How often do you chat to your grown up children?

cheeky-peach

My husband and I live away from 'home' though my family are a bit closer at 1hr30 mins away. I speak to my mother most days via text and on the phone a few times a week. We also have a family WhatsApp group with my sister which is used most days with pictures etc.

My husband calls his mum every so often but it'll usually be "oh I haven't spoken to Mum in a while, i'll give her a call" rather than a scheduled call. My personal experience is that boys tend to have less contact but obviously that depends on the boy and personal circumstances.

Though we are expecting a baby in December and I was first hoping for a girl as my first thought was "A daughter is for life but a son is a son until he finds a wife" which is a old saying and not strictly true of course!

onomatopoeia99

As a grown up offspring (I got told off on here for referring to an adult as a "child" when writing of the relationship with a parent ), I call my parents once a week. Given that my father is well past 80 and has some serious health problems that cannot be cured I do try to make sure I don't miss a week even when I'm in desperate need of shutting the world out.

Couldn't imagine calling / texting / whatsapp daily :eek:. Well, whatsapp would need them to get smartphones, so that's not happening.

LandyAndy

My sons are 23 and 25 and both postgraduate students. Ever since they went to university we have had a video call with them on a Sunday. Not absolutely every Sunday but most. I have a phone conversation with my mother on Sunday evening.

hazyjo

In reverse - I speak with my mum nearly every day. Don't ring if it's got too late and I've not noticed, or if one of us is out, but we do speak most days. Didn't speak Sat, but was on the phone for 58 minutes last night lol.


I'm 49. She's 74.
PS Less than 30 miles away. Prob see her once a month-ish.

dan958

Will whatsapp my mum every couple of days, we generally just share the yellow sticker deals we got at supermarkets, and the meals we have made

I will also see my parents and sister on the weekend as we generally got round their for a movie night.

littlemonkeywolf

Phone my dad most evenings on the way home from work to check up on him and see him once a week. Live an hour away from him and he cant reply to texts but can read them!
My mum I can go months without contact and even them its only a happy birthday/mother day text and will see her usually twice a year max.

BookmobileBadGirl

I am 32 - I go home every other month or so, phone once a fortnight or so, but WhatsApp every other day

Older brother is 34 he has two children and lives in the same town as my parents and pops round pretty much every day as our parents to the school pick ups.

Little brother is 26, I don’t think he has ever phoned our mother in his life, and he can go weeks without sending a WhatsApp

All families are different, if you would like more contact then talk to your sons. If you just think you should based on other people, ignore other people

JIL

I see my parents three times per week, they visit me twice a week, because it gets them out of their house, is their reason.. I then visit them at the weekend. I see my in laws usually on a Sunday and they come for dinner once a month.

My eldest texts and WhatsApp messages a few times a week and he comes for the weekend ever 6 to 8 weeks. Sometimes we go away for a holiday and he visits us, sometimes for a few days in Spain. Husband also goes to sports events with him.

The middle son lives with his girlfriend, he messages quite often. He messaged yesterday to tell me he had found a dog! Then again to tell me it had been reunited with its owners. We often go and visit, they visit us. They also came to see us when we were on holiday.

The youngest lives mostly at home, so see her most days.

mrgrtt123

Every day, it is important to tell my Mom what's going on with my life and to also ask her how was her day.

donny-gal

I think lads are different. We have one son, he lives in Surrey, we live in Yorkshire. I find times to talk to him via various non telephone methods. When he was at uni, I could see he was alive via Microsoft Messenger, you could see if someone was on line, and would "speak" to him st least once a week via that method. It is usually he and I who communicate the most, though when he does call I will pass him over to Dad. Now he is married with two kids, moved over to the Apple communications methods. FaceTime most weeks so we can see the kids and they can see us and know us. Apple Messenger if I am up early enough to catch him on his commute. He will telephone when walking home to or from the station, or from station to/from work, but talking into a telephone on a train is a no-no. We do see them face to face, but as we are retired we do most of the travelling, plus we use our touring caravan to stay near them to make visiting easier. We have a family What's App to share photos/videos and family communications. Distance is hard, but you have to find a way. I do feel a daughter would contact more often, but that is life.