MSE Parents Club Part 12

Glam - cut in half is right - it is the skin that can cause a seal - Krystal knows someone whose son choked to death on a whole grape.


AF - I will say what I do but I by no means have this sussed, it is just working for us ATM. Benjamin used to kick off the minute I headed for the door too.

I give him his bottle in my bed - he lays on my pillow for it and I cuddle in next to him singing sappy songs

Then we have a cuddle and I pick him up in a bedtime way (the kind of way that he will only let me hold him when he is shattered!) and carry him through to his room singing TT and kissing his face. I take him in, lay him down, say night night, keeping singing, then leave backwards...still facing him and blowing kisses. I close the door most of the way so he can't see me and keep singing, then I close the door slowly (he could be crying at this point, I sing louder!!)

If I think he has stood up I go back in and kiss him and say goodnight again and leave again.


First few nights took a while, it got better and better after that. If he cries I just keep singing louder and repeat the whole leaving process - he is usually shattered so it is just a matter of getting me out of the room and him laying down and relaxed.

At the moment I put Caitlyn down in the cot and lie on the bed with my back to her until she's settled... She knows I'm there but there's no interaction... I have no idea how I'm going to get her sleeping in Aimee's room without disturbing Aimee too much though...

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Glam - cut in half is right - it is the skin that can cause a seal - Krystal knows someone whose son choked to death on a whole grape.


AF - I will say what I do but I by no means have this sussed, it is just working for us ATM. Benjamin used to kick off the minute I headed for the door too.

I give him his bottle in my bed - he lays on my pillow for it and I cuddle in next to him singing sappy songs

Then we have a cuddle and I pick him up in a bedtime way (the kind of way that he will only let me hold him when he is shattered!) and carry him through to his room singing TT and kissing his face. I take him in, lay him down, say night night, keeping singing, then leave backwards...still facing him and blowing kisses. I close the door most of the way so he can't see me and keep singing, then I close the door slowly (he could be crying at this point, I sing louder!!)

If I think he has stood up I go back in and kiss him and say goodnight again and leave again.


First few nights took a while, it got better and better after that. If he cries I just keep singing louder and repeat the whole leaving process - he is usually shattered so it is just a matter of getting me out of the room and him laying down and relaxed.

thanks for that MFD - i will keep it up my sleeve and see how i can work it into what we are doing....

i am sure some nights i have laid LO down over 100 times cause she just keeps springing up.

aless02 wrote: »

Hmmm I can foresee running into a bit of a dilemma...

Going to the USA in July for my sister's wedding. Future BIL has a 6 yo son who he has custody of but gets lots of help raising from his mom, etc., so they are very used to the idea of babysitters and just being able to drop him off whenever it suits. Sis has made loads of mentions about various activities she wants to get up to while we're there, clearly thinking that we can just leave Finn with the mom or another similar babysitter...

Now I don't have a problem with babysitters (I mean, trust-wise), I just don't think he can be left for any length of time (and especially not at night)...but am I being silly? I feel like I don't have a problem leaving him but I'm worried he'll freak out and make hell for whoever's looking after him. Or is this normal to think that??

eta: because we've never left him before...or rather, the 1 time I did for 3 hrs it went very badly for all involved.

Since he'll only be six/seven months at the time I don't think it would be unreasonable to not want to leave him with people who even if you know them would be strangers to him and in a strange (to him) place. If you do want to be able to leave him, you would need to gradually build up to it.

money_maker wrote: »

Glam, why does it matter what OH thinks when its you that does the night time routine ??

If the other parent is being totally unreasonable and not having to deal with the consequences then that is a fair point but in general a parent shouldn't lose the right to have a say in things just because they aren't the one doing them.

hello all

just tuckin into a lovely buttery and cuppa T

how is everyone.

Tia glad all is well I was worried last nite x