Thanks for helping - but please, I still need support

Herewegoagain

Sorry to hear of your troubles Mopeter, as said before, take a deep breath, then another,then another and so on. familly and a special friend are always there for you. We get so tired and bogged down by it all and think we are the only ones at times like this, but your not, if you feel you can't confide in anyone you know yet, remember we're all here for you and it will get easier, beleive it hon,ok.xxxx

Keeping_Motivated

Thats a good point someone made about a counsellor. Most colleges and universities have counsellors on site now and they are free and usually don't have long waiting lists. Make use of this facility its important you talk to someone if you are trying to protect the people you love and trying to cope alone.

So you now have 2 lines of communication, the samaritans and the uni counselling service. Get your self a little stronger with their help first then you have these amazing people on here to help you tackle the finances and get them back on track so you don't feel so out of control.

KM x

Tonylpool

Hi Mupteer,

Everyone is giving good advice and you are not alone, we are all friends here!

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your mum,but you have pulled together through that and it makes things like money seem very minor. You are feeling a number of mixed emotions at the minute and then suddenly practicality sets in, ie how will I pay the mortgage. The main thing is that you stay focused, get rest and plan a way forward with the aid of your family and the 1000s of friends you have on here. Can I just say that debt is not a respector of anyones class or status, so dont beat yourself up! Also, if a family member was in your position and asked for help,would you give it? - Well there you are then!!!!!

I hope by this time that you are getting some rest,please feel free to message me if you want! You have got some time to play with so lets get our heads togther after a good nights sleep and see what we can do for you!!!

Honey, I'm an accountant and still got into a mess!!!!

Take care and let me know if you need to chat!!

Tony x

smashedbooboo

Hi hun, i am so sorry to hear of your heartache, You know the money thing can be sorted with time. And you know you will get all the help with that on here. Please keep posting. If you feel you cant post on forum then feel free to PM one of us. You are not alone babe. Please only take the prescribed dose of your medication, NO MORE. Ok. Please try and speak to your family. It will help. If you are still awake and no one is about here then pop over to see us in the night owls. We are up fairly late. Please dont feel alone. You will always have someone here to help you. x x x x Big hugs

Mupeteer

I really wish I had friends like all of you on here that weren't only in cyber land.

ahs1982

I genuinely hope that everything works out alright for you.
There looks like there are lots of great suggestions on here.
Good luck!!!

smashedbooboo

Tony, thank you thats so good to see from a fairly new person on here. And welcome if its not already been said hun. x x x x x x x x x

Tonylpool

Well Mupeteer, I am a trained counsellor, if you need to chat, I'm happy to let you have my number! No pressure!!!!

coolcait

Hiya mupeteer

There's not really anything much I can add to all the lovely and practical advice people have given. It sounds like you've been hit by some of the most difficult things any of us have to deal with, so be gentle on yourself.

It's really sweet of you not to worry about burdening your family. But I'm sure that they would rather have the chance to support you through the difficulties. I'm guessing that they'd probably feel worse if they knew that you were struggling with it on your own, and would much rather you confided in them?

Whatever you decide to do, with regards to talking to your family, please, please take care of yourself. ((hug)) (I can't find out how to do those lovely cute 'hug' icons!:o )

poorandindenial

Mupeteer wrote: »

I really wish I had friends like all of you on here that weren't only in cyber land.

I know this is cyberland but we are also real live living and breathing people too, and we do still care that you are OK. We all have our own lives outside of here but here is where some of us share part of ourselves that we can't share openly in the outside world (no, not rubber wear or 'water sports', I am talking debt - lol)