Fellow Dumpee's Come In Here

Drea · 13 July 2008 at 5:17PM

I know I have another thread but it was all a bit old and about things that just don't matter anymore.

Basicly, my boyfriend and I finished, he finished with me on Sunday but was still in the flat until Thursday, when I went a bit insane (as in throwing things out the window type insane) and the police had to tell him to find somewhere else to go for that night. He hasn't been back since. I heard from the person he stayed with that night that he was off to find a hostel to stay in but I know nothing more.

We had been arguing for months and him dissapearing all night, etc. But, I still love him, I'm trying to be strong and get on with things but I just can't seem to. I've never lived by myself and I'm just sitting here looking around, seeing stuff that's his and not being able to move them yet. I know if he came home I'd take him back, and I know it's wrong for me to think like that. But, I really think he won't come back, even for his things...

Anyone in my position? How are you feeling? Maybe we could just help each other out by having someone to talk to.

Paparika · 13 July 2008 at 5:21PM

Start off get some boxes and pack his stuff to one side.

Get hold of some friends and have a girly night

Drea · 13 July 2008 at 5:31PM

I know, people keep saying to pack his things up, but I'm not sure I could yet, I think It'd just make me worse at the moment.

Not really got many friends either...

Mips · 13 July 2008 at 5:35PM

Have you got any Chocolate or Ice Cream? Get in a lovely hot bath, soak for ages and relax.. then either read a book or watch a nice film

Or clean the flat manically... always makes me feel better when my living space is spotless.

Drea · 13 July 2008 at 5:37PM

Got a bit of chocolate, and some toffee, oh and plenty of lolly's.

That's another thing, I've got to phone LL some time soon and see what's going to happen there, I'll probably end up in a hostel too, not got any money saved back for the deposit/first month rent for another place.

Mips · 13 July 2008 at 5:44PM

Drea wrote: »

Got a bit of chocolate, and some toffee, oh and plenty of lolly's.

That's another thing, I've got to phone LL some time soon and see what's going to happen there, I'll probably end up in a hostel too, not got any money saved back for the deposit/first month rent for another place.

Ouch!

Can you contact your ex? Apologise for being a psycho and explain it would be better if he stayed to help with rent so that you can go your separate ways amicably, and both find yourselves alternative accommodation properly and not end up in bedsits?

Drea · 13 July 2008 at 5:48PM

He cheated, hence the acting insane...

But no, I've tried getting in touch with him and he won't answer phone/reply texts etc. What a mess.

Mips · 13 July 2008 at 5:50PM

Drea wrote: »

He cheated, hence the acting insane...

But no, I've tried getting in touch with him and he won't answer phone/reply texts etc. What a mess.

Oh no you don't want him back at all.. he should have left immediately! :mad:

elkay115 · 13 July 2008 at 6:56PM

My advice is MAKE SURE YOU HAVE SOME DINNER!!

Drea · 13 July 2008 at 7:50PM

elkay115 wrote: »

My advice is MAKE SURE YOU HAVE SOME DINNER!!

But I'm to eat chocolate! :rotfl:

elkay115 · 13 July 2008 at 8:06PM

Drea wrote: »

But I'm to eat chocolate! :rotfl:

No chocolate until you have eaten your dinner!! Mummy says so!

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