself now, you still need to rest after all you've gone through. (Not easy with little ones of course but go easy on yourself).
Special K's idea of the helium ballon is lovely. I know when I miscarried I wanted to do something to make the world a bit different because of the baby I didn't have and if you feel the same way you might want to plant a rose or make a donation to a charity. I expect you will know what's right for you.
Take care of you,
(((More hugs)))