The depressively optimistic moneysaving thread

absolutebounder

beachbeth wrote: »

Seems like we've been moved again. What is going on???

I dont know but I believe we have MSE andrea to thank. I prefer it up here as I dont think everyone is ready for the way some people post on DT much as I love the place.
Hopefully we will stay here but please everyone remember to observe the rules of the forum
if people do try to disrupt please dont rise to the bait.

Quasar

absolutebounder wrote: »

I dont know but I believe we have MSE andrea to thank. I prefer it up here as I dont think everyone is ready for the way some people post on DT much as I love the place.
Hopefully we will stay here but please everyone remember to observe the rules of the forum
if people do try to disrupt please dont rise to the bait.

:eek::eek: Whatever might you mean ab?

Ok, I know.

choille

Sorry to but in, but upbringing does play a crucial role in well being & I can actually see that because of the way you were treated as a child it has not been good for you.

Have you read any Alice Miller?

beachbeth wrote: »

But I didn't do the dinner, my OH did because I couldn't deal with it. Also, how I described how I felt at work was how I started feeling over a period of weeks and was gradual, so not a panic attack.

Thanks for your comments though - any advice anyone can give me is appreciated.



Have I given you the impression that I had a fairly, normal and happy life before my depression? I admit that it should have been but it wasn't.

My parents worked hard running their own business as I grew up with my siblings and didn't have much time for me. Funny thing is though that I don't resent this. This brought financial benefits in that I had the latest toys and we lived in a nice house and had nice things. However, my mum was a bit jeckyll and hyde and I didn't really know where I stood most of the time. I think this has contributed to my depression.

As a teenager I had many rows with my mum (my dad stayed in the background and just backed my mum up when needed, which upset me) and when I got my steady boyfriend (now my husband) you can't believe the relief I felt when I got to his house on a Saturday to spend the weekend with him. I could physically feel the tension leave my body once I got to his house. (At home I couldn't do right for doing wrong and couldn't relax.) His parents were lovely and didn't interfere with our plans at all.

Once we were married my parents caused a lot of grief about what we were doing and not doing. When I was pregnant with my first child (it was planned) her reaction was "What have you gone and done that for?"

This, of course, is my life in a very small nutshell! It was only when I was diagnosed with depression and, at the same time, my mum realised she couldn't bully my husband any more because he would stand up to her, that she started being a bit nicer to us.

alison99_2

I'm so glad to see the thread back here, I was/am too fragile to post on the DT forum at the moment so I could only read everyone's posts.
I don't know what triggers a bout of Depression, I was bobbing along happily just over a week ago and then BAM, it hit me for six again, it came from nowhere and I was scared that I would end up being sectioned again.
I wish I had a better understanding of why this happens to me, I had a brilliant childhood although I lost both my parents before I was 26, I have a huge family network that have always been there for one another, but suddenly I don't want to see them, I don't want to put on this happy face so they don't ask me too many questions.
I saw someone from the Crisis Team yesterday and a few changes were made in my treatment.
It would be so easy for me to give up, the temptation is huge, but I will battle on, because I know I will get better again.
I just wanted to thank AB too, for being on the other end of a pm when I needed him, thank you so much AB.

Sssssss

beachbeth wrote: »

But I didn't do the dinner, my OH did because I couldn't deal with it. Also, how I described how I felt at work was how I started feeling over a period of weeks and was gradual, so not a panic attack.

Thanks for your comments though - any advice anyone can give me is appreciated.

even better OH does the cooking you just get to enjoy it
Seriously the point I wanted to make was that you had people around, I shut myself off from all family and friends for over a whole year.

Sssssss

absolutebounder wrote: »

I dont know but I believe we have MSE andrea to thank. I prefer it up here as I dont think everyone is ready for the way some people post on DT much as I love the place.
Hopefully we will stay here but please everyone remember to observe the rules of the forum
if people do try to disrupt please dont rise to the bait.

*home sweet home* this could be a good sign for when I see the letting agent later today. Have a great day everyone. Sssssss.

absolutebounder

Sssssss wrote: »

even better OH does the cooking you just get to enjoy it
Seriously the point I wanted to make was that you had people around, I shut myself off from all family and friends for over a whole year.

Ha ha you are learning:rotfl:
There is always more than one side to a story. Even Illness has some benefits
Good luck with the rent boy:D

beachbeth

No, I haven't read any Alice Miller. What is it about?

Im glad we're back here on the health forum. I was a bit worried in the DT forum that at some point someone was going to jump in and upset everybody.

Good luck with the letting agent, Sssssss.

Sssssss

well got through the meeting ok, in fact I feel good about myself as I kept calm but did not back down. My opinion of this guy has changed he's not a t0sser but a real full of himself BIGGEST !!!!!! going. Good luck to him if that's how he wants to live his life, as long as he does the things we agreed in the meeting, if not as I reminded him he is NOT the owner of the house, who is only a phone call away.

absolutebounder

choille wrote: »

Sorry to but in, but upbringing does play a crucial role in well being & I can actually see that because of the way you were treated as a child it has not been good for you.

Have you read any Alice Miller?

Must admit i dont know any alice miller. more homework:rolleyes:
Childhood can certainly affect adulthood because our early life is one big learning experience and home life tends to be a large part of it. parents can really screw you up:rotfl:People with depressed parents seeem to have higher chance of becoming depressed themselves which has led to some psychologists trying to make a name for themselves by saying its genetic. However you arnt born depressed and people with parents on benefits are also more likely to claim in later life. Maybe I should try and find a benefit gene:rotfl:.
Parents are our greatest influence in early life and yes overbearing parents can cause depression if you let their influence rule your life.