Self help thread. I am a widow coping getting on with it

Elona wrote: »

DD's Dad used to say that he and his Mum were like swans "They mate for life" and I feel the same way.

I have a very silver large framed photo of two swans close together, on the wall where I am sitting now. I always felt like that, only had one mate the whole of my life and that is the way it will stay

Onwards and upwards today, am pleased with my daily food, keeping sweet treats on a low level but I still enjoy them. Sleeping well and going back into exercise after a few weeks, weather related, break. Its all about supplying the machinery with what it needs to run smoothly

Elona have you found the gown?

Wort......what a lovely brave and courageous way to commemorate your husband. I am sure he will be looking down and cheering you on. Yes it will be emotional for you but I am sure you will have a good time. How nice that you will have your sister with you. I am sure she will understand if you shed some tears.

Elona ....well done on the weight loss and upping the exercise. It is a nice sunny day here and I shall be going for a gentle stroll later. I might need to strap up my knee. I have been a bit stiff and sore in general and have been a bit lax on the exercise front so I need to get back into it.

Kitty. Your comments about the difficulties of having to do everything alone and how exhausted you feel really resonated with me. There just seems so much to do at times and sometimes I just feel so overwhelemd that I do nothing....

I did have a cleaner as you know but she had moved on. Rather than employ someone to come every week I was thinking of trying cleaning company. I think a blitz every so often would be enough. I am actually in the throes of another Marie Kondo style declutter. I still have far too much stuff.

My home looks nice and minimalist until you open cupboards.....:rotfl:
I think shedding some more will hopefully help me stay on top of things. It is a slow process though.

I am trying to get out more and am making a real effort to be more sociable. I am meeting one of the jolly dolly ladies tomorrow for a bite to eat and then the cinema.

The other big news is I have decided to go back to college. I shall be studying Complimentary Therapies. My course starts in two weeks. I am looking forward to it. It is one day a week so not too onerous. Something to add a bit of focus in my life.

Hope you are all well.

wort, booking that cruise will be one of the best things you have ever done, it will draw that invisible line and release your husband. I would take something to scatter, I mean petals perhaps. Your sister is being a rock and mine is a rock too, she rings me every other day. You will find that your relationship with your sister will get even stronger than it obviously is

I keep doing detours on my way back from the tip, always around my chosen location areas and I keep finding lovely areas in those areas. I am still looking but people are staying put for now. I had another fat fluffy white feather the other afternoon, after I came back from turning down a brand new and stunning bungalow (potentially problematic neighbour) and in the wrong orientation. I got that subtle unspoken agreement via the feather

LL

That dream does seem to be drawing a line and suggesting you need to look forward but must have been unsettling. You are right that you will always have him.

Older dd and sil are taking me to lunch on Sunday and got a bit of a shock when they realised how many places were already booked up.

Middle dd has just phoned to say that she and BF are taking me out tomorrow for lunch and to be ready by 11.30 a.m.

Cleaner came round this morning so the house is looking good and she helped me search awkward spaces for the christening dress and shawl. I also emptied the big chest of drawers in the hall just in case I had overlooked something but no luck.

Hugs to all