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absolutebounder wrote: »Now you see that would make me feel highly valued because you can give so much to others. admitedly you probably dont get tyhanked that often but inside you know your true value to your kids I hope. the fact that social services dont help just shows they are horribly over valued since they cost the country a lot and often do sweet FAenjoy life, we only get one chance at it:)0
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absolutebounder wrote: »I like your posts as they are very informative. i think your story shows that the environment you are in has a lot to do with things and if you can change it you may well be on the way to a better life.enjoy life, we only get one chance at it:)0
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absolutebounder wrote: »Next question. Why do people often feel so undervalued in this world?
Because the world has changed it's all about me me me, especially in the working world where bosses are demanding more and more and if you don't like it there are enough unemployed to easily replace you. This leads to high staff turn over, untrained people doing the job leading to unhappy customers = feelings of undervalued. All of the above just my opinion by the way.0 -
Because the world has changed it's all about me me me, especially in the working world where bosses are demanding more and more and if you don't like it there are enough unemployed to easily replace you. This leads to high staff turn over, untrained people doing the job leading to unhappy customers = feelings of undervalued. All of the above just my opinion by the way.
I totally agree!
I used to work for a bank and they were forever on about targets. They wanted faster work and less mistakes all the time, even though faster usually means more mistakes.
When I went for my interview we had a maths test that lasted one and a half hours (all it said in the interview letter was that we were going to be doing an aptitude test). Eight of us turned up and one failed the maths test. The rest of us were taken on part time and I was dead chuffed.
A few years later they had scrapped this test and seemed to be taking on any old tom, !!!!!! or harry and believe me some of these people didn't have two brain cells to rub together! They also took on agency staff who didn't care what work they turned out because they were only temporary (Im not saying all agency staff are like this but the ones my bank took on definitely were!)
So, to sum up, we had less staff (because a lot of the staff who had been there for years and had experience had left) and the cheap staff they were taking on were quite slow and made lots of mistakes (as most people do when they are new). They then held meetings with us all in an accusing manner to find out why targets and quality of work had gone down!
We knew it was no use telling them because they didn't listen. This is definitely the way some businesses are run and why customers are so annoyed.0 -
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Because the world has changed it's all about me me me, especially in the working world where bosses are demanding more and more and if you don't like it there are enough unemployed to easily replace you. This leads to high staff turn over, untrained people doing the job leading to unhappy customers = feelings of undervalued. All of the above just my opinion by the way.I totally agree!
I used to work for a bank and they were forever on about targets. They wanted faster work and less mistakes all the time, even though faster usually means more mistakes.
When I went for my interview we had a maths test that lasted one and a half hours (all it said in the interview letter was that we were going to be doing an aptitude test). Eight of us turned up and one failed the maths test. The rest of us were taken on part time and I was dead chuffed.
A few years later they had scrapped this test and seemed to be taking on any old tom, !!!!!! or harry and believe me some of these people didn't have two brain cells to rub together! They also took on agency staff who didn't care what work they turned out because they were only temporary (Im not saying all agency staff are like this but the ones my bank took on definitely were!)
So, to sum up, we had less staff (because a lot of the staff who had been there for years and had experience had left) and the cheap staff they were taking on were quite slow and made lots of mistakes (as most people do when they are new). They then held meetings with us all in an accusing manner to find out why targets and quality of work had gone down!
We knew it was no use telling them because they didn't listen. This is definitely the way some businesses are run and why customers are so annoyed.
I agree that a lot of the quality in the workplace has gone down though not all. anyone dealing with local government or the civil service will realise the main recruiting ground these days is the chimp house at London Zoo. but what does it matter as your value to the company then goes up. If Sssss had no value to his company when he argued with the boss he would have been straight out but hes not.
Targets always go up because management in the UK is so poor it doesnt understand the concept behind them. I never bothered about them. I just focused on doing my best for the customer and sometimes I met the target and sometimes I didnt. If we didnt we had a boss that would come out and "help" us sell. The customers didnt like two people pressurising them so he never got us anywhere near target which gave one good excuses.
In todays workplace I would have thought there was every opportunity to see your self as valued. I put the question in because our values should come from within but so often we seek appreciation for our efforts from others ( who very often we dont evn value ourselves in the first place.) Now if that appreciation is not forthcoming from others we are left with nothing and feel undervalued or worthless. This is what is wrong with trying to be someone that you think other people will like or value.
Everyone should feel valued even if they are the only ones feeling it. Your value comes from within and you know what you do for others and hence what your true value is to your work, friends , family etc is.
I see BB fretting over money and the fact she doesnt work anymore but without her her OH would not be working either as he would have to look after the kids. BB it is you who allows OH to keep his job. That is true value.Who I am is not important. What I do is.0 -
absolutebounder wrote: »Quote:
This is what is wrong with trying to be someone that you think other people will like or value.
I spent years trying to be the person I thought my mum wanted to be. Until about 15 years ago I realised I could never be this perfect person. Plus her opinions were always changing so that something that was good today wasn't so good tomorrow, depending on her mood. So I thought "what the heck" Im going to be the person I think I should be and if she doesn't like it then its her problem and she'll have to deal with it.0 -
I spent years trying to be the person I thought my mum wanted to be. Until about 15 years ago I realised I could never be this perfect person. Plus her opinions were always changing so that something that was good today wasn't so good tomorrow, depending on her mood. So I thought "what the heck" Im going to be the person I think I should be and if she doesn't like it then its her problem and she'll have to deal with it.Who I am is not important. What I do is.0
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Something useful. this is what i often use to challenge thought patterns. its not the only thing but if you ask yourselves the questions in this link you may get a clearer picture of things.Who I am is not important. What I do is.0
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absolutebounder wrote: »Something useful. this is what i often use to challenge thought patterns. its not the only thing but if you ask yourselves the questions in this link you may get a clearer picture of things.
I have stopped taking my ADs too and I am feeling much more positive about the future. I am finding everyone here is an inspiration and it really helps.0
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