Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my partner to pay me for childcare?

EssexHebridean

lizbec wrote: »

Firstly,why does everyone assume the person posing this dilemma is female?

Because the wording on the original question posed within the weekly email is as follows:

My partner and I split nursery costs on the three days a week I work. I look after our little one for the other two working days, which I'm not paid for. Should I ask my other half to pay me the daily rate he pays for nursery?

It's also a slightly different question to the way it's phrased here on the board.

duchy

Reading the question from the newsletter raises the question that if the OP doesn't have a childcare qualification - should they expect to be paid at the same rate or at a lower rate as technically they are less well qualified to care for the child !!

Also what are the tax implications of getting paid to look after the child as payment should be taxed as a second job.......and does she need to be registered as a childminder if she is getting paid ?

The whole thing is just silly.

his_missus

Seriously?


You are not a child minder, you are the parent.


Would you pay your partner for "babysitting" if you went out one night?

LameWolf

lulu_92 wrote: »

If you're partners surely it all goes into the same pot anyway so what would it matter?

Not necessarily; DH and I have separate accounts, because we were both well and truly taken to the cleaners by our respective exes, and so both just feel more comfortable keeping it separate.

But I agree with most posters, this is a very strange "dilemma", asking about being paid to look after your own child!

What's next week then - "Should I charge my DH for sex?":rotfl:

Mojisola

LameWolf wrote: »

But I agree with most posters, this is a very strange "dilemma", asking about being paid to look after your own child!

The real dilemma is probably one step back from this question.

If one partner is free to work all week and keeps the extra money they earn while the other is sacrificing a couple of days' work to do child care but is consequently financially struggling, then I can see how the thought of getting paid for childcare might have arisen.

The parents need to discuss money and possibly change how they share out the family's income.

Dperez

I think this is absolutely disgusting, why does it have to be about the money all the time?? If you don't like it you both work part time and share it out

newpuppy

OK, let's take this to its logical conclusion. You ask your partner to pay up, he refuses, there's an almighty bust-up. Where does the child finish up? Out with the rubbish?

This is not a dilemma. It's what we call selfishness.

TBagpuss

Mojisola wrote: »

The real dilemma is probably one step back from this question.

If one partner is free to work all week and keeps the extra money they earn while the other is sacrificing a couple of days' work to do child care but is consequently financially struggling, then I can see how the thought of getting paid for childcare might have arisen.

The parents need to discuss money and possibly change how they share out the family's income.

Exactly. This is why I thought the question was badly worded rather than stupid. It's not really about being 'paid' as if you were a child minder, it's about how you, as a couple, manage your finanaces and the care of your child.

I'm quite shocked that there are people attacking the OP yet not in anyway criticising the Partner who (by inference) neither helps with the child's care nor increases his contributions to household outgoigns

TBagpuss

janiebquick wrote: »

Think yourself lucky that your partner splits the childcare costs on the three days you are at work.

Seriously? Why? Why would you assume that where a child has two parents, one of those parents should be solely responsible for the work and cost of caring for that child?

tallgirld

You what?!!!!


So let me get this straight....Are you asking if you should be paid to look after YOUR OWN CHILD?


You are joking aren't you? Oh come onnnnnn you must be taking the mick!