How often do you chat to your grown up children?

I think from the grown up childs view point this is hugely affected by age and health of the parent.

I've always phoned a few times a week to keep in touch but now we phone daily at about the same time everyday. If I don't feel up to calling my husband phones my parents (his in-laws). Both my folks are poorly, and get a bit anxious plus I like talking to them most of the time. Calls can be as simple/quick as ; just checking all is ok? to a full conversation.

If we are away for a week I make sure they know we wont be phoning but that they can ring mobile in emergency. When one of them has a particularly poorly spell we may find we ring 2-4 times a day, just to 'be there' but also to check meds taken, if help is needed etc.

Whilst my husbands Mum was alive he would phone her most days.

I still send postcards home anytime we are either away for a couple of nights or even somewhere new for a visit that might be just down the road. Daft but if it makes them happy it's not a hardship to scribble something whilst having a cuppa.

They return the calls when its one of us who is not so well (we are all poorly one way or another) and frequently check my husband (in his 50's) was warm enough, had eaten his tea, did he need anything etc when i am in hospital

We are childless (not by choice) and whilst wanting a phonecall/postcard when a pensioner is not to us a valid reason to have kids, I think it would have been nice.

I think the appropriate frequency of calls depends very much on the family, the needs and what you all decide will be your routine or lack of one. There isn't a right answer. But if someone is living alone and desperate for the phone to ring I really don't see a 5 minute call as too much to ask. (Unless there has been abusive relationship/damage etc)

I speak to my mother once a week. It's a little different to most family dynamics as she has BPD so I limit the time I will allocate to call her. I was no contact for quite some time but limited contact seems to work for both of us.

My brother no longer talks to her at all (there were periods where her behaviour was terrible and he decided that having a relationship with her was just not worth it) I support him in this.

I appreciate my mother would love for burned bridges to be mended but the BPD makes her downplay her behaviour over the years. its a catch 22 the BPD makes her behaviour challenging but its also a mental health condition over which she has little control which makes you feel guilty for not supporting her.

Child here! 42, female. I live 15 miles from parents. Mother phones me perhaps once in a blue moon (say every 10/12 weeks), and will text or Facebook message me every couple of weeks. We meet up in person (either I go to them, or have a family meal in town local to them) approx 9 times a year (this includes xmas time and bday gift exchange.
This, for me, is more than sufficient contact.

I have two daughters (both married), my husband has one son and two daughters, so we are a step-family. I speak to my girls regularly (about once a fortnight on the phone) plus txt messages in between. My husband also has regular chats with them. He speaks to his son every week but hardly ever speaks to his daughters.They both live locally, but never ring him. He used to contact them regularly but has got to the stage where he says he's not doing it anymore. We saw both his daughters at a family party and one of them promised to ring and arrange for us to go out for a meal - nine months later - no call. It's quite sad as he's had some health issues recently and they have no idea. I used to ring them regularly but getting nothing back from them, I'm afraid I've stopped as well. Family life is busy (we all work full time) but I have told his girls that they've only got one dad and they'll be sorry when he's not around. I still miss my dad