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Brighton_belle

bails wrote: »

EDIT: Duvet day here too Bb, put the kettle on will ya?

If you supply the biscuits


Edit PS Andyslinz - it's do as I say, not do as I do...:rotfl:

bails

Sorry, been at the shop getting the biscuits in - while I was out I also ran a marathon and won a Teacher of the Year award I nearly bought you Bourbons to go with your pressie but resisted

victory

bails wrote: »

I miss my life so much it's unbearable at times. It's been particualrly diffilcult over the past couple of months and I cant seem to shake it off; I've lost my fight

I can relate to that and I am sure many others can, I miss my life, I miss being happy go lucky get up and go rather than thinking all the time have I got my insulin, have I got my tablets, can I walk today if I walk today how much pain will I be in tomorrow, what is the price I will be paying... I can so relate to missing the past life but I try every negative has a positive, I hear Jade Goody has cervical cancer and yet again I am humbled with the fight people have to put up to just be here....
Maybe don't shake it off, wallow in it, it does you good sometimes to see how bad it is to then climb back up again, it is black and dark and bad and difficult but there is also good and light and hope and happiness it is just knowing how to reach out for it, appreciate it, take it and if possible go with it.
I miss my character as well now I am a lot more stroppier, worrier, planner, difficult to live with and have impossible moods due to the insulin and tablets, lack of sleep and annoyance at the way things were, before I was just me easy going, happy pleasing to be with, now people have to get out of my way if it is a bad day, ha ha.


On a lighter note my red dress for the posh wedding cannot be taken in, it has a drop waist and the seamstress says what with that and lining no way and because it has to go down 2 sizes even more no way, which leaves me with nothing to wear and an expense to buy another one that I did not anticipate and cannot cover, my mother said try charitiy shops which I will as sometimes they have designer decent clothes in there so will do that tomorrow, today celebrating birthday on my own as OH is still sulking doing up the bathroom with the door closed:rolleyes:

The_Dragon

bails wrote: »

Happy Birthday Vic, hope you have a lovely day!

Thanks for all the support over the personal shopping nightmare. I told the PS that I wanted to look young and vibrant (the two things I don't feel) but despite her best efforts I still couldn't get away from how much weight I've put on and muscle tone I've lost It's tough because there'll be loads of people there I won't have seen for years who'll just think 'my, hasn't she got fat!' without really knowing about or understanding my illness. It's one of the few times I wish it wasn't an 'invisible illness'. (although technically I guess it's not as my unhappiness shows in my weight). Sorry, I'll get a grip soon, I know it's just one day (and photos for all enternity :rolleyes:)

Another happy birthday for Vic from me as well!

Bails I remember having to go and see my ex-colleagues in the Army when all the weight had piled on (14 stone in a year! :eek:) and was dreading it - luckily they had all (well nearly all!) been warned and I only got one "sheesh, gods is she preggers or something, she has got REALLY fat!!" comment - at which point all the others jumped on him and squashed him flat (metaphorically speaking - if I had jumped on him I would have squashed him flat literally :rotfl:), being in a University city we get loads of young fit people and I have had a number of "look at the stupid, fat cripple" comments - one of the college porters knows me and knows the history and turn round and ripped one of these a new one :rotfl: - my attitude a lot of the time (unless I am really down), is "yes I am fat, you are stupid, I can do something about mine in time, can you?", so go in looking smart with your head raised and just think you are sooooooooooooooooooo much better than all of them! after all YOU can cope with anything thrown at you - can they?

*snerk* with all my "getting stuff down for Bails" I forgot to say that I have lost 2 pounds this week LOL

Suggs

victory wrote: »

missy hope you soon recover;)

bb thanks but yet again it has gone all wrong, we , I, caused a huge row and now we are trying to avoid each other, I lost my rings last year in the sea, before we moved from London a few months ago I saw one, a very good replica of my engagement ring and dropped hint after hint, two weeks ago it was my wedding anniversary but was in Spain (expected secretly to be greeted with the ring at the airport) two weeks later today my birthday, nothing, no presents but hey you can jump in the car with me go 60 miles there and back get the ring and I can buy you a pair of earings to match....lovely thought but that is it no thought put into it whatsover and I am spitting venom because from a womans point of view should have been bought, parcelled, labelled and given to me if not WA then today but yet again he did not go the extra, he just expects me to be pleased he thought about it, yes go ahead call me childish, selfish, ungratefull and more I call myself but I see it my way and he sees it his way and as far as I am concerned right now he can put his ring where the sun ...:rolleyes:

Dear childish, selfish, ungrateful and more!
Im in your OH camp on this one, to me only one ring is to be bought on its own (if at all possible) and that is the engagement ring. However ring sizing aside, I personally think its more romantic to buy it together, make a day of it and enjoy each others company. But as I say thats a male view and a view from someone that would not want to have bought the wrongly sized or even a correctly sized but it wont fit ring
I remember on rugby tour 18months ago when my Claddagh ring (Got it as a 21st birthday present from my Gran) went missing. When I rung MrsS nearly in tears to say, first thing she said was that although she cant replace it exactly we can go to Ireland and buy a replacement together. That meant more to me than anything

Missy™

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Good to have you back missy - I trust the Dr defined 'light exercise' so you're singing from the same hymnsheet:D .

Haha - you know me too well I will miss my exercise of course, but mending properly is more important. I know what I have to [not] do

Bails, I know I can't truly understand what you are going through, but I can totally relate to what you're feeling. I reckon it would be near impossible not to pine terribly I hope something comes along to give you a nice boost soon and that goes for anyone else on here who needs it too.

Brighton_belle

Suggs wrote: »

Dear childish, selfish, ungrateful and more!
Im in your OH camp on this one, to me only one ring is to be bought on its own (if at all possible) and that is the engagement ring. However ring sizing aside, I personally think its more romantic to buy it together, make a day of it and enjoy each others company. But as I say thats a male view and a view from someone that would not want to have bought the wrongly sized or even a correctly sized but it wont fit ring
I remember on rugby tour 18months ago when my Claddagh ring (Got it as a 21st birthday present from my Gran) went missing, When I rung MrsS nearly in tears to say, first thing she said was that although she cant replace it exactly we can go to Ireland and buy a replacement together. That meant more to me than anything

I confess Suggs I feel the same as you -a day out together is always just lovely and a ring is such a personal thing to wear that to choose it together would be part of our bond.
Sorry your day has gone pear shaped for you though Victory and I appreciate you wanted something different and are disappointed. And also that with your meds you aren't who you used to be and it affects your mood. That is tough. But maybe what you feel would be 'making an effort' is completely differnt to your DH's perspective - he's been at home 4 weeks on his own and doing lots of decorating? Sounds pretty brill effort to me . Hope the 'making up' totally compensates...
OH bought me a little spotty blue & white tea 'mug for one' with a little lid and strainer and i was thrilled. Honest:o . (And yes that was 'all' I got from him). OK, feel free to throw something at me now victory for me an unbareably smug goody two shoes:rotfl: . Going to hide behind the sofa now...

tagz

Happy birthday Victory:bdaycake: !

I can see both sides but have to say I think your OH probably doesn't deserve such a hard time. He did remember and at least he wanted to get you something that he knew you wanted. My OH once bought me a two foot tall hat (think of the Mad Hatter and you are nearly there) on my birthday and I went ape! Was angry he didn't know me better. Yesterday was our 19th anniversary and I think he learnt from his mistake, He wants to get me a new camera but instead of getting the wrong one he wants us to go out at the weekend so I can choose one. So nothing to unwrap but I know he has thought about what I like.

Missy Take care! Hope it's not painful.

Bails I know what you mean about meeting up with people. I was asked to go to a reunion last Sat and thankfully we were already booked to go out. I felt too ashamed to meet them. I used to be sporty and vivacious and was told I was considered the looker in the class (didn't believe it at the time but would now like to think it true!), and through illness I'm twice the girl I used to be!

Andy welcome! I have to pop in here at least once a day to keep up!

Last night we went to see Spamalot (did I mention it was our 19th anniversary?:D ) and it was brilliant. Sanjeev Baskhar was King Arthur and he was great. Went out earlier with the kids bowling and we had lunch out too so diet well and truly out the window yesterday but I enjoyed every mouthful!

katiepoppycat

my oh buys me books. in 4 years i think i've had 1 thing that wasn't a book - a dvd. He's terrified of buying gifts because his exwife used to go ape if he 'got it wrong' so he's so burned that he just plays it safe now. Sometimes it would be nice for a bit of romance, but he did quite well on valentines day - i got a poetry book titled 'blood and roses'. which sounds terrible, but I was looking for a poem to take to a WI poetry reading, and it was a book of historical ones. His only rule is that he won't buy me a book that he REALLY wants himself. Vic, you're OH probably genuinely thought that was the most romantic way to do things, men think in totally different directions to women. Go and offer him a game of scrabble and go out tomorrow!

Andy, I'm not a great one for advice( see the above post on do as i say not as i do) but I have 2 dealing tactics for snacking. The first is to promise yourself you can have it . . . at the weekend. by the time you get there, you probably won't want it. The second i learned yesterday, and is not very mse - buy it, have a bite and bin it.

Bails, your post really struck a chord, it's horrible to feel like you are being watched and judged. Takes you right back to school doesn't it? And of course there's the self destruct impulse that springs from 'well i feel like a big old troll, what difference does it make at this stage if i do eat that packet of biscuits?' I'm sorry, i don;t have the answer, but we all think you're fab, and we know you are quite the hottie anyway. Just flutter those big old eyes and they'll all melt.

victory

Thanks peeps:D can always rely on you all and very much appreciated but the whole day is ruined as we see it differently so the milk choc hobnobs are getting it and I will cause mayhem in anger tomorrow when my numbers rocket sky high:rolleyes: kids wanted KFC so we never went out to the carvery just me and him and to be honest we never wanted to spend time together today after all the upset and yes he has been home alone for a month decorating the tiling the painting the fixing all he has done and I bought him a card that says I appreciate him, everything he has done for us the house the school appeal etc and he was happy with that and appreciates that I appreciate:D no I am wrong he is wrong we are wrong, the ring should have been here with me now and the romantic side says he should have come to spain to deliver it :rotfl: :rotfl: the financial side says what do I need the ring for? Don't even think of buying it when we have just taken on a mortgage so he will never have a chance of winning poor sod:rotfl: let's just leave it as a bad communication day let him sulk, tomorrow is another day:D