The depressively optimistic moneysaving thread

Sssssss

Your value comes from within and you know what you do for others and hence what your true value is to your work, friends , family etc is.


Hi AB, a very interesting reply, you're right I was thinking along the lines of being valued by others. But now you got me to think first I must look inside myself and say do I value myself, and the answer is a definite YES, now before my major depression I would have said NO. So yes I'm one of the lucky ones who has managed to overcome the major depression stage and been rewarded with a valuable lesson in life, i.e. what's important and what's not. You are right I stood up to my boss because I valued myself and said no this is wrong and you are not going to bully me. He is at it again, he now wants me a sign a second contract where by the company will get paid to train me even though he has clearly admitted there will be no training, it's just a scam to get more money. I'm the only one from the other 6 employees who has refused to sign this contract, he said I was not a team player. Well sorry but I am not going to be party to fraud.

I also spent two and a half hours at the police station this morning giving my statement against the complaint made by the karate teacher. It was hard going but I kept saying deep down and inside of me I'm right and what I did , I did to protect my son.

So again thank you, you have helped me change my mind set to start thinking all good things must first come from within yourself and after we can seek approval of others if we still feel the need.

beachbeth

Well done, Sssssss, for sticking to your guns. It must have been hard giving the statement, but you know you're doing the right thing. Good on you for not signing the contract at work too. Most people would have just signed and gone along with everyone else.:T

absolutebounder

Sssssss wrote: »

Your value comes from within and you know what you do for others and hence what your true value is to your work, friends , family etc is.


Hi AB, a very interesting reply, you're right I was thinking along the lines of being valued by others. But now you got me to think first I must look inside myself and say do I value myself, and the answer is a definite YES, now before my major depression I would have said NO. So yes I'm one of the lucky ones who has managed to overcome the major depression stage and been rewarded with a valuable lesson in life, i.e. what's important and what's not. You are right I stood up to my boss because I valued myself and said no this is wrong and you are not going to bully me. He is at it again, he now wants me a sign a second contract where by the company will get paid to train me even though he has clearly admitted there will be no training, it's just a scam to get more money. I'm the only one from the other 6 employees who has refused to sign this contract, he said I was not a team player. Well sorry but I am not going to be party to fraud.

Id negotiate. he wants contract signed so you want some of the extra money firm is getting ie pay rise.
Point out it has nothing to do with being a team player. in fact ask him what that means and when he has told you just say something like "that sounds more like a sheep to me"
say you dont like fraud if all else fails. Or say you will only sign in exchange for training.
yes strength always comes from within (a good martial arts teacher knows that so yours might be a push over)

absolutebounder

Im going to be away for a couple of days getting married on Friday. So while I am gone make sure you behave yourselves:rotfl:
Just remember there is always more than one option and every viewpoint or thought can be challenged. as shown in my link above So if you are feeling low keep challenging the thought until it gets to a more positive state. it seems Sssss and space donkey have the idea.
Strength does not ultimately come from others but from within. put bluntly it is your choice as to whether you let life dump on you from a great height.

Sazbo

absolutebounder wrote: »

Im going to be away for a couple of days getting married on Friday.

I had wondered why you weren't spending quite so much time on here recently;):D Congratulations to you both and all the very best for the big day! :beer:
Sazzy x

beachbeth

I had assumed you were already married for some reason!

Congratulations! Hope everything goes smoothly. Are you having a honeymoon?

absolutebounder

beachbeth wrote: »

I had assumed you were already married for some reason!

Congratulations! Hope everything goes smoothly. Are you having a honeymoon?

Yes going to kenya on 4th of may for two weeks. OH spends a lot of time on MSE and found a very cheap deal. Only thing is I feel like a pin cushion with all the injections. still you never know i might get eaten by a lion or something which may please a few people:rotfl:

I had wondered why you weren't spending quite so much time on here recently;):D Congratulations to you both and all the very best for the big day! :beer:
Sazzy x

thanks sazzy. isnt it time you and the badge got hitched:D

Sazbo

absolutebounder wrote: »

thanks sazzy. isnt it time you and the badge got hitched:D

lol I think he [STRIKE]values his sanity[/STRIKE] is far too sensible to ever consider doing that! But I guess we'll have to wait and see:D

Sx

Sssssss

absolutebounder wrote: »

Im going to be away for a couple of days getting married on Friday. So while I am gone make sure you behave yourselves:rotfl:

OMG the poor woman does she know what she's doing just kidding hope all goes well on the day and have a great honeymoon.

tattycath

Congratulations A B

on your forthcoming nuptials... regarding your other thread... I hope there is s*x after marriage-we're hoping to get married later this year or early next.