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Brighton_belle

vixarooni wrote: »

Just had a phone call during writing this message from my uncle saying that my auntie is in hospital what are palputations? Doesnt sound anything too serious but theyre keeping her in. Hope shes going to be ok!

anyway, chat laters folks

Palpitations are when your heart pounds a bit to quickly for a prolonged period - ish. Doesn't mean it's really bad, but being the heart they would want to check what and why. It can happen for all sorts of reasons.

Just a flying visit - had a busy busy day and a few more bits of decluttering to do yet and a pudding to make. Hope to respond a bit more to peeps tomorrow.

tagz

Hi Vix

Palpatations are basically extra heartbeats or when your heart skips a beat. Try not to worry too much - I've had them before and I'm fine.

Crouch look gorgeous last night! I was sitting right opposite him. Lovely smile too.

Hi BB Just saw we posted about the same time. Glad we concur.

dellybelly_2

Ahem - yeah, about the comfort eating thing - 2/3rds of a large fruit & nut and an apple and cream puff later, the comfort eating has officially kicked in....:o

Sobbed my heart out today before I left the wee dog over with my friend. The house seems so empty now that OH and my pup pup are away. I definitely don't want to stay here but am tied in with morgage and housing issues. Friends etc are trying to encourage me to go for a private rental but I would prefer to go to local authority housing

Sorry, am not having a good day today. 7th wedding anniversary would have been tomorrow and it looks like the other thread has been temporarily removed.

beanielou

Hi Delly~Sorry things are tough today.
Thats how it goes ~ good days , bad days.(Sounds like an Abba song!! Sorry)
I had to do the same with a dog so know how hard it is.
You could start another thread in the Arms~personally think its a wee bit scary in there.
Anyway take care.
Huggles
Lou xx

funkyfunkymonkey

Hi Delly

Can't offer any advice, but happy to chat. Try and avoid the comfort eating if you can - you have done so well, it would be a shame to sabotage it now.

Leaving pets can be a real wrench, but it's not permanent is it? Is there any way you could keep your pup with you - just being there they offer so much.

FFM

Brighton_belle

Hi delly - I guess wretched days like this are inevitable - you've been through so much in such a short space of time and you've done so well. Such platitudes don't help the utter misery that washes over at time like these though does it. Not having the dog around in the evenings makes me realise it was a tough decision for you with DS in bed. And the anniversary is a definite downer. It is so unfair when one half looks to keep the marriage vows but is still left with little choice in the matter. Roll on Monday and that day is behind you and things will be alot better this time next year:grouphug: . There's a time to be brave, but definitely a time to howl and eat the chocolate.

bb
xx

vixarooni

Delly: hugs to you, my words are absolute crap to the more professional human beings, as you can imagine, so i shall offer you my hugs instead!

My auntie had a heart attack.......last sunday! My uncle didnt tell me on the phone because he thought id get upset. He also must have missed about 10 of my birthdays, i think at 22 i can handle it. So yea!

my mother is annoying me with her superstition. My auntie having a heart attack and a lady at her bowles club got taken to hospital with a stroke means that a third thing is going to happen before were in the clear. grrrrrrrr

anyway, not to be morbid, im going on my first hen night in november. At work we have knickers that say "bride to be" and "bridemaid" so the theme is to wear those over leggins (not sure how thats going to look!)

Going for a meal out tomorrow night with matts family. Heres hoping crouch will be there!

fatgit

Hello folks - mind if I join you?

Ok, here's the statistics:

27 yrs old male
20st 11 lbs
5ft 9in (I think, maybe 5ft 8.5ins )

Anyway, I've never been a Slim Jim but a few things around me have made me particularly worried about my weight. And not to mention if I lost weight, my general wellbeing (day-to-day) would probably be so much better!

Thing is, I am not sure if I have a 'problem'.

Unlike most 20 - 30 yr old single males my vices aren't booze and takeaways. It's chocolate. I've been eating at least 3 - 4 chocolate bars per day for a few years now, sometimes I've cut the chocolate out all together, but even since I was 13/14 yrs old I've been scoffing loads of chocolate. The other day there I actually wondered if I have an addiction to chocolate but 'internet research' kinda proved that is a bit of a ridiculous idea - what do you think?

Moreoever, in the past few months I have been 'supplementing' my chocolate bars with milkshakes from my local Tesco Express. Not good.

Clearly, this huge amount of sugar isn't doing me any good. Now I am petrified that this sustained high-sugar intake over at least the past 12 years will put me on a sure-fire path to developing diabetes.

The possible development of diabetes was really brought home to me when my father told me that a cousin of mine has developed diabetes and is in a bad way. My cousin is probably 15 years older than me but, the more I think about it, physically we appear to be very similar. My cousin has always been overweight and when we are both overweight the facial similarities are quite striking. Unfortunately, my cousin is quite literally dying from diabetes. I haven't seen my cousin for probably some 10 years (not that we don't get on, we just lead very different lives). Anyway, he is in a wheelchair and he is almost 100% blind. My older sister happened to see him in town a couple of months ago and she had to aviod him because she was so upset at seeing the state he is in. I don't think it the magnitude has hit me 100% yet - probably becuase I haven't seen him - but it upset my sister.

Which leads me onto another point...members of my family have been really upset at the way my weight has crept up. My Mum & Dad (M&D) said to me a few months ago that after I had visited my sister's house she was in tears after I left, just because I was so heavy and combined with what is happening to my cousin, it was too much for her.

So, there's not just health reasons for me losing weight - I am hurting members of my family by being the way I am.

Health and family reasons aside, there are other reasons why I want to lose weight

- some seven-ish years ago, I joined HM Forces. Prior to joining the Forces, I was in the Reserves while I was sponsored through University. When I joined university, my weight was actually okay. I wasn't fighting fit but I could hold my own and I had a lot of confidence. My weight crept up through Univeristy, to the point that just before I was due to join the Forces, I got a letter saying I was about 1.5stones over their maximum weight. When I went travelling for 6 weeks with friends between end of Uni and joining the Forces, I managed to lose the required weight.. The reason I am saying this, is becuase I happened to find a photograph of me about 2 weeks before I joined the Forces. I LOOKED AMAZING. I was really fit, slim and because I had been in the sun for 6 weeks I had a great tan haha! I'd love to look like that again. My career in the Forces was cut short for academic reasons (another LONG story) and I was discharged some 4.5 years ago and I think this was a factor in my wieght gain - eating Sh*t as some sort of condolence.

- around the same time I was fit and healthy, becuase I looked and felt good I was having a lot of success with the ladies :rotfl: I'm no hunk facially, but because I was physically fit, I had lots of confidence and had no problems talking to women and (if I say so myself) I did quite well for myself. However, since I've piled the weight on I've not had much (read: any) luck with women, my confidence around them has taken a complete and utter battering as I know they're not interested in a 20st fatty. I really want this to change. I don't particularly want nor am I looking for a serious girlfriend, I just want to know that IF someone I really liked came into my life, then I want to know that I'd have to confidence to take some action.

- another reason as well - I've been to lots of wedding recently and, quite frankly, I am not interested in seeing tghe picutres of me from the weddings because I am overweight and look like the token fat git in the pictures. I played a key role in one of these weddings but I am kind of ashamed to look back at the photos because I look so heavy in them!

- I also think my career may be held back becuase of my weight. I know this may sound daft but I'm almost not taken seriously in my office (small office) becuase of my chocolate intake. In addition to this, I find it really difficult to find suits that look good. I've grown out of most of my shirts, so I don't wear a tie that often now. Also, because my belly is huge, the shirt is often awkward to tuck into my trousers and it doesn't look good! As a result of the above, I'm not feeling 100% confident in executing my duties at work and I think my ill-fitting suits don't leave particularly good impressions with clients or fellow workers and bosses. My career took a knockback (see bit about Forces above) and I had to start from Square One a few years ago. I see friends progressing much quicker than me and everything seems to be working out for them - they are healthy, they've got good paying jobs but I'm a few steps back. Thing is - I shouldn't be. I like to think I am quite a bright individual, my degree certainly wasn't a Mickey Mouse degree and I performed very well at school.

So folks, there you go. Sorry about the War and Peace length post, but I really feel like I had to get that off my chest.

There are a multitude of reasons why I MUST lose weight, thing is, mentally I don't know if I am 100% committed. God knows why, because this obesity is going to kill me if I don't sort it out.

So, if you don't mind I'd love to join in this thread - to get support and advice from people who are maybe in the same situation or have been in the same situation.

How do you all do it (lose weight, that is!)?

I tried going along to Weight Watchers but I didn't feel like the meetings were for me. No offence, but there were too many middle aged women and I felt TOTALLY out of place.

Any hints and tips folks?

leyla-aurelia

Aaw Delly, you're doing so well hun, have you tried writing a list of what you need to achieve /change to be able to get your pup back, then at least you can be proactive. I hope things start to look up soon, you really are managing fantastically!!!!

Vix, sorry about your aunt, I hope she's better soon--daft uncle eh! Sweet that he wants to protect you though, little flower that you are

Hi and welcome FG, I'm fairly new too (I'm a middle aged female tho:o ), there are a few blokes here so hopefully you won't feel too out of place. I know what you mean about holding back your career, I feel the same, people just don't seem to look at me the in the same way as a slim person:rolleyes: . Oh and as far as I know, as soon as you cut down on sugar, your blood sugar starts stabalising and you move away from pre-diabetic. Might be an idea to see the doc for advice and a check up though, just to be on the safe side! Anyway, well done for joining/posting, that's step one--see you're already on the way to being skinny!

fatgit

Hey Leyla - cheers for the words.

for the record, I had a diabetes check probably about 12 months ago and it was clear.