MSE Parents Club Part 10

money_maker_3 · 3 February 2010 at 11:45AM

sorry, disappeared there, mum phoned

Busy enough day elle !! Take the rest this morning !! You will need it !

csh_2 · 3 February 2010 at 11:48AM

weezl74 wrote: »

YES! great point

It also made me feel like I couldn't justify being the key feeder or to sometimes take fergus away from a big group and just feed to him and chat gently to him.

MIL said: Oh well since he's not BF I can do the bottles this weekend

I dumbly nodded and then watched her hold the bottle with the airflow hole in the wrong place every feed and then get painful trapped wind.

I also ended up making guests cups of tea and chocolate brownies while they bottle fed fergus. Whilst desperately wanting it to be the other way round but feeling I couldn't justify it.

When its your baby chick, you don't have to justify it! No-one other than me or OH feed Kieren til he was about 2 mths old, even then its only been about 3 times. Twice MIL and once my Mum.

Anyone asking if they could feed him was just told no. Feeding still has to be established even when FF. Kieren still prefers me feeding him and feeds the best when I have him

SusanC_2 · 3 February 2010 at 11:50AM

weezl74 wrote: »

It also made me feel like I couldn't justify being the key feeder or to sometimes take fergus away from a big group and just feed to him and chat gently to him.

MIL said: Oh well since he's not BF I can do the bottles this weekend

I dumbly nodded and then watched her hold the bottle with the airflow hole in the wrong place every feed and then get painful trapped wind.

I also ended up making guests cups of tea and chocolate brownies while they bottle fed fergus. Whilst desperately wanting it to be the other way round but feeling I couldn't justify it.

I wonder if it's possible to find any research on bottle feeding and attachment to support you in limiting feeders with Kester? (Because if you can say, "Research has shown that... it better." then it might make it easier to do.)

And my friends thought I was a bit weird because I stayed at home by myself and fed Alice. They breastfed too but would just go out and about everywhere and just breastfeed while chatting away to other people. I wanted the feeding environment to be as calm and free from distrctions as possible to ensure that Alice fed well and I can see that just because you are not breast feeding doesn't mean you won't want that (although maybe not to my extreme) too.

Millie's_Mum · 3 February 2010 at 11:53AM

WEEZL & SusanC Thankyou, your thoughts are a great help with this, what you said about encouraging people to FF in a way which is similar to BF, so mainly one person to do it, skin to skin etc.

And if it was an Inclusive group (the phrase I'm currently using with them, they love the word inclusive lol) then perhaps it would be clearer that we all are just doing our best and working out what that is and that no one has failed.

I was thinking that there are BF people who decide to wean baby on to FF when they go back to work and if we had some FF mothers there too they could help with that, the BF mothers could help the FF mothers with talking/encouraging how much time is spent one on one and hopefully (in an ideal world) we could have a mutually supportive group where BF and FF can rub along happily together.

csh_2 · 3 February 2010 at 12:00PM

emlou2009 wrote: »

My boss rang to ask what hours I can do Thursday, and said she's put me down for unpaid for yesterday and will put me down for overtime on Thursday - WHY? That means I've now lost 25% off this months bonus as well as last month, and in total £100 off my yearly £250 sickness bonus, at this rate I may as well write the whole thing off! Seth's poop is very expensive at the moment

Em, meant to say last night. Write a letter to payroll and give a copy to your boss detailing which days you want to class as Emergency parental leave. Often a boss won't have a full understanding of the law with things like this and communications between you, boss and HR become muddled. If you write it out clearly then you can appeal any decision about loosing your bonus.

eta: how is poo today?

csh_2 · 3 February 2010 at 12:02PM

How very strange! A car just pulled up at the bottom of my driveway, opened one of the blue bins, saw it had been emptied and drove off. Weird!
Must be someone from the council checking up on the binmen

feelinggood_2 · 3 February 2010 at 12:07PM

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

Feelie I think the instructions being on the tin is neither here nor there, I'm sure you read an awful lot of 'instructions' on BF before you had Toby, it didn't turn out to really follow the 'instructions' did it?

I'm sorry if you felt my comment was hurtful, it wasn't meant to be, and I was grateful for the replies that highlighted what help FF Mums need. I apologise for upsetting you, but feel that comment was deliberately said to hurt me, so I'll withdraw from the argument.

SusanC_2 · 3 February 2010 at 12:09PM

csh wrote: »

How very strange! A car just pulled up at the bottom of my driveway, opened one of the blue bins, saw it had been emptied and drove off. Weird!
Must be someone from the council cheking up on the binmen

Did they put anything in it?

Millie's_Mum · 3 February 2010 at 12:10PM

feelinggood wrote: »

I'm sorry if you felt my comment was hurtful, it wasn't meant to be, and I was grateful for the replies that highlighted what help FF Mums need. I apologise for upsetting you, but feel that comment was deliberately said to hurt me, so I'll withdraw from the argument.

I'm sorry Feelie I genuinely didn't mean to upset you but I did feel that your comment was hurtful to the FF mums on here and I wanted you to see their point of view, please don't go I didn't mean to hurt you.

It wasn't deliberately said to hurt you, i was just clumsily trying to say that its not always that straightforward

csh_2 · 3 February 2010 at 12:11PM

SusanC wrote: »

Did they put anything in it?

No! Had a nose in then got back in the car and away! Not that I'm window watching or anything lol

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