Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my partner to pay me for childcare?

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Former_MSE_Nick
Former_MSE_Nick Posts: 463 Forumite
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My partner and I split nursery costs 50/50 while we're both at work, but I only work part-time and look after our little one for the other two days a week. Obviously I don't get paid for those days - is it fair if I ask my other half to pay towards what it would cost to put them in nursery?
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  • pollyanna24
    pollyanna24 Posts: 4,370 Forumite
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    You want paying for looking after your own kid? Haha. They are going to feel really wanted when they grow up!
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    In what way are you partners ?
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  • liney
    liney Posts: 5,121 Forumite
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    No. If you want more money coming in, then work more hours and split the full childcare costs, as agreed.
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  • lazywife
    lazywife Posts: 593 Forumite
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    When you're off work, is it your money or your partners money paying for your home, bills etc.
    The pay off being able to afford to go part time is that you've enough money as a household to be comfortable. As another poster has said, you could go to work full time and keep the 50:50 split if it means that much to you.
  • lulu_92
    lulu_92 Posts: 2,758 Forumite
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    If you're partners surely it all goes into the same pot anyway so what would it matter?

    Plus why should you get paid to look after your own children?
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  • Jagraf
    Jagraf Posts: 2,462 Forumite
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    Crikey ! Erm I would say not on balance :eek::eek:
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  • GBNI
    GBNI Posts: 576 Forumite
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    These moral dilemmas get more and more ridiculous!
  • Serendipitious
    Serendipitious Posts: 6,446 Forumite
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    Well you could ask your other half, and then your other half can tell you what seems fair.

    But I'd bear in mind that your other half could well think it's only fair for both of you to work part-time.
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  • Petra_70
    Petra_70 Posts: 619 Forumite
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    I am really confuddled as to what the OP is even asking?

    So the OP (or the 'moneysaver' who is asking ;) ) wants her partner to PAY her to look after her OWN CHILD?

    Maybe her partner should ask her for money when he gives her a lift in the car too...

    Or maybe he should invoice her when he puts a shelf up? You know, for the labour....

    Is this some kind of wind-up?

    Serious question.
  • peachyprice
    peachyprice Posts: 22,346 Forumite
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    Really? Are they that bored at MSE Towers that this is the best fake scenario they could come up with?

    They just get more ridiculous.
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