OliveOyls 82 day challenge

OliveOyl_2

He'll look better when your eyesight fails :rotfl:
Popeye thinks I'm gorgeous, I'm always going to go for a near-blind bloke from now on

(we're 48 - he will be soon anyway. And I only look in my very early 40's:o )

boredofbeingathome

I look younger than my age..but it could be my eyes!

OliveOyl_2

Are you not like your Avatar?

Good night

boredofbeingathome

OliveOyl wrote: »

Are you not like your Avatar?

Good night

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: Add curly brown hair a couple of stones and about 20 years, then yep am the spitting image!:rotfl:

OliveOyl_2

I'm more like Wimpy, than Olive

Morning, the day is shiny and bright and I'm looking for help

My irritating 18 yr old DS2 has been lolling around at home now for a couple of weeks. Before that he has had TWO holidays courtesy of his Dad. He has spent his days tidying, retidying and sorting his room. Catching up on the American TV that he didn't see while he was at school. And he has done most of the washing up for the family.
He has done a couple of jobs for me. Half mowed the lawn, (left the mower out for me to finish because the cat's "business" made him feel sick) and sorted the CD's, and signed on with ONE agency. I'm having trouble motivating him, but I think it's him v me rather than total laziness.

Tonight for example we (me and him) have been invited to go techie side at a massive concert. He won't go, though he'd like the music, he'd probably like the kudos of back stage passes, and he doesn't have an aversion to being seen out with me. Popeye can't believe that he doesn't want to go, and is urging me to go without him, but I'd like the company. I think DS2 just wants to lie on the sofa watching TV and drinking beer and I'm struggling to understand that, after all, that's what he's been doing for 2 weeks

He is very intelligent and has a vicious tongue -when we argue, he can really be hurtful. But then he can be the most charming bloke in the universe. We say that he can argue in an empty room but when we're out, he's great company. I wish he'd DO something. :rotfl:

hypno06

He's 18......argumentative, demotivated, lazy, irritating.....it's all in the job description of an 18 year old!

But the fact that he has tidied and re-tidied his room is actually a positive.....many of that age would be doing all the telly watching, beer drinking, arguing whilst being surrounded by bedroom squalor.

For what its worth, I think you SHOULD go out tonight. If you don't go, on the basis that he won't go, then he wins........don't let him see that he has any sort of control over you.....emotional or physical. That way, it may be less likely to be an issue in the future. He may well even turn round at the last minute and say "well I might as well go too" if he knows you are going anyway.

If it is him v you........make sure you win.

OliveOyl_2

hypno06 wrote: »

If it is him v you........make sure you win.

I think it's too late

No you're probably right, it's because he is 18. I think he is an adult, but he's behaving like a teenager (8-TEEN, the clue is in the word )
Sometimes he is So grown-up and wise, sometimes he has tantrums

Well I'm off out tonight to an amazing concert with a back stage pass I shall strut around in techie-black looking important :rotfl:

hypno06

OliveOyl wrote: »

Well I'm off out tonight to an amazing concert with a back stage pass I shall strut around in techie-black looking important :rotfl:

And you will have a fab time!

OliveOyl_2

So before I go I must:

• hang out my bedding to dry, and possibly a couple more loads.
• get some stuff into the loft, and some crates down.
• Pack Boot fair stuff into crates to go into Sis's car tomorrow.
• List some more pf Popeyes [STRIKE]carp[/STRIKE] treasure on e-bay so that [STRIKE]other sad anoraks [/STRIKE]discerning buyers can spend their bank holiday buying them.
• Get a few bits in town
• Google directions for tonight
• Lounge in a scented bath, beautifying myself :rotfl: :rotfl:

Karmacat

Hi Olive! Great thread - and I'm so glad you're going to that concert, sounds fab. And you're right about the black, just *got* to.

"18" is definitely the job description your DS2 is looking at, tho its surprising he's attended to his room - thats part of the deceptively adult stuff around him, I think. Hypno's right, he may well turn around and come with you, then if not, not.... but you're the one that got the passes, remember that, not him, you're the one who's connected. My eyes would be swivelling on sticks if I had a pass like that, I bet it'll be a great experience, really interesting.