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Re: Lodger...Wrong Choice? Help Please

sjane2008
sjane2008 Posts: 101 Forumite
in House buying, renting & selling
Hi there,

Not long ago I decided to rent out my spare room. Fortunately a friend recommended someone, however now i'm wondering about who i've chosen. The guy is quite young about 21 but within the first week a 1 night stand has stayed twice in a row, i've been worried about people comming over as they are always talking about sleeping/kissing with men & women in the same night...& this is generally without me asking!! And also I had agreed they could use my computer if urgently required but now theyre on it all the time and I have to throw them off. They were off work for long periods of time and using elec/gas etc as called in sick. Rather than helping me with the bills is starting to make me stress about who i have in the house and is costing me more.

I didn't do a contract just a piece of paper stating who to pay,when, 1 mths notice cna be shortened in exceptional circumstances and the person to take care and respect the property.

Can anyone offer any advice as I don't wish to end the contract but i feel like i'm being walked over slightly and would like to know how to handle it?

Thanks
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Comments

  • poppysarah
    poppysarah Posts: 11,522 Forumite
    Did you not lay down the ground rules?

    There was a good thread a while ago that basically said "set the ground rules you can live with and be happy"
    Get rid of this one and start again.

    I wouldn't want random people being bought into my home.
  • sjane2008
    sjane2008 Posts: 101 Forumite
    We had 'chats' and went out etc and I thought I had made myself clear, I said i was moe of a tv and wine person, worked weekends and said don't mind friends over but to be respected. Hadn't seen thread i have to admit. He had apologised for one night stands but now talks about 4 other women and I dont often want to hear it!! Think i have to have a sit down talk before I can evict them on that basis?
  • robin_banks
    robin_banks Posts: 15,778 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    Yuo havn't stated how old you are, tbh all you're doing is letting a room out to a 21 y/o who for want of a better term shags about a bit, why should you care about him staying out 2 nights in a row?.

    You certainly need to set ground rules use of your stuff though, that bit I do find unacceptable.
    "An arrogant and self-righteous Guardian reading tvv@t".

    !!!!!! is all that about?
  • Hugbubble
    Hugbubble Posts: 464 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 100 Posts Combo Breaker
    robin_banks wrote: »
    Yuo havn't stated how old you are, tbh all you're doing is letting a room out to a 21 y/o who for want of a better term shags about a bit, why should you care about him staying out 2 nights in a row?

    I think the OP meant that the lodger had brought someone back (well, 2 people) to the house 2 nights in a row...
  • neas
    neas Posts: 3,801 Forumite
    indeed. if i was a 21 year old i'd want to be able to sow me oats... without my landlord telling me i can't have a 'good' time.

    maybe the reason why you didnt mention it is because it is quite restrictive..

    Rent my room.. but you aint allowed to 'shag'.
  • shaven-monkey
    shaven-monkey Posts: 651 Forumite
    you don't need any basis to evict a lodger.
    you also don't need a written contract.
    CAB have a leaflet about your rights and such, if he bothers you tell him he's moving out. If he does anything at all that you find threatening, call the police and they'll provide him with accomodation while you change the locks.
    "Gold is the money of kings; silver is the money of gentlemen; barter is the money of peasants; but debt is the money of slaves." - Norm Franz
  • sjane2008
    sjane2008 Posts: 101 Forumite
    I think its fine to bring people back just don't him flauting it around, ie if i have people comming into the house early morning. When you share as i have done in the past you just keep it in your room, and don't flaunt it ie clothes on floor living room etc! As you said maybe ground rules as i dont mind them having people round, but this was twice on first week of moving in! x
  • stevetodd
    stevetodd Posts: 1,016 Forumite
    As shaven-monkey said above he is a lodger, i.e. not a tenant and does not enjoy the protection from the Housing Act that a tenant would. So it is very easy to get him out, just treat it as a learning experience before you get someone else and next time make sure you let them know what you expect from them. Or maybe you have learned that it is too much of a compromise to share your home.
  • poppysarah
    poppysarah Posts: 11,522 Forumite
    sjane2008 wrote: »
    I think its fine to bring people back

    Random unknown people in your home at night whilst you sleep? I assume he's going out and getting drunk to bring people back. It's a recipe for having stuff pinched, broken and your life disturbed.

    I think house rules should be clear and not wooly
    "I like a glass of wine and a quiet life" should have been "You'll not bring people back"
  • Strapped
    Strapped Posts: 8,158 Forumite
    Frankly, it doesn't sound like the two of you are a good "fit" so it might be better to ask him to leave and for you maybe to get an old lady to share with or something.
    They deem him their worst enemy who tells them the truth. -- Plato
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