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    • tea lover
    • By tea lover 7th Feb 14, 11:08 AM
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    tea lover
    The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)
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    • 7th Feb 14, 11:08 AM
    The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+) 7th Feb 14 at 11:08 AM
    Welcome to the long term TTC thread! This is for people who have been TTC for a while, or know they are going to not have a straightforward experience of TTC. There is a huge range of reasons why people post here, and most of them have put a summary below so you can get your bearings.

    Everyone is welcome, and please don't be intimidated by the banter. The ladies here understand the long term heartache of this process, and also can give lots of advice and experience. It's also a great place to rant when one more facebook friend starts to complain about how wonderfully fertile she is!

    The normal TTC thread is here: and the ladies there are lovely too.

    The first post there also gives some of the acronyms, but please don't hesitate to ask anyone here if there are some you don't understand.

    Team TTC info
    • Angeltreats TTC#1 since 08/12, NTNP for at least a year before that. 33 OH 33. Investigation so far: Scan & 21 day bloods for me, all ok. OH has low sperm count & low motility. Next step: First FS appointment 28 November & DH urology appointment 29 November
    • Babywanted TTC for 10 years, all tests clear on both me and hubby, unexplained infertility, miscarried twins April 2012
    • bigmomma051204 TTC#2 since 01/12. PCOS. One ovary due to childhood issue. Overweight, but regular 28 day cycle.
    • Chickpea. 40 TTC#2 since 09/09. Mmc Aug 2013 and m/c Dec 2013. Treatment: run out of options, hoping for a miracle.
    • codemonkey TTC#1 since Oct 2010. 34, DH 32. Investigations so far: Transvaginal ultrasound and HSG all normal, SA showed azoospermia with no vas deferens. MESA/TESA impossible. TESE ruled out due to high risk. Next step: lick our wounds and consider sperm donation/adoption routes.
    • cwtw Ttc #1 since Jan 12, me 31 OH 32. Me: PCO normal weight and symptomless except bleeding too often; some anovulatory cycles. OH normal everything. Next Step: On inositol, first fs appt Sept 13 eek.
    • Danielley TTC#1 since July 2012. Me - almost 35, OH - 34, currently under a consultant at Liverpool Womens, had initial tests (D3 & D21 bloods, external ultrasound, HSG, SA) All fine other apart from borderline abnormal creatinine level in blood so repeating test. Been prescibed 3months Clomid - 1st Cycle Oct 13. Next step: Appt with FS 18/12/13
    • Elsie37 TTC#1 since 02/12. 31. Next step: FS appointment 29 July
    • emmaj30 37. DH 43. Just gone on IVF list. Laproscopy fine and no blockage in tubes. No endo and diagnosed with Unexplained fertility. Hope to start treatment in next 2-4 months (updated Feb14)
    • Fairy Dust TTC#1 since 2006 (well NTNP for the first year). DH 38 Me 38. Unexplained infertility. All tests normal (strange how you hope that they find something wrong that they can "fix"). Failed IVF 1st cycle August 2013. Next Step Booked in for 2nd cycle Feb 2014.
    • Floaty (34) DH 38. TTC#1 since 01/2009. Unexplained IF. Had all FS tests (day 3 bloods, ov+7d bloods, internal ultrasounds, HSG, several SAs and a Lap&Dye - all look normal). Next step: FS appointment 11th March, hopefully for IVF referral.

      FrozenPenguin TTC#1 since Dec 2011. Me 31, DH 35, Me: mild PCOS,irregular cycles and irregular ovulation. Had Day 3/Day 21 tests, Ultrasound,HSG, 7 rounds of Clomid. DH: low SA in all 3 areas (count, morphology and motility)and a varicocele. Next step: Provera, Suprecur and Gonal-F to start January, ICSI planned for mid February
    • goodvibes TTC#1 since 04/12. 36 OH 38. Investigation so far. Me no problems OH low sperm count. Next step: ICSI treatment to start end of feb 14
    • isla_red TTC#1 since 05/11, 32 OH 33. I have a history of painful ovarian cysts but all scans internal and external clear and 21 day bloods okay for me. Discovered OH has a low sperm count in 2012 so removed from IUI list and transferred to ICSI list. Next step Currently awaiting reaching top of NHS ICSI waiting list, first appointment predicted circa Jan 2014
    • lisawood78 TTC # 1 since 2003, I'm 35 hubby 38. Hubby no issues. No fallopian tubes due to ectopic pregnancies caused by severe adhesions. 9 Failed IVF/ICSI/FET cycles. Next Step: Surrogacy consultation on October 4th
    • Littleme82: Me 32; DP 45. TTC since 09.2012. Blood tests show low progesterone; DP SA not great; prescribed clomid currently on 8th cycle; scans last year all ok; HSG looks fine; seeing FS to discuss next steps on 04.03.14.
      loveactually me 33, DH 43, officials started TTC from May 2013 but NTNP from last 2 years. no problems from DH. For me moderate endo which was operated in Nov/13. But very low ovarian reserve according to AMH test and FSH hormone so referred to IVF first appointment on 4 February
    • lucyloo77 TTC#1 since 07/2011. 35, OH is 41. OH has low SA/motility, me no known issues. Unsuccessful IVF/ICSI in May 2013 and August 2013.
    • MrsDavo TTC#1 (together) since 01/2011. 25, OH : 35. I have 6yr old girl, he has 4yr old girl both from different relationships. MMC April 2012. Diagnosed PCOS Dec 2012 - i ovulate on my own maybe twice a year! Male slightly low. Tried 3 cycles of Clomid in 2013. Next step: Metformin for 3 months daily, back to FS on 5/2/14.
    • onestep TTC#2 (dd 9) we've stopped actively ttc now, & are investigating adoption. Next Step Waiting to be assigned a SW
    • Part Mouse TTC#1 since 2009. 29 DH 36. PCOS, blocked right tube, no ov. Male problems as well. No response to tamoxafin. Next Step: Currently injecting Menpur to stimulate ovulation.
    • Peonie TTC #1 since 08/10. 35, DH 38. Severe endo. 1 MC 06/12. Next step: IVF short protocol in January..
    • Purcy81 TTC#1 since 09/12 aged 32 DH aged 32. 2MC (Oct 12 & Jun 13) Irregular and long cycles with late OV and short LP (managed to get it to 10 days now with AC and Vit B6). Other than this no known problems on either side. Next steps Just keep trying, both MC have been confirmed by the doctor but no medical help or even testing will be forthcoming as we can get pregnant and they only test after 3MC as having 2 is "probably just bad luck"
    • Picklekin TTC #1 since July 2012. Unexplained fertility. Tried 6 months of clomid without success. Now waiting for a referral to a new gynaecologist for a second opinion.
    • Primmer TTC#1 since 2009. 39, DH 48. Unexplained infertility. Unsuccessful IVF treatment. Considering adoption but still hoping for a miracle.
    • sadshoequeenAge 39 originally TTC #1 2009, mc may 2011, breastcancer diagnosis aug 2011, TTC again since July 2013 think ovulating but maybe randomly as one ovary, fsh levels fine. Next step: unsure
    • Sewit TTC #1 Oct 2011. Me - 35, DH 38. Unexplained Infertility. AMH 4. 1st IVF 8 eggs, 4 fertilised, 2x2dt -BFN Stepping away from TTC until Jan 2014.
    • skint_catt TTC#2. (DD aged 2). Weve been trying for 12 months & hubby is 42 & I am 36. next step: pelvic scan 24/10/13 & waiting for AF for GP to do more bloods on CD3.
    • Skaps So far have had my blood tests, OH has had his tests which have come back fine. Had an ultrasound and they think they found a polyps so am going to have a hysteroscopy to check and remove it if its there.
    • Smookle TTC for approx 18 months. Aged 27. DH 29. Had laproscopy and diagnosed with moderate Endo and adhesions. All allegedly fixed and fine but still not pregnant. Regular, short cycles, ovulating 2 out of 3 times. Failed IUI Dec/14 Next step - IVF/ICSI referral for Jan 14
    • Star02 Married in 2008 and been trying to conceive since 2009, in 2011 had tests and confirmed would need ICSI, however I was too young to qualify for NHS funding. Next Step Just received letter to have a referral as although still to young based on prior criteria they have removed the lower age limit due to the change in the age discrimination laws.
    • teaandcupcakeordeath TTC #1 since 04/2011. Me (30). BMI 31. Unicornuate Uterus, PCOS, Mild Endo. Irregular cycles. Elevated Prolactin. DH (30) Poor SA results (count, motility and morphology). Next Step: Slowly going mad. Awaiting Brain MRI results to check for benign tumour. Next Step: 2 cycles of NHS IVF with ICSI approved when results are in and BMI at target.
    • Tea Lover TTC#1 since 2009. Me - 35, endo, pcos. OH - 41, v poor SA results (count, motility, morphology). Clomid - didn't do much. One ICSI cycle - BFP then early m/c. Next step: ICSI #2 - Feb14.
    • theonlywayisup TTC#1 since feb 12. Me (29) pcos, long irregular cycles. OH (30) awaiting results of SA. Also awaiting fs appointment and results of possible partial molar pregnancy.
    • tia86 TTC1 since 12/12 (27 years old, OH 28). First appointment with FS booked for March. Scan for PCOS booked for Feb.
      time2deal TTC#1 since 10/11. 37. DH 376. Low AMH, Low SA - but ovulating fine. Overweight (29 BMI). Cervical cancer 12/12 (remission 03/13). IVF 01/13 9 frozen embryos. IVF Nov 2013 cycle cancelled due to cervical scarring. 3 embryos frozen. Next Step Unsure. Considering NHS IVF
    • Vesper 29 been with hubby since 2003. NTNP since end of 2003. Early MC 2006. It made us realise the time was right and started trying properly by following Ov in around 2010, and using a cbfm in Oct 2011. Hubby had mumps as a toddler. SA in 08 showed a low sperm count, but not sure on details. Next Steps. trying to get a SA for hubby again, and been refered for day 21 bloods at local hospital. Waiting for appointment.
    • Whattodonow TTC#1 for for over 2 years. 32, Had all scans - OK, OH has supersperm, I have around 11 AMH, so not great. Three rounds of clomid - totally eff-ed up my cycle and effected my eyesight, so didn't complete 4th round. Next step Awaiting consultant appointment to begin IVF treatment
    • Wonder Woman TTC#1 for approx. 1 year. Me: 27, no known problems, DH: 34, problem with vas deferens. On 1st NHS IVF cycle (long protocol)Next step Down reg scan booked for 12 Nov 13. Hoping for EC in w/c 25 Nov 13.
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    • ellesbellesxxx
    • By ellesbellesxxx 29th Dec 16, 10:05 AM
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    Congratulations skaps!!!! Hope you are snuggled up together enjoy this special time xxxxx
    • dragoneye454
    • By dragoneye454 5th Jan 17, 12:36 PM
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    Hi all,

    Joined the TTC thread and they suggested popping over here.

    We have been TTC since Dec 2014. Overweight but normal cycles.
    We haven't had any tests done now. The drs wouldn't do anything until the two year mark and now we have hit it, kind of too scared in case it is bad news.
    • Rachylou1981
    • By Rachylou1981 20th Feb 17, 9:02 PM
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    Hi all

    Is anyone still around on this thread?

    I have been on the TTC thread for a year. Had a MMC in June last year but failed to become pregnant again. Now I am heading down the fertility treatment route due to being 36 and trying for over a year.

    Had bloods done. OH had SA.
    Having a laparoscopy in the very near future.

    Any stories about others who have had this procedure?
    Did it pick up anything?
    What comes next?
    • easilydistracted
    • By easilydistracted 26th Feb 17, 3:23 PM
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    Hi Rachy. How are you? I decided to pop over here too. I wonder if we need a new thread? I'm in limbo as there appears to be a bit of a communication breakdown between my GP and FC. My OH has an appointment on Monday at the GP for SA except we think they were ringing to cancel. Grrrr.
    • ellesbellesxxx
    • By ellesbellesxxx 26th Feb 17, 5:00 PM
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    Hi all,

    Rachy sorry to hear about your mmc xx

    I had a laparoscopy/hysteroscopy last June... had a five month wait but it revealed that alongside my depleted ovarian reserve, my tubes were twisted and slow. We had our IVF planning meeting 6 weeks later and started the treatment in August!
    A friend who had it found it a breeze whereas I was v sore after... take it easy after and lots of rest!
    Happy to answer any more questions about the procedure xx
    • Rachylou1981
    • By Rachylou1981 27th Feb 17, 9:11 PM
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    Hi EasilyDistracted, I am torn whether I still belong on the other thread. But not sure if anyone else is in this thread actively. Did your OH have his appointment today? Are you being referred for any tests yet?

    Thank you so much for responding EllesBelles. I have been extremely lucky to be seen so quickly. I am not sure what to expect from the actual procedure results but at this point I feel like something has to be wrong so hoping that it's an easy fix. Not sure what will happen if they find nothing so was hoping for some other people's stories. I have a week off work following the procedure which was the nurse's recommendation so plenty of time to rest and chill out. It will be a totally different month to what I am used to. My brain never switches off from TTC

    How is your IVF journey going? If you don't mind sharing
    • ellesbellesxxx
    • By ellesbellesxxx 28th Feb 17, 6:14 AM
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    Absolutely it could be a quick fix if they find something.. a friend had scar tissue which they cleared which led to her getting pregnant.
    At least a week off I would say! I had 10 days but was still bruised and sore. Lots of tlc!
    We were very lucky in that our IVF worked and I am 24 weeks pregnant with twins... however I remember all too well the pain of ttc and am very happy to answer any questions about our journey.
    • Rachylou1981
    • By Rachylou1981 28th Feb 17, 7:16 PM
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    Thanks Ellesbelles and massive congratulations

    I am meeting with my boss tomorrow and so I may have to warn her that I could be off longer. Fingers crossed because work is crap at the minute
    • easilydistracted
    • By easilydistracted 28th Feb 17, 7:36 PM
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    Congrats Elles Belles and thanks for looking out for us. [B]Rachylou[B] I've hit the point where I'm getting a little bitter about the other thread tbh which is not really realistic or healthy. Hope you're doing ok. Did your OHs work get sorted?

    My OHs appointment got cancelled but I went in today to chase FC referral and receptionist was having a long and loud conversation about what appointments they had free. So I nicked one on Thursday for him �� luckily were both off that day. Were meant to be painting the new loft room but its not actually finished.

    FC referral has now gone in to local clinic so fingers crossed. I went to an open day at a private place with good results but it was so depressingly commercial and miserable I don't want to go there. Noone talking to each other and all looking at the floor. :/ plus this woman was loudly greeting everyone by telling them they were special. I don't need to be spoken to like a 5 yo just cos my ovaries are wonky! Not a good experience all round!

    OH is not looking forward to producing at the GP and won't let me talk to anyone about it, probably cos I keep teasing him �� he is literally trying to tell me that's worse than an internal ultrasound. Hmmm I don't think so!! Sounds like you're having a smoother referral route. Have you checked out fertilityfriends?
    • Rachylou1981
    • By Rachylou1981 7th Mar 17, 6:13 PM
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    Hi EasilyDistracted, sorry to have gone awol. I have been away.

    Did you and OH get your appointments sorted? Can't believe your OH thinks SA is worse than an internal ultrasound . Ha. My OH produced at home and I took it to hospital for him.

    I have been quite shocked at the amount of people asking if we had done that part of the fertility testing and if it was normal (those who know about us TTC). Personally I would rather keep our results to ourselves and only talk about them if I want to, I think asking is quite rude. They were normal by the way, I don't mind opening up on here.

    I had my laparoscopy yesterday. It was a llllooooongg day. Very sore and tired and just chilling out at home for the week getting looked after. The nurse told me everything was normal but she was a bit cagey when talking about my right tube so unsure whether there was something she didn't understand/couldn't read in my notes or thought was best waiting for consultant appt. I go back in 4 weeks time.

    It was my fertile window at the weekend and we were away for an anniversary and we had to use protection - that was painful and very alien

    Hope all is well with you and anyone else that cares to join us here
    • ellesbellesxxx
    • By ellesbellesxxx 12th Jun 17, 7:47 AM
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    Hi, doesn't look like this thread gets used now.. think of you all. Xx
    I have written a message below in white so you don't have to read it if you don't want to

    just to let you know our twins arrived safely and are two weeks old.. we still can't believe that after everything we went through that they are finally here hope you are all doing ok xx
    • skaps
    • By skaps 8th Oct 17, 9:08 PM
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    Hi I just logged on and am sad to see the thread is no longer being used.
    Congrats ellesbelles. Hope all is good with everyone else too xxx
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